Janice Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 My girlfriend has been out with a guy three times. He likes her a lot and while she has a number of concerns, is moving full steam ahead with him. I met him last night and didn't really like him. She asked me what I think of him but I haven't answered yet. She's very honest and open so I think whatever I tell her will go straight to him. I want to be honest with her, but a) don't want to ruin our friendship, b) don't want what I tell her to go to him, c) what if things work out between them and she then she drops me because she knows I don't like him? My reasons for not liking him are that I think he's trying much to hard to impress her and in my experience eventually that falls short. Also, she's still at the stage of being completely flattered by the attention (I guess who wouldn't be!). And most importantly I think that emotionally they are at very different places. Lastly I have to admit that maybe I'm a little envious that she has a boyfriend and I'm still searching! Any suggestions on how to respond to her? Link to post Share on other sites
cinnamonstix49 Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Janice-- I definitely think that you need to tell your friend how you feel about her boy friend. If you think that things are moving too fast and that she might get hurt or whatever the problem is, then she needs to know how you feel. Make sure you clearly state reasons for believing this though. If she is a real friend then she will at least consider your reasons, a real friend would never dump you for a guy. Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
fundamental Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Janice, I don't think there is much you can do--even with her concerns. If she asks you how you feel about the guy, then just be honest and explain your reasons for disliking him. Then tell her that you hope he turns out to be a good guy for her, if not then you will kick his @$$. Seriously, she should really listen to your concens. ***Lastly I have to admit that maybe I'm a little envious that she has a boyfriend and I'm still searching!*** Hmmmmmm...maybe you should concentrate on yourself because deserve some loving too fundamental fundamentally sound Link to post Share on other sites
beth1.8T Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 oh man i have a friend JUST like that. except he kind of ended up using her. but i just told her flat out...i said 'idk about this guy because he seems a lil iffy if ya know what i mean' hehe and she didnt listen, and ended up getting hurt. sometmes its the worst way to learn the lesson. but just tell her i think, and maybe try to fix her up with a guy that u think is better? Link to post Share on other sites
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