Unhappy

[youngandconfused]

I've been married for nearly 2 years, but we've been together for 6 years. Basically, we are like two friends living together. We've not had sex since before we were married. We get on really well - as friends. There is no sign of affection or intimacy. I don't know what to do because I don't feel like I want to even try and save the relationship. Recently, I had a clear opportunity to cheat. I didn't but the person was giving me attention that I hadn't had from my husband in years. We tell each other we love each other every day, but its like a routine. I do love him, but I'm not in love with him. We don't talk about our issues, like about the complete lack of sex, and I don't feel I can talk to him about the important stuff. We just exist in our home. But my family, and his family, are invested in this marriage. My parents paid for a very expensive wedding. Our mutual friends would all end up hating me and I just feel like I'd be letting everyone down. I don't know what to do Help please

[d'Arthez]

Have you thought of bringing things up with your husband? Chances are he is not happy either, and he does not know how to bring this up. Not communicating about key issues within the marriage tends to make things worse, and after a certain amount of time, it may feel as if it is impossible to raise key issues.

 

Marriage counseling may prove beneficial, even if it cannot save your marriage. It would be helpful for the both of you to understand why things have turned out this way. That can also help the both of you come to terms with a potential dissolution of your union - and greatly reduce the fall out in your (extended) families.