polish26 Posted May 21, 2012 Share Posted May 21, 2012 OK, so just the other night I was out for my friends birthday at a bar, and a very attractive friend of the birthday girl shows up. Now, I know we were all drunk and having a good time. My friend grabs and says "sit next to this girl, trust me on this one", so I do and we start talking and laughing and having drinks. A little later we were out on the dance floor, and I was enjoying myself for this first time since my break up that happened in March. The next thing I know we are kissing and grinding and kissing some more not caring who is watching. Well, eventually we all get cabs back to my place and a few friends go home and pass out. Her friend says she is going next door to sleep and that we should have a good night. From there we hopped on my couch and were facing each other and talking just continuing to enjoy our late night happiness. Eventually, she comes over to snuggle up and be more face to face, and suggests that we go upstairs (which I REALLY wanted to do) and I froze, but only because thanks to my ex I now have an STD I will NEVER be rid of, and I just don't have it in me to do that to someone else, even using protection because it can circumvent latex, and so I openly admitted what I had and how I had gotten it. She responded with "thank you for being honest"... Either way, we did end up going upstairs and getting in bed, and I tried to be a gentleman and make sure she was comfortable getting into one of my tshirts, and she said that I could watch her undress (and I wasn't going to turn that down lol) we jumped into bed and spoke for a while longer, and she asked me about my relationship, and I honestly didn't want to talk about it and said that it just didn't "work out" and we moved on to other topics from there. Eventually, she decided to snuggle up to me and that was a great feeling, and so we fell asleep with my arms wrapped around her. I woke up the following morning and saw that she was still in bed sleeping, so I rolled back over and put my arms around her, and she instantly warmed right back up and we just laid there for a bit longer until she felt like getting up. She then asked if we can watch a movie, while watching the movie she sat a little farther away which is fine lol because we both had morning breath and didn't want to kill each other, at least that was my take on it. I eventually went and brushed my teeth, and came back and she came over and snuggled up to me. To shorten the story a little bit, we ended up getting a ride back to our vehicles from the night before and we did this lean over the center console and hugged, and as she started to pull away I kissed her on the lips, and we exchanged two "pecks".... The rest of my day went by, and I had already asked her out to dinner the night before, because I do actually want to get to know this girl... She is BEAUTIFUL, fun, and smart.... Well, I sent her a text message while I was at work this evening saying "I had a great time with you last night, how has the rest of your day been?" to which she responded "thanks! I did too" and then I responded with "I hope I didn't freak you out last night, I'm pretty straight forward and I know I told you a lot of info about me lol" to which her last response was "that's a good quality" which I thought was little short so I stopped texting anymore.... I'm not sure what really happened, I probably screwed up my chances here because I admitted out of the gate that I carry this STD, and the whole old relationship deal, but can someone give me a little outside perspective here? I would really appreciate any type of advice on this situation because the dinner plans weren't really set in stone, because she wasn't sure what her work schedule would be like until Monday evening.... Should I still try and message her again tomorrow to see if she still wants to do dinner after getting her schedule? Or should I not try to get in touch with her at all tomorrow and wait until the following day? I'm sorry for the length, and I definitely don't want to sound desperate here lol, I just want to make sure that I don't let my own impatience get in the way of this opportunity (or now maybe lack there of) with this girl. Thanks to everyone in advance! Link to post Share on other sites
Author polish26 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Share Posted May 21, 2012 any one have any advice for me? Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted May 22, 2012 Share Posted May 22, 2012 I think it's great that you were honest with her, that's the mark of a man of integrity. If I'm honest, if I were in her position it would have worried me. I'd probably go away and think. I'd remember he was a really nice guy. I don't know what I'd do, it would depend how much I liked him. I would appreciate the fact that he was honest and respect him for that. I don't think you've got anything to lose by taking the initiative and pursuing this, but in a laid-back sort of way. Don't put pressure on her, just be warm, welcoming and the great guy you are. Make it clear you like her romantically and not just as a friend, so she knows where she stands on that front. I think you've just got to see how this pans out. If you really like her, you'll always regret never having tried. It's worth maintaining contact with her and letting a relationship develop over time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author polish26 Posted May 22, 2012 Author Share Posted May 22, 2012 Thank you for responding spiderowl! Honesty has been the one thing I can say I pride myself on... Also, everything that you just said has really helped, I will let her know my intentions but not put any pressure on her. I have taken the time to realize that the choice will always be hers, so far we had that night, and if that's all it pans out to be then it will still have been one great night Link to post Share on other sites
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