billion Posted May 21, 2012 Share Posted May 21, 2012 Hi everyone! I'm in my mid-thridies and have been living a LDR since the past year. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other quite a few times in the past year and everything has been great! We have plans to reunite later this fall but something is on my mind.... And I need your advice.. Before meeting him, I started studying full time at night while working full time during the day. This leaves very few (or none!) free times. I still have a full year of studies left. My boyfriend wants to move to my city so we can be together.. But I'm very afraid to have no time at all for him. I'm confused. Should we wait for me to be done with my studies to move together? Sould he move in anyways and at least we'll spend some moments together? Should I quit my studies and be free for our relationship?.. What to do? Your point of view is more than welcomed and will help my make the right decision. thanks a bunch! Link to post Share on other sites
ladyabstrused Posted May 21, 2012 Share Posted May 21, 2012 I think better to wait, finish your studies, and be more available for your relationship. I'd say avoid issues where you can. If he really loves you, he'd try to be patient, stick by you to get through this and make it by the time you finish studying. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 21, 2012 Share Posted May 21, 2012 Never, ever, EVER quit something constructive, practical and based on logic, for something emotional, romantic and based on the heart. Your studies are important. If he loves you, he will understand - and even encourage you. Don'r quit your studies. Relationships come and go. They do. studies and qualifications matter more in the long run. And just so's people understand, i would be saying this if the gender roles were reversed too. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ladyabstrused Posted May 21, 2012 Share Posted May 21, 2012 Never, ever, EVER quit something constructive, practical and based on logic, for something emotional, romantic and based on the heart. Though this was not what my..ex..used to say, I think the same as you do too. But I've been messed up in this area too much..however I realise that I still give the same opinion to others and that means I still feel the same way. But yet in my head I'm thinking what he used to make me feel. TaraMaiden's right, billion. Don't do that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author billion Posted May 25, 2012 Author Share Posted May 25, 2012 Thank you! I just told my man that we'd better wait until I finish my studies before reuniting.. Which will give us plenty of time to organize our reunion and enjoy more trips together.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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