sarahkm Posted May 21, 2012 Share Posted May 21, 2012 (edited) I never thought in a million years I would be involved in this type of situation. A coworker of mine for the past 1.5 years hit on me one night when we were out at a bar, and things got out of hand. Nothing has ever happened between us before, except I guess now I know for sure we were both attracted to each other. It happened about 2 or 3 times since the first night, no sex was involved, but there was alot of making out and other physical contact. This guy is engaged and have been with the fiancee for 10+ years, and engaged for the last 2 yrs. I feel bad and think it needs to stop, but when it's hard to control when there is alcohol involved. We work together, and I feel like this is going bad fast if we continue. He's 35, I'm 31. So I'm going to stop on my end, b/c I know I'm not innocent, but what motivates a person to cheat like this? Edited May 21, 2012 by sarahkm Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted May 22, 2012 Share Posted May 22, 2012 what motivates a person to cheat like this? Bad character. What motivates you to be some cheating a-hole's affair partner? Does his fiance know you're making out and having "other physical contact" with him? What motivates you to treat her like a piece of crap? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chloejade Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 Oh please do stop, I know its fun for you right now, but as the girlfriend or fiancee I can tell you it hurts so bad to be cheated on and I never want to put a person through that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 He's messed up, do you want to be messed up with him ? And also, in this economy you are willing to risk your job by getting involved with a coworker ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
theJakeFury Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 You're asking the wrong question. The real question is, why would you? Put yourself in his fiancé's position. What if your soon-to-be husband of 10+ years was fooling around with a coworker? Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 it's hard to control when there is alcohol involved. Then QUIT DRINKING around him. Period. Just make it a new rule for yourself. what motivates a person to cheat like this? It basically boils down to FEELING GOOD. It feels good to be desired. It feels good to be excited to see someone. It feels good to make out/have sex. It feels good to laugh with someone and escape from reality. Integrity is one of those things that matters most when it is hard to implement. It's easy to say "I am not the type who cheats." It's harder to walk away from someone who makes you FEEL GOOD. In your case, I would tell him you are done being more than friends with him. I would NOT go out with him after work or drink around him. I would limit your interactions at work to professional ones. It's hard - but it's the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 i never thought in a million years i would be involved in this type of situation. A coworker of mine for the past 1.5 years hit on me one night when we were out at a bar, and things got out of hand. Nothing has ever happened between us before, except i guess now i know for sure we were both attracted to each other. It happened about 2 or 3 times since the first night, no sex was involved, but there was alot of making out and other physical contact. This guy is engaged and have been with the fiancee for 10+ years, and engaged for the last 2 yrs. I feel bad and think it needs to stop, but when it's hard to control when there is alcohol involved. We work together, and i feel like this is going bad fast if we continue. He's 35, i'm 31. So i'm going to stop on my end, b/c i know i'm not innocent, but what motivates a person to cheat like this? a willing participant and lack of character! Link to post Share on other sites
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