Jayne085 Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 Ok so maybe the cheatee becomes the cheater?? Help. So I have recently broken up with my partner who was cheating on me. Then on one drunken night out I ended up hooking up with a mate. Problem is I also know he is sleeping with one of my work collegues/ sorta friend. Luckily it didnt go too far and then I was asked on a date. Feeling rejected from my last relationship and quite flattered by the offer I accepted. First though I checked with a few people his relationship status to which I got many replies of "well he is sleeping with xxx work collegue but its not official, just casual and he has slept with other girls since, they are not serious about each other just friends with benefits - go for it if all your after is a bit of fun" Then after an awesome night we ended up in bed together. Problem is a couple of people are aware we hooked up the first time and have expressed concerns that my collegue is going to get real hurt, that she real likes him and that Ive been out of order. I see that now and I will definately not meet up with him again. However now Im ridden with guilt and pretty much ****ting myself she will find out as people may tell her about the first timne, and she could easily make my life a misery (which she totally might). Do I keep quiet and pray she doesnt find out and take it as a huge lesson to myself not to mess with people unless they are 100% single, or do I tell her the truth and risk our work relationship, the guys friendship and my pride? I know Im in the wrong here but need some advice? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 (edited) the man is more to blame than u are; you weren't to know the full story but he knew it, i would not say a word, let it pass, but apologize if it all comes to light u didn't mean to upset anybody, not that the two of them are married, but just leave it to be forgotten co-workers gossipping and stirring it up would be cruel and hateful to the girl who is seemingly in love with him Edited May 23, 2012 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Professor X Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 You know her, you know him, he knows you and he knows her, she knows you and knows him, and the only 2 who don't sleep with each other in this triangle is you and her. It would have been best if you avoided this whole situation to begin with, but since you went up a head, if you plan on sleeping with the guy than you need to tell her and also, get tested for STDs, he's obviously a big player. Make sure you use protection. Best course of action IMO is to just get away from the guy, it's a Pandora box waiting to be opened. Link to post Share on other sites
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