Can love happen this quickly??

[Lisa]

I am 27 and met a guy my age last weekend through a friend. We completely hit it off so well, that I went to visit him (he lives in another city) this past weekend. We spent 3 straight days together and neither one of us can believe how crazy we are for eachother only knowing one another for just two weeks! I am just wondering if any of you think its nuts that two people can meet, and fall inlove within such a short period of time? I have never felt this way about anyone and neither has this guy! I feel as if I have been struck by a lightening bolt and I cant seem to understand that I have such feelings for a man I just met! Can two people fall inlove so fast? The problem is he lives in a different city (Luckily we are only a one hour flight apart). Can this work being apart?? Do I need a reality check about my feelings? Someone please tell me it is possible to fall inlove in just two weekends with someone?

[Tony T]

I can go to the mall and fall in love in a few minutes. Yes, you can absolutely fall madly in love with someone in two or three days.

 

However, that can be a serious problem. Falling in love is primarily a chemical event. When two people meet, they do what psychologists call "mirroring". basically behaving in a manner and saying the things that most likely will endear them to the object of their interest.

 

Falling in love quickly creates an illusion that this is the person of our dreams, when they could be our worst nightmare. There is simply no way of learning enough about a person or being around them in enough circumstances in a short amount of time to know if there will still be real love once the initial fireworks fizzle.

 

Getting to know someone gradually and observing their behavior in various situations; making sure their viewspoints on issues which are important to us are consistent; making sure there are commonalities which transcend the chemical and romantic components of the relationship...these are all things that take time.

 

Love is simply not nearly enough to sustain a relationship over a long period of time. I don't want to take the wind out of your sails and I absolutely want to encourage you to enjoy every golden moment of this time with your new love but do it with the full understanding of what this period really is all about and what can be ahead.

 

YOU ASK: "Can this work being apart??

 

Absolutely, if you talk often and see each other often. Otherwise, it's still an illusion in your mind and not based in reality. The only way anything can truly work over the long haul, however, is for both parties of the relationship to be proximate to each other.

 

THEN YOU ASK: "Do I need a reality check about my feelings?"

 

Nah, I think you are really in love. You may not be next week but you are now. Some might call it infatuation but it's the same basic feeling. There is no scientific way to know when infatuation stops and real love starts anyway. So let's just say you are in love.

 

YOUR REQUEST: "Someone please tell me it is possible to fall inlove in just two weekends with someone?"

 

Be happy to do that for you. It is possible to fall inlove in just two weekends with someone.