In Love with my ex husband

[sadinboston]

I STILL LOVE MY EX! Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

I am still very much in love with my ex. We broke up two years ago but find that I still crave him everyday and am happiest in his company.

 

Here's the situation.

 

We were together for seven years. Most of it very happy and very much in love. Many romantic times and grew to become not only husband and wife but best friends.

 

 

Alcoholisim runs in my ex's family and he began to drink more and develop a problem. Things got to the point where he was drinking during the day and really making a mess of his life. I tried to talk with him many times but to no avail. I had an affair with a much younger man who was everything my husband was not. Vibrant and full of life.

 

My husband found out and asked me to leave. We were divorced last year but today we spend a great deal of time together. We talk almost every day and question eachother regarding our where abouts. We travel together, take weekend trips but no sex. He says he just wants to be friends. Because i have felt so guilty for having an affair I have bent over backwards to make him happy. He knows how much I love him but he always says that he does not belive in relationships and wants to reamain single.

 

Neither one of us has found a new relationship.

 

I really love him and this has been such a painful experience for me. I did not realize how much I loved him till I lost him.

 

Should we have such a strong connection? Do you think he could ever be intimate with me again?

 

Should I cut off all contact to get him back? Have I ruined all sense of trust?

 

Can you just fall out of love with someone and never look back?

 

Help- I am always admitting my love to my ex but he continues to push me away. He knows how I feel but continues to keep me in his life. He say's that I am his best friend.

[Blackfoot324]

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You wrote: He say's that I am his best friend!

 

And after all this time, so sex, hear him. That is really the truth in what he wants.

Next time stay true your vows and give your man the option to get into treatment or leave!. Cheating is so nasty and disrespectful to your mate and without a doubt yourself. I feel, if you get to the point where you feel you are cheap and want to cheat, it is time to pray or go!

 

It may have been painful for you but instead of taking hold of him and working to get him into treatment, you cheated. You lost. You should take it as a lesson learned, move on and live your life. You deserve to be happy in a healthy relationship with some SEX! You are not getting it from your ex. Yes it will be harder because you hung on for so long but you must let go. Think, did you really love him? Not sure because you gave yourself to another man. You body and sexual organ should mean so much more to you than to share it with others that you are not married to. Or even just committed to.

 

You say that you did not realize how much I loved him till I lost him. That could just be that you were use to being with him. You should work hard to accept you may have devastated him by cheating. It is not the same for a lot of men. They cheat-we forgive and move on. We cheat-we are cursed and become vile and Ho's to them. They think oh it is what men do. That is life. He will never trust you and that is hard to deal with in a realationship for trust is so instrumental.

 

Should we have such a strong connection? Yes!

 

Do you think he could ever be intimate with me again? Possible but not likely but it will not last or be the same.

 

Should I cut off all contact to get him back? I would remain friends since that is good. You never know what will happen.

 

Have I ruined all sense of trust? Without a doubt.

 

Can you just fall out of love with someone and never look back? Yes. There are times when you should.

 

Help- I am always admitting my love to my ex but he continues to push me away. Stop that. If you are good friends, he only needs to hear that, sometimes. And trust that he knows it.

 

He knows how I feel but continues to keep me in his life. I think he is enjoying the control of that. No sex, good times and no relationship-keep he around, just in case-Not!! Too much time spent together. You need to take that control away from him. He does not get that.

 

Remain friends but get out explore and spend less time together. You should ease away slowy for he could become a problem if and when you become involved with someone else.

 

Good Luck.