digger Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 We met with our lawyers over property settlement. Heartbroken can't describe me. But as we sat there--I stared at her. Never took my eyes off her face. The first time she met eyes i lyp-synched "I love you" and she looked away with a sad expression on her face. I dont know...sad? Embarrased at all that was going on? A combination of the 2? I continued to look at her and about every 15 seconds she'd look at me for a second and glance away...looking oh so sad. After it was adjourned I caught her in the lot and all I got was "I dont love you anymore" "i dont want to be with you" "you just dont get it" etc etc. "i hate hurting you but i just cant be with you anymore". After 21 years in which 6 months ago she wrote on my birthday card "i want to whisk you away to a tropical island" et al. Then she nit picked things like "6 months ago you wouldnt get health insurance for you (me) and our daughter. How could i live with a guy like that? Its one thing after another--from huge to small stuff. You need to get on with your life and find someone else, is the statement that really hurts. Like she wants to leave no door open a crack. We were laughing on Xmas and now shes content to sit alone and "be by myself". Will it ever change?? Im a wreck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted June 25, 2004 Author Share Posted June 25, 2004 Actually I thot of a worse hurt. When I told her--"i cant see myself with anyone else, can you?" And she said "yes i can"..after 21 yrs and me the only guy shes ever been 'with', if you catch my drift. Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted June 25, 2004 Author Share Posted June 25, 2004 oh yeah and..."i think the best thing for you to do would be to move 1000 miles away". (I guess im writing to myself here) Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 I am so sorry to read these posts! How mean! Maybe she is trying to make sure you are mad and upset so that you are not in love with her. What was the reason for the divorce? She is being so mean, I hope someday she thinks back and remembers those hurtful words she said to you and feels HORRIBLE about it. Divorce sucks! Had one at 21 myself. You had 21 years with her, how could she be so mean? i lyp-synched "I love you" and she looked away with a sad expression on her face. I dont know...sad? Embarrased at all that was going on? A combination of the 2? I continued to look at her and about every 15 seconds she'd look at me for a second and glance away...looking oh so sad. Maybe next time you are in this situation - lyp-synch "b*&ch" j/k but I think that she hates the fact that you are hurting and is trying not to give you false hope. I would go to counceling as well to try to move-on. For yourself and self-worth. I hope things get better for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted June 25, 2004 Author Share Posted June 25, 2004 i could give you 100 reasons why the divorce. Every day its a new one. She says she decided in Mid December when she asked me to go for a drink, i said I CANT I HAVE TO GO SHOPPING--ITS MY LAST CHANCE TO DO IT. She thot I was having an affair with a workmate--and after THAT GIRL left she followed her thru the snow losing her. Meanwhile I was out buying her xmas present. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Sounds like a looney tunes kinda wife! Once the divorce is final, you'll be able to breathe again! Keep posting and letting us all know how you're doing! Link to post Share on other sites
Wolvesbaned Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Goodness digger... sounds like you're going through an awful lot. Please keep posting... you will get through this! Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted June 25, 2004 Author Share Posted June 25, 2004 WELL WELL WELL..AFTER 4 MOTNHS OF "I DONT LOVE YOU ANYMORE"...THIS MORNING I GOT "I LOVE YOU LIKE A BROTHER" OUT OF HER? wtf Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Sounds like time for a visit to No Contact Land. Link to post Share on other sites
Wolvesbaned Posted June 26, 2004 Share Posted June 26, 2004 digger, you really need to stop talking to her. She does NOT have a logical answer to give you with regards to your divorce. Everytime you talk to her it just gives her more opportunity to hurt you --and that's what she's been doing. Please stop this. She has nothing positive to say to you. Take this time to step back and reflect on your own. It'll do you some good! Keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
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