Someone on here believes that I can and will get a woman in the real world

[Lil1]

Oh brother! This just takes the wind outta my sail Ross. Are my words/efforts useless to you?

 

I never said no one has been engaged with helping me with my self esteem. I said I can't remember if anyone has done or not.

 

 

YEP. Wasted words. SMH:(. I wish you the best Ross.

[Ross MwcFan]

YEP. Wasted words. SMH:(. I wish you the best Ross.

 

Is this because I didn't get to your other post? Sorry, but I was drunk so I guess I forgot about replying to it.

[Ross MwcFan]

Oh. Ok. Ha! well, since we are being honest:rolleyes: , I think you like pity. It somehow gives your issues (which hold you back) validation. I know it's not a pleasant thing to say and I'm curious about your reaction to that statement. Please do not take it as me trying to disparage you, I just really want you to think about it...

 

Okay, I think I like pity, and I think I was feeling pity last night, somehow induldging in it makes me feel better. What I ment was, was that I don't think I made this topic for the purpose of having a pity party, I just thought it would make an interesting topic.

 

Also, another reason for why I sometimes go into this 'no women want me' thing on here is to offload.

 

I'm not really sure what to think as far as the validation thing is concerned.

 

We all see ourselves differently from how others see us. Take my compliment as that, a compliment:) Perhaps this is a good starting point Ross. Accept unbiased third party compliments as genuine and believe you are deserving of them.

 

I'll try.

 

Oh brother! This just takes the wind outta my sail Ross. Are my words/efforts useless to you?

 

What do you mean? Are you saying that you had been trying to help me with my self esteem before I posted how I can't remember if anyone has tried helping me with my self esteem?

 

YES! You are very attractive Ross. Believe her and KNOW you are!

 

Thanks.

 

A caring attractive stud! I'd say that's a damn good start Ross!!!

 

I guess, lol.

 

I see a lot of donts, cants and nots from you. Think about your words Ross, they influence the way you see yourself. If you want to overcome any obstacles/issues you have in life you must begin with positive thoughts and tell yourself you can, you will, and you will overcome. Think about the following:

 

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” - Mahatma Gandhi

 

That sounds like good advice. I had actually been trying to be more positive, but I dunno, I'm not sure if it worked, and then I just kinda forgot about it. I'll try again though.

 

How do you value yourself Ross? What destiny would you like to make for yourself? You and only you have power over this!

 

What do you mean by how I value myself? What things I think make me have worth?

 

The destiny I would like to make for myself is to have a job I really enjoy, to have my own place, to be living in an area where I feel really happpy, and I guess to be in a relationship.

[Eclypse]

If you never ask anyone out, then you will remain as you are now until the day you die. It's as simple as that. You think you will never get a woman but that's because you never try. Nothing in life falls into your lap magically. So you cant really lament not having any success if you have got 0 dates from asking 0 women out.

[Ross MwcFan]

If you never ask anyone out, then you will remain as you are now until the day you die. It's as simple as that. You think you will never get a woman but that's because you never try. Nothing in life falls into your lap magically. So you cant really lament not having any success if you have got 0 dates from asking 0 women out.

 

I used to ask them out but I always got rejected.

[Eclypse]

I used to ask them out but I always got rejected.

 

Yeah but you've stopped now haven't you? I didn't stop until I got a gf. Is a gf what you want? You can't give up, or you'll never succeed.