Did I look attractive when I was kid/teenager?

[pteromom]

I don't have any videos at the moment, but I gues I could make one. I've got no idea what I should say in it though.

 

Don't worry about it - I just thought if there was any video where you are at a friend's house or a party or something, just so I could get an idea of how you go through the world...

[Ross MwcFan]

Don't worry about it - I just thought if there was any video where you are at a friend's house or a party or something, just so I could get an idea of how you go through the world...

 

I don't have any of those kinds of videos, but I've just made one where I'm talking, should I bother giving a link to it?

[FitChick]

Ross, there is nothing physically wrong with you. If you were ugly it would mean you had features that were out of proportion to each other. There are plenty of uglier men with wives and girlfriends.

 

The reason kids called you ugly is because they sensed your low self-esteem and vulnerability. Kids are cruel. If you had beaten them up, they would have backed off. Instead you chose to believe them. That was just their opinion. There are other people with other opinions that are equally valid -- those of us on here -- yet you chose them and not us. Choose again.

 

Read my signature. Then read it again.

[CarrieT]

The original question was, "Did I look attractive when I was a kid...."

 

Ross, I think you are applying adult standards of attractive which don't work. You were a kid. You looked like a kid. Kids aren't "attractive" the way adults are.

 

You look fine and normal and need to stop obsessing about your looks.

 

Seriously.

[Anela]

You aren't ugly, Ross.

[Ross MwcFan]

You aren't ugly, Ross.

 

Thanks, Anela.

[OhHey]

I have to give you credit, Ross, in that you can post all these pics of yourself and have that avatar to look at all the time.

 

I wish I could get to that stage.

 

Just two days ago I was at the DMV had to show my drivers license.....I place my thumb over the picture on it so I do not mistakingly see myself.

 

To this day I cannot even look at my license photo....or any.

[silvermane187]

Look at those cold, cold, soulless ginger eyes. I won't be able to sleep tonight.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Sissy Spacek (young) looked a little like you. I think she is gorgeous.

 

http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTKIgwo-BuPvg2ZDeBvR61tIGL2oPmEk9hVJPhrethVRSYxrht_

 

But bag the idea that you are supposed to date a woman who looks like you, unless that is who you are attracted to.

[pink_sugar]

I was thinkng, that the only kind of women I could get would be ones who resemble me. Since everyone is supposed to attract people who look like them.

 

You'd think, but not true. I've often had people tell me how lucky my hubby is to have me because I'm so attractive and the reality is that no one has ever hit on him except for once in his life. He's attractive to me, but not defined by society. I actually read somewhere couples are happier that way, perhaps because you don't have to worry about infidelity and jealousy as much versus as if your partner was a hot stud.

[Coffee20]

you have definitely nice eyes and hair

[Ross MwcFan]

Look at those cold, cold, soulless ginger eyes. I won't be able to sleep tonight.

 

Not sure what you mean.

[Ross MwcFan]

Sissy Spacek (young) looked a little like you. I think she is gorgeous.

 

http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTKIgwo-BuPvg2ZDeBvR61tIGL2oPmEk9hVJPhrethVRSYxrht_

 

But bag the idea that you are supposed to date a woman who looks like you, unless that is who you are attracted to.

 

I don't find her attractive at all.

[Ross MwcFan]

you have definitely nice eyes and hair

 

Thanks coffe.

 

Thanks to everyone else who has complemented me too.

[pteromom]

Yeah, but they've always either been too old, I haven't found them attractive, or they've had kids. And I can't see that any of them would still like me after meeting me offline.

 

Ok - so don't talk to women who are too old.

 

Don't talk to women you don't find the least bit attractive.

 

Don't talk to women with kids.

 

There are still a lot of women left right? So the only thing stopping you from talking to them is that you think they won't like you. HOW DO YOU KNOW? You have plenty of women - attractive women! - on here telling you that there is nothing wrong with you, and that you aren't ugly. Why is it so hard to believe us?

 

I am obviously married, have a child, and am too old (LOL!), but if you want to PM me and pretend I am a girl you are interested in, I can talk to you and give you feedback on your approach.

 

You gotta talk to women. That's the only way you are going to find one. It has nothing to do with your looks. The only thing in your way is your own insecurity.

[Ross MwcFan]

Ok - so don't talk to women who are too old.

 

Don't talk to women you don't find the least bit attractive.

 

Don't talk to women with kids.

 

There are still a lot of women left right? So the only thing stopping you from talking to them is that you think they won't like you. HOW DO YOU KNOW? You have plenty of women - attractive women! - on here telling you that there is nothing wrong with you, and that you aren't ugly. Why is it so hard to believe us?

 

I am obviously married, have a child, and am too old (LOL!), but if you want to PM me and pretend I am a girl you are interested in, I can talk to you and give you feedback on your approach.

 

You gotta talk to women. That's the only way you are going to find one. It has nothing to do with your looks. The only thing in your way is your own insecurity.

 

Thanks, but I don't really think there's any need for that. I think my approach is probably good enough (at least online), since I have attrated some women online, and I've even had a 'thing' or a relatinship with a few.

 

I don't have any kind of approach offline (I never bother with approaching), but I used to when I was much younger, and I always got rejected, and quite a few times I'd be called ugly too.

[matte123]

Do you have friends/family who would be willing to set you up on blind dates? Maybe that could lead to something? You are not ugly and you look adorable as a kid.

[DuchessKaye]

Wow! Ross! Soooo cute! I just wanna squeeze you!

[Ross MwcFan]

Wow! Ross! Soooo cute! I just wanna squeeze you!

 

Thanks honey bun.

[RiverRunning]

I think you're attractive, Ross. Clear complexion...pale skin...I'm a fan of blond hair or red hair, too. I am sorry you've had so many rejections and that people were callous enough to actually call you ugly. Whatever happened to, "I have a boyfriend," "I don't think it would work out," "I'm sorry, I'm not interested"?

 

As a child, I think you were adorable! Look at those freckles. Aww.

 

Please keep your head up. No, you're not a supermodel but you're not a troll walking out of a cave. You're pretty average, just like the vast majority of people.

[Ross MwcFan]

I think you're attractive, Ross. Clear complexion...pale skin...I'm a fan of blond hair or red hair, too. I am sorry you've had so many rejections and that people were callous enough to actually call you ugly. Whatever happened to, "I have a boyfriend," "I don't think it would work out," "I'm sorry, I'm not interested"?

 

Some people were nice about rejecting me too. I guess the reason why a lot of people were rude about it, was because where I used to live, most people just had an attitude for some reason, 'I'm cool, you're a dick' kinda thing. Not just teenagers, but adults too.

 

As a child, I think you were adorable! Look at those freckles. Aww.

 

Please keep your head up. No, you're not a supermodel but you're not a troll walking out of a cave. You're pretty average, just like the vast majority of people.

 

Thanks RR.