darklover Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 well, i am so stupid..it really got me to thinking when all who responded to my post, that was it just me cheating, or could my husband be cheating also. well, i really thought you were all full of it, but i have to eat my words. it seems that my husband saw someone for 4 months...i know i have been doing the same thing but, i just never thought he would.he says he does not love her,mostly just friends and he just got caught up in it.wtf?he says he only slept with her 4-5 times and she just gave him attention.he says its over,that they both went in with a date to be over because she left the company they both worked for.they met on his trips out of town and she worked there with the same company.she then comes to train someone to take her place when she left and was in our area for 2 months. he says he only saw her 3 times while she was here.they emailed several times after they said it was over, he says he did because he wanted to make sure she was alright because she fell in love with him but he told her he would not leave his marriage.so, what do i do now?he says it was just because he felt unloved by me( which i do understand)do i stop seeing my om, not tell him,and try to make this marriage work or how in the hell do i go about this one? i need help please i am so mixed up.please dont berate me for my stupidity. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Well...if you want a go at your marriage, honesty is the best policy right? Come clean with your husband as he did to you. Suggest marriage counceling. Since you both did have affairs on each other, you both will be upset, but maybe, you both will have an understanding as to , there is something wrong here. Take a trip out of town together, maybe where neither of you two have been. Marriage counceling is a good step to take. You will not be able to move forward unless you come clean as well. Also stop seeing your OM would help too Good luck hon and keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
Author darklover Posted June 25, 2004 Author Share Posted June 25, 2004 thank you for your opinion.you know whats so crazy is ive always loved my husband even though i fell in love with om. needed that attention. now that i know that he has cheated on me too, i dont even know if i loved om or not.all i can think about is how could he do this to me. this is weird..i keep thinking why, if they both knew it was going to be over at a certain time, why did they even bother?why did he keep emailing back and forth if it was supposed to be over? do i believe he just wanted to make sure she was ok or did he truly love her?i cannot believe i am jealous of my husband after what ive done.can you fall in love with someone sleeping with them only 4-5 times?i am really mixed up right now. is this what i get for cheating on him?all of these thoughts enter my mind constantly now i feel so stupid for wanting my husband so bad now that i know he cheated on me when i was doing (and still am i havent figured out what to do yet on that) the same thing.. what is wrong with me?? Link to post Share on other sites
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