woodstok Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 I have some questions and please help me out. I cried in front of my girlfriend when she told me it was over and i feel so pathetic and weak, i hate thinking she saw me so weak and vulnerable. I had never ever cried in front of her before so i am just asking was this right or wrong. I mean it hurt so bad and my emotions got the best of me, i know a lot of people say dont cry, dont try to change her mind, take it like a man and show her your strong. But damn it hurt and she knows i am strong but i could not help but cry in front of her, she even help me at one point .....damn i feel so stupid and weak.....please help me out, what do you guys think of this....was it dumb or ok. I hate to think she came out the stronger person, even though it really does not matter i just dont want her thinking she got the best of me and broke me down.... Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 Real men cry when they are upset. What kind of emotional popsicle doesn't? If she thinks tears are weak then you are better off without her. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 First of all, you are not a popsicle. Second of all, it depends a lot on how you did it. You can cry when you break up, because you care. I mean it’s a lot like the death of someone/something you care about. In fact, it is a death. And that’s sad. But you said she had to help you out at one point. That made me wonder just what was going on that she needed to help you with. If you were rolling on the floor, hysterical and bawling, then I would recommend something more dignified. If she had to help you stand back up and had to drive you home, or if she had to help you get back in the window off the ledge, then I’d say you might want to go with something more subdued next time. But, yeah, definitely show some emotion if you have it. If you care at all, it hurts, and sometimes it hurts enough to bring out a few tears. That’s respectable, and don’t be hard on yourself for it. At least she’ll look back and remembered you cared. If you care, don’t ever hide it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author woodstok Posted June 25, 2004 Author Share Posted June 25, 2004 what i meant by she helped me was i was crying and we hugged and i kinda cried a bit more than i was, i think it was because we were hugging and i knew it was over and i was losing her. But it was nothing to the point of me breaking down crawling or being hysterical. it just hurt soooo bad, and i could not control my tears from coming out, she cried some too, but i feel it was out of guilt that i was hurting. i just sometimes wonder if i looked like a fool for crying because i know most guys dont shed a tear and are like f**k it, i am not like that nor will i change it, i just hate thinking she got the best of me and she feels i broke down, i know i should not be hard on myself but i cant help it. like i said i had never cried before in front of her i was always strong but this hurt really bad and the tears just came.... Link to post Share on other sites
CaterpillarGirl Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 You cried because you were hurt. And if she is celebrating that, then she is incredibly cruel. You guys are over now, so don't beat yourself up over what she is thinking. It was perfectly understandable and not weak or pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted June 25, 2004 Share Posted June 25, 2004 what i meant by she helped me was i was crying and we hugged and i kinda cried a bit more than i was, i think it was because we were hugging and i knew it was over and i was losing her. But it was nothing to the point of me breaking down crawling or being hysterical. it just hurt soooo bad, and i could not control my tears from coming out, she cried some too, but i feel it was out of guilt that i was hurting. That's normal. Don't think any more about it. i just sometimes wonder if i looked like a fool for crying because i know most guys dont shed a tear and are like f**k it, i am not like that nor will i change it, i just hate thinking she got the best of me and she feels i broke down, i know i should not be hard on myself but i cant help it. like i said i had never cried before in front of her i was always strong but this hurt really bad and the tears just came.... A lot of guys say they don't cry and can just walk away like that. Don't believe it. Everyone gets their heart broken. The ones who claim they never would cry or never have cried have just never cared or else they are lying. Sometimes those are the guys who act the worst when it actually happens. Link to post Share on other sites
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