ArexS Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 I moved 300 miles away from my current girlfriend to go to school here, she took it hard and she is quite a headstrong girl so I'm sure she's fine. Though the thing I'm concerned about is this, she will hardly talk to me. I know that moving is hard and she was upset that I left, though I've tried many times to talk to her, she always says she is busy and cannot talk. I send her texts and only have had replies to a few of them. I'm wondering what's going on in her mind, I know she loves me, I'm sure of it, though why she won't speak to me I have no idea. Trying to keep contact right now with so much distance between us is becoming quite hard because she won't, and its becoming bothersome, even though its only been a few days. Last I saw her was a few days ago, the day before we moved. Does she just need space? Is she intentionally doing this? Is it a test? A mind game? What. Or is something else at work here? I need answers, I know none of you can get into her mind, but maybe give me some insight? Link to post Share on other sites
BlazeOfGloryy777 Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 i believ she is doing it on purpose but it doesnt make it right idk what to tell you bro thats a hard situation. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 Before you moved did she say she wanted to continue as an LDR, or at least give it a shot? Did you ask her, or only assume she wanted to? How long have you moved away for? How often could you meet up? How long had you been together? Some people aren't cut out for LDR's. I hope this isn't the case for you, maybe she is just feeling hurt than you moved and giving you silent treatment as a way of saying she's upset? Or maybe she just can't deal with an LDR? I moved 300 miles away from my current girlfriend to go to school here, she took it hard and she is quite a headstrong girl so I'm sure she's fine. Though the thing I'm concerned about is this, she will hardly talk to me. I know that moving is hard and she was upset that I left, though I've tried many times to talk to her, she always says she is busy and cannot talk. I send her texts and only have had replies to a few of them. I'm wondering what's going on in her mind, I know she loves me, I'm sure of it, though why she won't speak to me I have no idea. Trying to keep contact right now with so much distance between us is becoming quite hard because she won't, and its becoming bothersome, even though its only been a few days. Last I saw her was a few days ago, the day before we moved. Does she just need space? Is she intentionally doing this? Is it a test? A mind game? What. Or is something else at work here? I need answers, I know none of you can get into her mind, but maybe give me some insight? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ArexS Posted May 25, 2012 Author Share Posted May 25, 2012 Before you moved did she say she wanted to continue as an LDR, or at least give it a shot? Did you ask her, or only assume she wanted to? How long have you moved away for? How often could you meet up? How long had you been together? Some people aren't cut out for LDR's. I hope this isn't the case for you, maybe she is just feeling hurt than you moved and giving you silent treatment as a way of saying she's upset? Or maybe she just can't deal with an LDR? I asked her, she never really gave me a straight answer but that she was upset that I was moving so far away. I'm honestly not sure how long I'm going to be here, though its close enough to go every other week or so when I get the time. We have been together for nearly a year now, 9 months or so, almost to the one year mark. I'm thinking she's giving me the silent treatment.. though she's pretty headstrong and is the type of woman who doesn't *need* a man in her life but she wants one to be there, and apparently I'm that man for her. I do plan to go back down there for at least a week or more this coming week since I have no current things to do (college application going out and then job apps, fun fun) at this very moment so I'm hoping it goes well. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted May 25, 2012 Share Posted May 25, 2012 If you can see her other every week that's not so bad, better to cope with than going weeks or months without seeing each other, but I guess it still might not be enough for her. Bottom line when you see her next week is to ask if she's ok with it, ask her in a non pressuring way. Show her how much you care, and that moving away was in no way a reflection on how you feel about her, and that you really want to make a go of things, if she does too. Good luck, hope you have a good week together I asked her, she never really gave me a straight answer but that she was upset that I was moving so far away. I'm honestly not sure how long I'm going to be here, though its close enough to go every other week or so when I get the time. We have been together for nearly a year now, 9 months or so, almost to the one year mark. I'm thinking she's giving me the silent treatment.. though she's pretty headstrong and is the type of woman who doesn't *need* a man in her life but she wants one to be there, and apparently I'm that man for her. I do plan to go back down there for at least a week or more this coming week since I have no current things to do (college application going out and then job apps, fun fun) at this very moment so I'm hoping it goes well. Link to post Share on other sites
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