Finding it impossible to meet any girls

[thatoneguy1988]

Im having a real difficulty in meeting any potential girls and have been going to great lengths to try, I have joined pretty much every dating site known to man, I get a few people contacting me but it is exclusively from morbidly obese girls, which i am not interested in, Not trying to be offense to anyone just explaining my situation in detail.

 

Ill explain a little about myself, I am 22 years old have my own house, and rental properties, I have many cars,motorcyles,jetskis etc I have a great career and make over 6 figures a year, I speak several different langauges am in a book called "the best and brightest of america" for my achievments in school (not for english or grammer haha)

 

As for my looks and body, I am 6ft tall blonde hair and gray eyes i weigh 214 lbs and have 9 percent bodyfat with visible abs, I can bounce my pecks like you see on the movies. I have competed and won several local weightlifting competitions, Many people girls and boys compliment me on my looks and physique but it seems it is mostly older ladys(30s and up), My mom works at a local retail store and when i come in and talk with her girls ask her "whos that hunk" and things like that, also I see many girls at the local gyms staring at me and talking about me and even make comments about how im the most built guy in the gym, but if i approach them they just seem completely uninterested. Ill show anyone pictures or my fb in a private message if they want to see my looks or body maybe they can weigh in too on the situation.

 

What I want to meet is just what i consider a average girl, A skinny to athletic build girl who is average in looks to better than average and does not do drugs or party hardcore, those are my standards basically but im finding it nearly impossible, and I do try to approach these type of girls and after breif conversations they are just not interested, But i watch from the side and these same girls i see them going out with guys my age that are hanging out at the local skate park and smoking weed/doing mushrooms and things like this, and didnt even graduate highschool, and I just dont understand it. I talked with my mom and sisters about it they say in our area girls have the "florence nightinggale effect" where they just want to "fix men up" Many parents approach me and try to get me to "persue" their daughters even but its always the same thing the girls just arent interested or are to far gone in a bad lifestyle for me to even try.

 

I have now even started to look into eastern european women and joined many of these dating sites I have even traveled to belarus,russia, ukraine and soon i will travel to moldova to try to meet women, I have had much better luck in eastern europe and alot of girls want to hang out with me and are very nice girls, But they live halfway across the world from me, and while i do speak the languages to a extent it is easier to communicate with a native english speaker.

 

And at the end of the day I just wonder why I can not get a girl here. I am very discouraged, I have even been turned down because of my skin color by several girls who are the same skin color as me and its a terrible feeling.

 

I can go to a bar and women will aproach me but they just want sex, sometimes i wonder if because of my muscular build girls just see me as a sexual fantasy and not relationship material?

I have alot of questions, Itd be nice to chat with a girl who would give a honest opinion on the matter

[thatoneguy1988]

I thought i would add, many gay men also approach me, on dating sites and just randomly on facebook, maybe that adds something to shed light on my situation

[Julesy]

If you really are as picture perfect as you convey on the forum, you would not have any problems dating. Can't really tell you what's wrong without pictures. You might also give off a weird vibe or you cannot hold a decent conversation.

[thatoneguy1988]

wasnt trying to say picture perfect theres alot better looking guys out there than me, but i do get compliments on body and looks is basically what i was trying to say.

 

 

well i just made a fake facebook with 2 pictures of me one of my face and one of my body type

 

http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.php?id=100002215798886

 

I dont know you can tell me your a random person on the internet, people might just lie to me or something maybe im horribly deformed and hideous beyond belief or something and i just dont realize it

 

I very well could give off a wierd vibe, About the conversation I try to talk about normal things at least i think that are normal.

 

for example 2 days ago i random messaged a girl off facebook from a town close to mine, i said "Hey there im looking to meet some interesting new people" she said "whoa! you are quite good looking are you from around here?" then we talked for a few days about our favorite movies music hobbies etc, she gave me her number and then i text her and within 2 texts she just never replys its always the same story i just dont understand it.

Edited May 30, 2012 by thatoneguy1988

[truth_seeker]

Could be that women perceive you as a player and give off a defensive vibe which makes you think they're not interested in you, but rather testing you.

[no_clue]

Whoa i suck with girls but i know if i had a nice body and money cars clothes i would be set, dont know why its not working for u that sucks man

[everybodyfunny]

yup, I get the same **** man. You find seone who u wanna meet, or have met, and they either disappear or something.

 

if u didn't have a car, smoked, were disrespectful and a moocher they would be alllllll over you!

 

Are you assertive? or are you the 'nice guy'? women need assertive men. assertive men are usually *******s. they will deal with *******s just to get the assertiveness. It's completely wack and I personally blame estrogen imbalances lol

 

I have a good job, my own apartment, cars, hobbies, and can't get a girl to save my life because I'm not assertive enough. I care to much. I also dont want some overweight/conceited unattractive female.....and thats what the majority of online females tend to be....the ones that are leftover.

 

stay single and wait till a girl is ga ga over you. thats about the only way you wont have to waste your time TRYING to find one. This also means living the single life.

Edited June 13, 2012 by everybodyfunny

[WonderKid]

yup, I get the same **** man. You find seone who u wanna meet, or have met, and they either disappear or something.

 

if u didn't have a car, smoked, were disrespectful and a moocher they would be alllllll over you!

 

Are you assertive? or are you the 'nice guy'? women need assertive men. assertive men are usually *******s. they will deal with *******s just to get the assertiveness. It's completely wack and I personally blame estrogen imbalances lol

 

I have a good job, my own apartment, cars, hobbies, and can't get a girl to save my life because I'm not assertive enough. I care to much. I also dont want some overweight/conceited unattractive female.....and thats what the majority of online females tend to be....the ones that are leftover.

 

stay single and wait till a girl is ga ga over you. thats about the only way you wont have to waste your time TRYING to find one. This also means living the single life.

 

LoL Man I've seen that sooo many times!

 

Nice guys can be assertive just as well. We just know when to draw our swords and when not to.

[thatoneguy1988]

thanks for the responses, truthseeker maybe you are right Ive posted a few fb statuses complaining about my situation and some actually cute normal girls messaged me and say things like "I find it hard to believe no girls will talk to you" but then 3 messages later back and forth they themselves stop talking to me.

 

 

everybodyfunny you say exactly what i think is true but i dont understand why a girl really would be so turned on my someone with no future and nothing and a terrible personality,but i am actually starting to believe that is the only explanation.

 

I recently met a cute girl from a town about 1 hour from my town,she asked how i had so much nice stuff and expensive cars. I told her i did heroin and was a drug dealer, she was really interested in me even invited me to spend the night, but i didnt it was just a experiment i guess but it showed me what really has to be done if i ever want a girl

 

I am nice guy, but alot of girls that have never talked to me for some reason tell other girls "I heard he is the biggest ******* ever" which is ludacris because its been years since i have even talked to a girl in real life in the usa besides workers at businesses.

 

 

Ive tried being the nice guy and the assertive guy the ******* and everything inbetween, the only thing that has worked is pretending to be the drug user.

the single life it is, I have been living it for many years now, just getting sick of it, the only girls that are gaga over me are morbidly obese girls, sure they might be nice girls but I need to be attracted to a girl if i am going to date her. I just want a inshape average girl to go on a few dates with and id be happy. I cant even sleep good at night anymore, i just lay awake at night thinking I will never even talk to a girl ever again in my life, ill never have kids or a family.

 

I watch around me as kids that didnt graduate highschool and never had a job, only live to do drugs have skinny good looking girls around them all the time, granted they are not the type of girls id want to be with but still who in reality is doing better? a guy like me being alone but having nice things and a decent amount of money? or a young guy that is on welfare doesnt work just hangs out all day and is just sleeping with a different cute skinny girl every day of the week?

At the end of the day they have their needs met and im not. in the long run sure ill be succesful they will be in jail or dead but ill still never know what it was like to have a girlfriend. I mean those skinny druggie girls that are somewhat attractive will probably come my way when they are 30 years old and want to be taken care of by a succesful guy but I am not going to cater to them.

 

bit of a rant i suppose but its been bugging me lately

Edited July 9, 2012 by thatoneguy1988

[miss_jaclynrae]

From your post, you come off... well.

 

 

 

 

I can tell you right now, if you have so much going for you like you said... finding a woman wouldn't be so hard.

[GLDheart]

Maybe you're just trying too hard. Meeting "the one" can't be forced... But it can be helped if you do the right things. Seriously, just relax a bit. You seem to have rushed out to accomplish so much (and I truly respect that). And, now it seems the next "thing" on your "list" is a girl that is "good enough". By the way, no girl wants to feel just "good enough"....

 

Anyway, relax. Really. Your a tall guy. Join a co-ed volleyball league. You own some toys. Place a Craigslist ad "cheap summertime Jet ski lessons" and just respond to the woman that email you... Join a kayaking club. I don't know, just get creative and have fun. BUT stay away from the pickup places where you are meeting girls in a different phase of life (bars etc.).

 

Attitude is everything. Girls of any maturity level just want to enjoy themselves. Take the pressure off of the situation and ENJOY YOURSELF.

[orcunderabridge]

maybe you just come across like a really weird guy....

 

Having good looks and/or money means very little to woman. They may say they want a good looking rich guy but what they say they want isn't necessarily what they respond to.

 

I can tell from experience that online dating is waaaaay less efficient than going out to clubs and bars in real life and talking to woman face to face.

 

Online dating is pretty much a waste of time. The more you go out and talk to girls the more confident you'll become and as a result you'll have more success with girls. Talking to girls in real life means you're also putting yourself on the line and putting in actual effort rather than just hiding behind a keyboard.

 

It's going to be painful but I promise you bro don't waste your time with online dating

[thatoneguy1988]

[sIZE=5][COLOR=#990000]miss_jaclynrae[/COLOR][/sIZE] how do i come off? just curious? I am ranting now of course on here, But my bitterness has turned into hate and rage and is negatively affecting me now I do know that, and now thats another problem.

 

Well i can post more pictures on that facebook profile I made to show people the pictures of me for this site, of me driving my dodge viper, my hummer, and about 20 other cars,crotchrockets etc. I can post my paycheck as well to prove I have all these things going for me.

[thatoneguy1988]

I dont go to any bars because I do not drink at all, I have come to realize online dating is a complete waste of time.

 

I try to relax about it but it only gets worse I try to stay away from the computer but here i am back here because its all I can think about now and am just getting depressed.

 

Its sad to think I gotta do this at age 22 but I am really thinking about offering this russian girl ive been talking with for a few years and have met in russia a all expense paid trip to america and a mercedes/bmw or porsche for a car if she wants to come over for a summer see how she likes it here, And am gonna offer to build her her dream home if she wants to stay here with me, Ive told this to some friends and they think its ludacris.

 

Im going to start posting my pictures on this forum and some others and try to get some real insight of what girls think maybe I am just hideously grotesque and people lie to me, I see it done with the morbidly obese girls and people calling them beautiful

[Fitz]

I am really thinking about offering this russian girl ive been talking with for a few years and have met in russia a all expense paid trip to america and a mercedes/bmw or porsche for a car if she wants to come over for a summer see how she likes it here, And am gonna offer to build her her dream home if she wants to stay here with me, Ive told this to some friends and they think its ludacris.

 

Your friends are right.

You have to be careful falling in love with foreign girls you barely know. She'll make you think you're in love, get you to marry her, then she'll divorce you after she gets residency and take half of your sh**. Seen it happen to several different guys.

[thatoneguy1988]

here I uploaded some pictures for miss_jaclynrae of me in a few of my cars I can upload many more of different cars videos etc to show the validity of my situation since it seems like she is doubting, and i also put up a picture of my paycheck for 1 week of 2499$ showing my income of 130,000 a year which probably isnt much in big citys but considering I live in small town northern wisconsin it is quite high for a 22 year old, its over 3 times what the average family of 2 earners makes in my area and it is meaningless in my quest for a girl. I say that because so many people on here believe having more money then most people around you greatly increases your chances of having girls notice you or something

 

http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.337195319697658.80537.100002215798886&type=1#!/photo.php?fbid=337195323030991&set=a.337195319697658.80537.100002215798886&type=3&theater

[haribogumsnickers]

Happens to everyone so you're not alone. It's like you're attracted to those not attracted to you and vice versa. Don't give up hope but just focus on enjoying yourself. You don't need a girl that looks pretty just to make you feel happy. Join up a running group or something and make a lot of new friends. Network. It'll happen when it's time to happen. She will come around when you least expect it. So, quit searching and enjoy life.

[Tulsy]

Judging just by how you judge yourself, I don't feel that sorry for you.

 

So you are rich, have a perfect body, great looks, superior intelligence....just can't find the right girl.

 

Do you talk about yourself like that when you do talk to women, cause that may come off conceited? Do you know how to talk to women? Are you comfortable talking to women?

 

Do you have many guy friends? Do they get girls? Do those girls not have friends?

 

At 22yrs old, you should enjoy life a bit. Try travelling with friends, see the world...that will give you something interesting to talk about when you do meet women. Dude, you are so young...take your time anyways, no need to rush into something permanent.

 

You only told us the great parts about you. If you are honest, I bet you could express to us some of the the "not so great" parts. That may help explain why.

[D87]

American girls are stupid, especially at that age (no offense). What you should be doing is going after Hispanic, European, Eastern European, or Asian girls. Trust me on this.

[NoMagicBullet]

[sIZE=5][COLOR=#990000]miss_jaclynrae[/COLOR][/sIZE] how do i come off? just curious? I am ranting now of course on here, But my bitterness has turned into hate and rage and is negatively affecting me now I do know that, and now thats another problem.

 

Well i can post more pictures on that facebook profile I made to show people the pictures of me for this site, of me driving my dodge viper, my hummer, and about 20 other cars,crotchrockets etc. I can post my paycheck as well to prove I have all these things going for me.

 

The bitterness and hate is likely showing, and no one wants to get involved with someone carrying around a lot of bitterness and anger. It seems you're really focused on superficial things like your possessions and how you look, and that's really unappealing to anyone looking for a relationship of substance. That's probably why you are attracting women who just want sex -- they get a sense of superficiality from you, so they won't consider you for anything else.

 

You're only 22, how can you be bitter at such young age? Nearly everyone has dating problems at this stage of life (or will soon). If you know your bitterness is a problem, then see a counselor or therapist to work on this. Also, if you have a 6-figure salary, instead of online dating, hire a professional matchmaking service. It's more expensive, but you can afford it, and you'll be wasting less time and effort on girls who aren't right for you.

 

Edit: When I say matchmaking service, I'm not talking one that will hook you up with a Russian or Asian bride. There are matchmaking agencies that work to find professional, well-off clients the right mate locally.

Edited July 25, 2012 by NoMagicBullet
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[ZhaoZilong5]

For those of you bashing the OP for describing himself, try to be objective. He's describing his situation objectively, and if it's too hard for you to believe that a man with great social qualities can have trouble with women, then you're just either being jealous or obtuse. What would you rather have the OP do? Lie about himself to all of you and not get any pertaining advice?

 

I'm sorry (not really) if it bugs so many of you that he looks down upon people who didn't graduate high school or do drugs. If anything, that should help him attract women who also look down upon those things. I don't see what's wrong with somebody describing himself at all.

 

OP, you're 22. Girls don't know WTF they want until they're 25. I've had girls who left me saying I'm perfect but felt so emotionally insecure that they didn't think they were good enough for me. I've seen even the most level-headed girls fall for the ******* routine. It takes an ******* to manipulate emotionally insecure girls. Guess what? Most girls under 25 are subconsciously insecure. According to statistically significant studies, women prefer older SO's.

 

I played the waiting game and had girls come to me idolizing me, then left while completely blaming themselves. You just have to wait it out until you hit the age that makes you socially attractive to mature women.

[weallfalldown]

you must be gay

[ScreamingTrees]

I don't really care about OP's money or cars or silly **** like that, but I do want to see if he's nearly as good looking as he says. Just curious. Couldn't check the link.

 

I have a particularly tall friend who has gotten laid maybe once or twice in his life, he's about 24.. If height really made a person noticeably more attractive in every case, there wouldn't be guys out there like that. Height CAN save an ugly face in some situations, I guess.. But it doesn't seem to be helping OP, does it?

 

If OP's rich, he should just pay for sex. Going to assume that's probably what he wants, despite him saying he wants an average "plain jane".. As if any person wants to be considered "meh"..

[ZhaoZilong5]

If OP's rich, he should just pay for sex.

 

That tells me that you didn't read the OP at all. OP doesn't want sex. Also, with any favorable quality, you can have too much of it.

 

My best friend is a personal trainer and owns a gym. A lot of my close friends are personal trainers. Most of my friends work out. With that said, it seems like muscles tend to attract shallow, vain girls. The intelligent ones that have considered my personality don't even care about my body. Then again, they find me sexy because of my race and face, but that has nothing to do with my body except for being an ectomorph.

[ScreamingTrees]

That tells me that you didn't read the OP at all. OP doesn't want sex. Also, with any favorable quality, you can have too much of it.

 

My best friend is a personal trainer and owns a gym. A lot of my close friends are personal trainers. Most of my friends work out. With that said, it seems like muscles tend to attract shallow, vain girls. The intelligent ones that have considered my personality don't even care about my body. Then again, they find me sexy because of my race and face, but that has nothing to do with my body except for being an ectomorph.

 

I don't know, the OP just gives off a different vibe. I know what he said, but he seems to think that all of this **** should automatically make someone like him, as if that will make up for him possibly being awkward or a douchebag. We honestly don't know how he comes across in real life. For some vapid, shallow girls, yes, those things will be enough.. But people with character likely can't be bought that easily, unless they WANT to be bought..