Swthugznkisez Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 My family doesn't like my bf. My bf and i got into an arguement and his choice of words weren't really.... "happy" My mom over heard the argument. SHe didn't really like it when he said "get the F*** out of my apartment". my mom was in the other room and she thought she heard him say to me... "F*** you". She hates him for that. Him and i worked it out. He hasn't used language like that since then. He is not allowed to come to the house anymore. My mom doesn't want to see his face. Then she found his a few days ago in my room (yes i know i am in my late 20s). She feels that is totally disrespectful. Now they totally hate him. I know probably most of this is my fault. How can i turn this around? any ideas? How can i make them see the great guy that i know...that i see? Link to post Share on other sites
amanda25 Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Originally posted by Swthugznkisez My family doesn't like my bf. My bf and i got into an arguement and his choice of words weren't really.... "happy" My mom over heard the argument. SHe didn't really like it when he said "get the F*** out of my apartment". my mom was in the other room and she thought she heard him say to me... "F*** you". She hates him for that. Him and i worked it out. He hasn't used language like that since then. He is not allowed to come to the house anymore. My mom doesn't want to see his face. Then she found his a few days ago in my room (yes i know i am in my late 20s). She feels that is totally disrespectful. Now they totally hate him. I know probably most of this is my fault. How can i turn this around? any ideas? How can i make them see the great guy that i know...that i see? Found his what in your room?? You are in your late 20s, why are you still living at home?? Living under your parents roof, you should go by their rules, as to the fact of having him in their house or whatever, but you should be old enough to make your own decisions as to who you date, and what you do! How can you turn it around, well if it were ME,and i didnt want to live by my parents rules, id move out into my own place, and start from there...Maybe slowly your parents would learn that you are serious about this guy, and no matter what, you are going to be with him...Just my opinion Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Swthugznkisez Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 First off you need to know that i come from a strict Filipino famly. They believe that when their daughter moves out, its when she is married already. Secondly, i work in the family business. Yes, i can buy what i need, but as far as money for my own.. enough for me to move out.. NO. I am in the process of taking my board exams. Once i pass and get my license and get another job, then i can have my own money. I plan on moving to where he is. Yet that is in the future. Near future,but still the future. Is there anything i can do now??? Link to post Share on other sites
amanda25 Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 First off you need to know that i come from a strict Filipino famly. They believe that when their daughter moves out, its when she is married already. That wasn't stated in your messege, so I didn't know that...Do You believe in that as well as your family?? Secondly, i work in the family business. Yes, i can buy what i need, but as far as money for my own.. enough for me to move out.. NO. I am in the process of taking my board exams. Once i pass and get my license and get another job, then i can have my own money. I plan on moving to where he is. Yet that is in the future. Near future,but still the future Well, with that stated, I think I would try to talk to my parents and tell them how you feel, about this guy, your parents not liking him,etc..Explain to them that he is a part of your life as well and you don't want to have to choose between them...But at the same time, respect their feelings as well as far as not wanting him in their house,etc...If you are living under their roof, In my opinion, their rules are what stands...I know it sucks...My parents didn't always like the choices I made, but as long as I was living with them, I had to go by their rules..That didn't mean leave the guy I was with, because they didn't like him, but it meant not bringing him to their house,etc..as they asked... You have to do what is best for you! Good Luck, I hope it all works out! Link to post Share on other sites
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