amped Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Hi i'm new to this board. Well here is my situation, after two years of not talking to a lady i had a brief relationship with (keep in mind we connected on many levels, we were both single at the time) i was relatively young at the time and i knew i loved here but was afraid to let her know, another problem was that she lived in Sacramento whereas i lived in L.A. Anyways after a couple years we contacted each other out of the blue. We started talking and reminising about the past and after a couple of conversations i let her know that she was the one that got away and i really missed her. She said she had missed me too. We started to converse regularly again and after a month or so she told me she had a boyfriend who did not treat her well. She told me that she was going to break up with him but then she found out she was pregnant and said that she loves him. Now i feel like i should not be in her life, but every now and then she'll contact me to let me know how she is and will invite to see her even though i haven't seen her in a couple of years. I don't know what to do. I know i love her but i just want her to be happy and protect myself from getting hurt. I guess i should never talk to her again and move on but its hard. What would you people do in my position. please help me. Mathew Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 I would move on. She says she loves him, and she has a baby on the way. Instead of spending time trying to figure out a way to get her back, you could be looking someone else to love. Link to post Share on other sites
littleflowerpot Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 i'd say move on but i know it's not always as uncomplicated as that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amped Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 why would she continually contact me if she know it tears me up? Mat Link to post Share on other sites
Fancy Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Originally posted by amped why would she continually contact me if she know it tears me up? Because she can, and because you allow it. I can understand how you're feeling, but your best bet would to be to let this one go. She's pregnant. Do you really want to be involved in all the "baby mama drama?" If she truly wants to pursue a relationship with you, she'll get free and do it. Otherwise, you're only going to put yourself in a painful (and possibly dangerous) situation. My advice is to move on to a less complicated woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amped Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 so how do i let her know i'm still her friend without distantancing myself to far, am i just looking for excuses to try and get her back. I know i'm supposed to move on. I know all about the know contact thing i just don't know if thats the way to go. Although a big part of me thinks it is the way to go Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 If it's been a couple of years since you were together, maybe you guys could be friends. You say you still love her though, so that might complicate things. I think the best thing for you would be to move on.Maybe talk to her once in awhile as friends, but if you still feel like you love her, that will be really hard. Link to post Share on other sites
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