folx Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 so there is lots of getting your ex back books...tones of them ! and lots of them are most the same the question here is which one is better?! what was your experience about them? me myself read almost 3 of them and there were too similar,i just want to know your ideas guy about em. and do you think that they really work? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 They all use manipulative tactics to get someone back. If someone doesn't come back due to their own want to come back they are likely to leave again once your manipulation has ended. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Own Worst Enemy Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 When you search for something helpful, you realise that half the articles are in fact trying to flog you one of these e-books. One of life's hardest lessons, which I learned the hardest way at 21 and yet still manage to forget all the time, is: if someone doesn't care, you can NOT make them care. Irrelevant if you cry or beg or plead or shout or bribe or pay or pray or try or die - if they don't care, they don't care. Better to save the pretty and look elsewhere! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Svet74 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 yeah dont bother. NOne of them work.. because i tried.. and me and my ex broke up many times as a matter of fact.. he never asked me back, and if he ever did it was because i threatened to leave his life.. like the first poster said.. they need to want to come back.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author folx Posted May 29, 2012 Author Share Posted May 29, 2012 yea,but honestly there are lots of good points in many of them. if i used them sooner i though my ex didnt left me now. now i read many of them and started NC. but my biggest problem that is not exactly mentioned in these books is that how can i make that first contact after NC?! is there any good books about it?! and did any of you tried ex recovery system?! how is this book? i didnt read this one,is it good? Link to post Share on other sites
blotter Posted May 29, 2012 Share Posted May 29, 2012 I'll try to say it another way cause it doesn't seem to be getting through. ALL the get your ex back books are SCAMS, FRAUDS, that rely on emotional and mental manipulations to get the other to come back. NO Contact is for you to disengage from the relationship, heal, and move on. As a side issue sometimes the ex will initiate contact while you are in NO contact. What you do with that contact is up to you, usually it is just breadcrumbs and they have no intention of ever coming back. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
raspberry.12 Posted May 29, 2012 Share Posted May 29, 2012 they are pretty much the same and they didn't worked (for me actually) I rather go get "Get OVER your Ex" books or advice. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author folx Posted May 31, 2012 Author Share Posted May 31, 2012 o,cmon!!! why everybody just look neagtive to these books ??!! for example after i reading these books i found lots of mistakes that i did and they meesed my chances !!! if i knew these thing sooner my relationship didnt get this way ! Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 If you were just being yourself and not living a lie, and the relationship failed, it wasn't meant to be anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
Author folx Posted June 1, 2012 Author Share Posted June 1, 2012 so u mean that all of these stories about guys who got back their girlfriends are not true?! cmon ! Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 so u mean that all of these stories about guys who got back their girlfriends are not true?! cmon ! Some people do get back together but both parties need to want to of their own choices, not of manipulation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
my body is a cage Posted June 2, 2012 Share Posted June 2, 2012 i disagree with above posters. most ebooks are probably spams but i read a book i really liked called : how to get your ex lover back. it was written sometime in the 80s and i liked it because it took a different standpoint than other advice i've gotten: instead of trying to manipulate someone into loving you by acting as if you don't love them, it preaches expressing your feelings (in a rational way), being patients, and showing them through loving actions rather than playing games. it is a study on being capable of genuine loving, rather than selfishly striving to be loved. Link to post Share on other sites
Author folx Posted June 2, 2012 Author Share Posted June 2, 2012 The thing with these books is that they help you only if you're bright enough to know how to use each and every advice in you advantage. Following every tip will only turn you into a robot waiting for instructions. It's all about you, what tips are you going to use or take into consideration. A good guide I recommend for example is: Ex Recovery System. i read 3 books but not this one yet, can some one give a copy of that so i can see that it sounds usefull or not. im really interested in this book Link to post Share on other sites
WongHua Posted June 10, 2012 Share Posted June 10, 2012 (edited) I must also disagree with the above posters, not absolutely all of these books are scams. Some very few are actually pretty good as they are developed by relationship counselors and are a general guide to a good, healthy relationship. Some of them teach you how to be good with yourself so you're good in a relationship. And some of them go in depth about psychological differences between men and women that are the reason for a lot of our misunderstandings. I personally would recommend T.W. Jackson's "The Magic of Making up", I've even been subscribed to his newsletter because his stuff has made me realize so many things I've done wrong, both as a partner and as a person. It also really made me consider why I want to get back together, and realize that when you break up it NEEDED to happen. And you if you really want it, you have to work on yourself and learn to be happy without him/her in order to be able to be happy with them or another person in the future, and not repeat the same mistakes. Hope this was of help Edited June 10, 2012 by WongHua 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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