Amber42 Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 I really need help with this... so please if you can... please help me out. My parents don't like my b/f because they acuse him of smoking pot and honestly i know for a fact he doesn't and they don't like the way he dresses and they don't like the way he walks either they said that they can judge him by just looking at him. Also he has a really bad habit of cursing alot and they don't like that... and i tried talking to him about it but all's he does is get mad at me... Also at one point my dad broke me and him up himself he told my boyfriend that he can't talk to me or see me or anything but we still talk and we want to get back together but before we do we want my parents to except him and get to know him so that way there is no problems... i want my parents to get to know him and see what he really is about but he won't and i don't know what to do and i don't know how to talk to either of them about anything i need alot of help here... Is there anything i can do about this? And is there a way for me to get my parents to get to know him? What do i do at this point? PLEASE HELP!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
uriel Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Is your boyfriend presenting himself as a tough guy / thug? Even if he doesn't live the lifestyle (drugs, fights, arrests), is he projecting the image? If so, why is he doing that? What's he trying to prove? Who is he angry with? Your parents are obviously concerned that your boyfriend's image suggests something not only about possible bad behavior, but about an attitude and an emotional state that could endanger you. You may feel that this isn't the case, but you're not likely to have as much life experience as they do. It's tough for you to judge. You say your boyfriend gets angry with /you/ if you bring this up. Does that seem reasonable? If he cares about you, why can't he stop cussing, walk straight, and dress nicely for a dinner out with your folks? Why can't he talk about their judgment of him with you if seeing you matters to him more than his image? You've basically argued that these traits your parents don't like about your boyfriend are superficial. The truth is more likely that they do reveal something about him. You need to be more honest with yourself and your parents about what that might be. -- uriel Link to post Share on other sites
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