sam2012 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 I have no hobbies, no friends, no social life, a job that earns good money but has zero contact with people. Lived a pretty shetered life and am terrible with people. Just have nothing to say. No interesting stories. Where do I start? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 Be interested and do interesting things. Start with Meetup - the activity -focused groups. Try night classes and volunteering. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted May 28, 2012 Share Posted May 28, 2012 You need to start living a more fuller life, start having more life experiences. This will give you a lot of interesting stories to tell. Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted May 29, 2012 Share Posted May 29, 2012 There are a few ways to go about this, but for me I found it most helpful to focus on personal interests and hobbies. When you have a sport or activity you enjoy doing, it gives you a way to connect to other people. You can either start by doing things by yourself and just naturally find other people who are into it too, or you could look for a group/team/club to join. Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted June 2, 2012 Share Posted June 2, 2012 I have no hobbies, no friends, no social life, a job that earns good money but has zero contact with people. Lived a pretty shetered life and am terrible with people. Just have nothing to say. No interesting stories. Where do I start? You can read up on current events so that you can comment about what's going on in the world. You can do so research on hobbies and find one you like then try one. You can get an email pal and practice communication skills. Link to post Share on other sites
zigg1 Posted June 2, 2012 Share Posted June 2, 2012 just don't be that interesting person who knows every sex position. thats just creepy try being a volunteer firefighter or something like that. do something out of the ordinary jokes are a good way to start. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 2, 2012 Share Posted June 2, 2012 Where do I start? Where I start every day, being interested in others. That could be a customer, a worker, a friend, a stranger at the grocery store, whatever. Each contact enriches my life. They don't have to 'go' anywhere, but rather just can be. Life is made up of individual moments and it's all over much too soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Strength Posted June 12, 2012 Share Posted June 12, 2012 you need to build a life from which you can share your experiences with others. just relax! go out by yourself somewhere and be present where other people are. someone will talk to you, and when they do, just ask them about themselves and be willing to share your thoughts on things. dont stress about it, dont try and predict how people are seeing you, just be calm and honest and try to have a bit of fun with it. i guarantee you, if you talk to someone new, you will start to want to do it more and more and you will eventually be great at it. not everyone is born charismatic, but anyone can appear the most charismatic person in the world to a certain someone. just go DO STUFF. get out right now, and go somewhere and learn to do new things. you can download true friendships. you have to find them and build them in the real world! Link to post Share on other sites
JWalsh Posted June 17, 2012 Share Posted June 17, 2012 You clearly know your problem. That's a good step. Get into hobbies, find something you enjoy doing. Once you find something you enjoy doing then you will meet people who enjoy doing the same thing. Don't force yourself into something you don't like, just because everyone else is doing it. Be real. It's time to change. Not to change your personality because I just told you to be real. Get a new haircut, get some new clothes, get a new pair of shades. All this will make you feel better when you go out to meet new people. If you don't surround yourself around other people your going to be as interesting as the person next to you, which is no one. Overall: - Find yourself a hobby that you enjoy and know everything about it. - Make yourself comfortable by making yourself feel good and fresh, like making a new cover page to a old and battered book. Hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
vk2goh Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I have no hobbies, no friends, no social life, a job that earns good money but has zero contact with people. Lived a pretty shetered life and am terrible with people. Just have nothing to say. No interesting stories. Where do I start? Travel, take up activities involving people, don't be afraid to humiliate yourself or do something crazy, make small talk with neighbours or people who you regularly see Link to post Share on other sites
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