I'm writing this mostly to vent.

[Joe Buddy]

I'm a christian guy and have been doing a lot of online dating in the past 2 years. I can't count how many dates I've been on, its a blur and have had a quite few crazy adventures.

 

Some girls I just clicked with better than others and somewhere down the line I pursued my passions with the wrong women... I had given in, abandon my standards a few times and had sex with at least 6. The last girl I saw just wanted a "Friends with benefits" relationship and I actively pro-sued it with her. We had a lot of amazing times in the city together dancing meeting new people and of course the add bonus of good sex. I met her mother hung out with her friends... it was good.

I was starting to fall for her in the 2nd month... she realized it, I realized it then we sort of parted ways. She cut me off, I let her go or maybe a little of both... I just thought we could have had a go at it but in the end it was all about the sex.

 

Now I am heartbroken. I don't know why but I just feel sad every-time I see other people together. I'm not depressed I just don't have any motivation or drive anymore. If someone compliments or harasses me it doesn't seems to have affect... I just feel numb and have boat loads of apathy.

A women offered to sleep with me on my last date, I asked myself "what for...why...is there a point?" I turned her down and deleted her number.

 

I'm sure my attitude will change with time... but I'm just disappointed in myself for making the wrong choices and going against my values and standards. It feels good to write this.

[HVane]

Well, Joe, sounds to me like you are depressed. Have you sought some counseling? Maybe at your university counseling center? It's usually free there.

 

Also, aggressively identifying yourself as "Christian" is a little silly when you follow that up with the fact that you've screwed six girls that you cared nothing about.

 

Labels can be really destructive...maybe you should spend some time learning who "joe" is and what he wants. Because I don't think he's getting what he wants.

 

Good luck.

[BetheButterfly]

I'm a christian guy and have been doing a lot of online dating in the past 2 years. I can't count how many dates I've been on, its a blur and have had a quite few crazy adventures.

 

Some girls I just clicked with better than others and somewhere down the line I pursued my passions with the wrong women... I had given in, abandon my standards a few times and had sex with at least 6. The last girl I saw just wanted a "Friends with benefits" relationship and I actively pro-sued it with her. We had a lot of amazing times in the city together dancing meeting new people and of course the add bonus of good sex. I met her mother hung out with her friends... it was good.

I was starting to fall for her in the 2nd month... she realized it, I realized it then we sort of parted ways. She cut me off, I let her go or maybe a little of both... I just thought we could have had a go at it but in the end it was all about the sex.

 

Now I am heartbroken. I don't know why but I just feel sad every-time I see other people together. I'm not depressed I just don't have any motivation or drive anymore. If someone compliments or harasses me it doesn't seems to have affect... I just feel numb and have boat loads of apathy.

A women offered to sleep with me on my last date, I asked myself "what for...why...is there a point?" I turned her down and deleted her number.

 

I'm sure my attitude will change with time... but I'm just disappointed in myself for making the wrong choices and going against my values and standards. It feels good to write this.

 

It's good to vent.

 

I pray that God will give you a wonderful lady who loves you, and who you love!

 

God brought my husband and me together, and He can bring you and a wonderful lady together too!

[BetheButterfly]

Well, Joe, sounds to me like you are depressed. Have you sought some counseling? Maybe at your university counseling center? It's usually free there.

 

Also, aggressively identifying yourself as "Christian" is a little silly when you follow that up with the fact that you've screwed six girls that you cared nothing about.

 

Labels can be really destructive...maybe you should spend some time learning who "joe" is and what he wants. Because I don't think he's getting what he wants.

 

Good luck.

 

Christians aren't perfect. Saying "no" to temptation can be very difficult. However, with God's help, people can grow in not doing something that they believe is wrong. It's a learning process, same as learning how to exercise. It can oftentimes be painful, like working out, but achieves great results!

[Joe Buddy]

Thank you I'm feeling better already.

[TheFinalWord]

Some girls I just clicked with better than others and somewhere down the line I pursued my passions with the wrong women... I had given in, abandon my standards a few times and had sex with at least 6. The last girl I saw just wanted a "Friends with benefits" relationship and I actively pro-sued it with her. We had a lot of amazing times in the city together dancing meeting new people and of course the add bonus of good sex. I met her mother hung out with her friends... it was good.

I was starting to fall for her in the 2nd month... she realized it, I realized it then we sort of parted ways. She cut me off, I let her go or maybe a little of both... I just thought we could have had a go at it but in the end it was all about the sex.

 

Now I am heartbroken. I don't know why but I just feel sad every-time I see other people together. I'm not depressed I just don't have any motivation or drive anymore. If someone compliments or harasses me it doesn't seems to have affect... I just feel numb and have boat loads of apathy.

A women offered to sleep with me on my last date, I asked myself "what for...why...is there a point?" I turned her down and deleted her number.

 

I'm sure my attitude will change with time... but I'm just disappointed in myself for making the wrong choices and going against my values and standards. It feels good to write this.

 

Hey bro,

 

We've all made mistakes.

 

God is a God of multiple chances.

 

 

I recommend this series from Pastor Bob (one of my fav teachers):

 

 

God Bless!