EX Confusing Me.

[NoThinGface]

Hello All,

 

Ive posted here before on how to get my ex girlfriend back. Now I’m getting mixed signals from her.

She broke up with me around 5 months ago now, and jumped into another relationship 1 month after we broke up. And I did all the pressuring, nagging to get back with me which made it worse for my self and pushed her away further. So I stopped contacting her cause I knew I was getting no where. Around 3 months of no contacting her she rang up out of the blue yesterday for a chat and to see what ive been up to. I asked her how is she going with her new boyfriend and she said we called it quiets, Reason she said she realised she jumped into another relationship to quick and things were moving to soon, to fast. At that point when she told me my heart-started racing I was so happy knowing shes single again, But I kept it cool and didn’t act like I was happy to hear that. She told me she had no feelings left for me at all 2 months ago, but she was to wrapped up in her new boyfriend why would she have feelings for me. I’m not sure how to take this now shes contacting me all of a sudden. I was just starting to get better and heal, now I feel I’m back at square 1. I love this girl to bits and would love her back. So what should I do? I’m planing on asking her out for a coffee but don’t know how to act or what to say when I see her any advice on that would be appreciated. I also found out from a friend of hers that she’s also on those dating sites. So I don’t understand she said she broke up with her new boyfriend because things were moving to quick, now shes on dating sites? I want her back badly and don’t want to stuff this up. She also told me that after us breaking up she’s realised that theirs plenty more out there. So I’m guessing I have to work hard on this 1. And help and advice would be great thanx.

[dreamguy]

I would have loved to tell you that you should try and win her back by acting cool and waiting until she makes the first move (if she calls again).

Other people might tell you that it's always a bad idea to take someone back once they break up with you.

The things is, in your specific case:

 

"She told me she had no feelings left for me at all 2 months ago, but she was to wrapped up in her new boyfriend why would she have feelings for me."

I personally doubt that dead feelings can be revived. Confused feelings might be straightened out but dead feelings... I don't know.

 

I also found out from a friend of hers that she’s also on those dating sites. So I don’t understand she said she broke up with her new boyfriend because things were moving to quick, now shes on dating sites?

She didn't break up with him because things were moving on too quick. Appparently she left him because she thought he was not good enough. There are no "things moving on too quick" when you think the person is the right one for you. When someone says "things are moving on too quick" it means "things are moving on ahead while I'm not sure I want to be with you". It's never about the speed, it's always about the direction.

 

"She also told me that after us breaking up she’s realised that theirs plenty more out there. So I’m guessing I have to work hard on this 1"

I hate to break it down to you but this isn't an honest person at all. No one, in their normal mind and feelings, would say such things when contacting an ex 5 months later !

At least she is honest about her dishonesty, if you know what I mean. She is being frank about being a player.

Watch out for this one.

 

Besides, 5 months should have been enough time for you to see things clearly. I hope it was enough time for you to decide you never want her back in your life.

Whatever your decision is... good luck !