What does it mean

[ringo0206]

Well, i'll make it as short as possible for you guys, but i also want to thank you all since any time i am feeling down about the ex, i come here and listen to what other people are going thru.

 

So my ex and me were together for a year and a half. We broke up right before x-mas and i stupidly found another girl and slept with her after 4 days when i made my ex wait for 5 months. I think i was really hurt by what was going on with my ex and that's why i did it so fast. we ended up getting back together after xmas and made it 2 months after that, until she dumped me for someone. I sent her text messages for 2 weeks after that and finally wrote a really long letter. The next day after she read the letter, i walked right by her with a friend and she turned her head away so she wouldn't have to look at me. Seeing her and how fake she was towards me, i haven't even tried calling her or anything. I'm giving her her space because she thinks that i'm somebody that i'm not, and as i've learned on this site, it does take time. After 3 months of no contact i saw her with her boyfriend the other day at the mall. As they walked by my friends and me, she clamped onto his arm hard, to show me that she was with him i guess. I talked to my mom and she said she must still have feelings for me if she had to do that when i haven't even talked to her for over 3 months. I just wanted to know what some of you might think it means for her to have so many feelings for me 3 months later. I know she still has feelings for me, but most to all of them are bad rilght now, since she hasn't done anything except been angry with me this whole year since she thinks i'm somebody i'm not. I have been getting stronger and haven't even been tempted to contact her. My interpretation of how she reacted when she saw me is that she is just pathetic since she still has to try and hurt me, like why can't you just give it up, it's over with.

[msrealdoll]

she thinks that i'm somebody that i'm not

 

What does she think of you that isn't true? It sounds like she's just moving on with her life. She may get nervous being around you-especially if your breakup was nasty. Was it?

[ringo0206]

She thinks that i'm somebody that i'm not in that she thinks i will just have sex with any girl, when in reality, i was just really hurt that she was ignoring me before we broke up the first time, so i went and did something stupid and had sex as soon as we broke up. When in reality i made her wait 5 months to have sex with me and we were best friends before that. I'm a really sensitive guy and she thinks that i'm a player or something. I think that she is just really angry at me right now. It probably was a little nasty in the fact that she wouldn't even talk to me at all after we broke up except for a reply to a letter i sent her. She replied "I read the letter, we can't be friends, i'm ready to move on". But why would she get nervous if she was ready to move on 3 months ago, and i have not even tried to contact her. I guess i just take stuff to personally because i listen to a lot of music where i get quotes like the following: ...Well this is what happens when you're pissed about being pissed, you dig yourself so deep you resist just to resist, and there's no way to get back experiences you missed, so start right now today and risk furiousness for bliss."

[msrealdoll]

Don't try to analyze her behavior, and apply meaning to it. It is many times awkward being around an ex. Maybe she just feels nervous-not because of any lingering love, but just because it's difficult.

 

It will be easier on you if you will just accept her behavior at face value and not engage in wishful thinking. If it is like what you hope it is, then that will be a pleasant surprise later.