marydamonkey01 Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 [font=arial][/font]I really need some advice here. I have been dating this guy that I am completely in love with, but there is a catch. About 3 weeks ago I found out that he was cheating on me, but that's not the worst part. I contracted an STD, Chlamidia, that was the only reason that he would have told me. My heart is breaking into a million pieces, and I dont' know what to do. He is the person that I have grown to love, but I hate what he has done to our relaionship. I don't know how to handle this situation, and I really need your help. Please help me understand. The reason that he gave me was that he cheated on me to see what I would say. I am not a vindictive person, and I know that I couldn't cheat on him. I know that I am crazy, but what should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 He sounds like a dog who can't accept responsibilty for his actions! Cheated on you to see what you would say? He only told you because of the STD OMG not only was he cheating but he wasn't even considering what could happen he didn't wear a condom he could have given you more than an STD I would dump his A$$ sorry even if you love him you deserve someone who'll respect you! Link to post Share on other sites
littleflowerpot Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 Originally posted by marydamonkey01 [font=arial][/font]I really need some advice here. I have been dating this guy that I am completely in love with, but there is a catch. About 3 weeks ago I found out that he was cheating on me, but that's not the worst part. I contracted an STD, Chlamidia, that was the only reason that he would have told me. My heart is breaking into a million pieces, and I dont' know what to do. He is the person that I have grown to love, but I hate what he has done to our relaionship. I don't know how to handle this situation, and I really need your help. Please help me understand. The reason that he gave me was that he cheated on me to see what I would say. I am not a vindictive person, and I know that I couldn't cheat on him. I know that I am crazy, but what should I do? you should dump him for the insensitive and nasty prick that he is. i'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but honey, oh honey you deserve better than that. Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer25 Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 [font=arial][/font] He told you he cheated on you to see what you would say?!?! Oh hell no he didn't! I am so very sorry for what you're going through. This guy sounds like a straight a**h***! He hasn't even taken responsibility for what he's done and telling you he did it to see what you would say is the most ridiculous thing i've ever heard. He did it because HE WANTED TO, period end of discussion. To make it worse, he was not only irresponsible with his health, he was irreponsible with yours, this isn't okay. I know you are in a lot of pain emotionally, that is the ulitmate in betrayl, and my feeling is he isn't sorry he did it, he is sorry he got caught. Don't continue to risk your health, tell him to get lost before he does something else "to see what you will say" Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Babysistah Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 WHAT!!!! cheated on you to see what you would say???? Girlfriend, I am really sorry that this has happened to you but you have to move on. Cheating is bad enough but to do it unprotected and then give your girlfriend/wife a STD....you do know that the same way that you contracted Chlamidia it could have very well been HIV.....and all because he wanted to see what you would say....WTF!!!! He got busted this time because of the STD but how many other times (especially unprotected) has he done it???? Learn from it and move on....always use condoms, I don't care how in love you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 Thank your lucky stars it's not AIDS and cut him out of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Ultragsm Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Not only her bf does that. My ex mm used to tell me stuff like " david's wife is really beautiful don't you think so" " i can't work when she is here". When i complain he told me he only said them to make me want him more. Link to post Share on other sites
Bobbie Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 You're not crazy, you're hurt and confused. I take it you saw a doctor and got antibiotics? http://www.healthsquare.com/fgwh/wh1ch11p11.htm is about the emotional implications of STD If you are thinking of staying with this guy then a counsellor can help you work out why. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Are you 100% he only gave you chlamidia? I say have an appointment and check all known STD's. HIV included! I mean not only did he cheat, but he didn't use protection either... you know that chlamydia untreated correctly can lead to infertility, right? I know you love him, that you've grown accustomed to have him around, but he treated you as badly as possible. Think about the consequences, about the pills you'll have to take, the toxines, the side effects... He did not care one straw for you, darling. So let him go, maybe he'll learn his lesson. Link to post Share on other sites
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