samsungxoxo Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Sometimes this has me wondering. My ex bf would sometimes called a goody-two-shoes but certain members in the family have mentioned how I'm really a homey-girl. I'm aware how some men classify us as wife material, gf types only and those to use for hook-ups only. Basic things about me: 1)I don't smoke nor do drugs... never have 2) However, I do drink a lot (as much as a guy) when invited to a party once in a while and tend to go more towards beers, rum and spirits 3) I don't believe in waiting till marriage but rather ''wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love'' (been a while since I'm not a virgin) 4) I'm kind of bookish and still studying 5) Atheist 6) Don't want kids just marriage Would I really be the sweet, next-door woman some are looking for? Sometimes I may still act innocent-like but not always. Or can too innocent be really boring at some point?
carhill Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 IMO, it shouldn't really matter one way or another. All the 'next door girl' types I knew were married before I reached my mid-20's. Most are happy grandparents now. I tended to gravitate towards that type and they were the bulk of the rejections I received early on. Later, I switched to bad girls for more pain and suffering
Author samsungxoxo Posted June 6, 2012 Author Posted June 6, 2012 Later, I switched to bad girls for more pain and suffering If there one thing I'll never get about them is how they can have casual relationships or do ONS. That's too wild/out of control IMO.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Sometimes this has me wondering. My ex bf would sometimes called a goody-two-shoes but certain members in the family have mentioned how I'm really a homey-girl. I'm aware how some men classify us as wife material, gf types only and those to use for hook-ups only. Basic things about me: 1)I don't smoke nor do drugs... never have 2) However, I do drink a lot (as much as a guy) when invited to a party once in a while and tend to go more towards beers, rum and spirits 3) I don't believe in waiting till marriage but rather ''wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love'' (been a while since I'm not a virgin) 4) I'm kind of bookish and still studying 5) Atheist 6) Don't want kids just marriage Would I really be the sweet, next-door woman some are looking for? Sometimes I may still act innocent-like but not always. Or can too innocent be really boring at some point? Honestly, I didn't find anything about your post pure and wholesome.
carhill Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Try having a healthy 'normal' relationship with one (bad girls)... fuggetaboutit. Perhaps that's more an indicator of vastly incompatible styles rather than 'normal'. They match up with someone and have relationships, some IME for decades. It works for them. Like someone around here once told me, keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about what others do. Perhaps not a warm comfort on a lonely evening, but I thought it to be good advice. Is your perspective vastly out of sync with female styles in your culture? Unknown. I've never been to Peru.
KathyM Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Sometimes this has me wondering. My ex bf would sometimes called a goody-two-shoes but certain members in the family have mentioned how I'm really a homey-girl. I'm aware how some men classify us as wife material, gf types only and those to use for hook-ups only. Basic things about me: 1)I don't smoke nor do drugs... never have 2) However, I do drink a lot (as much as a guy) when invited to a party once in a while and tend to go more towards beers, rum and spirits 3) I don't believe in waiting till marriage but rather ''wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love'' (been a while since I'm not a virgin) 4) I'm kind of bookish and still studying 5) Atheist 6) Don't want kids just marriage Would I really be the sweet, next-door woman some are looking for? Sometimes I may still act innocent-like but not always. Or can too innocent be really boring at some point? I'd say the heavy drinking and the not wanting kids would probably put you out of the "girl-next-door marriage material" type that guys generally look for when planning to settle down. No offense, but you asked. Most men do still plan to have a family someday, so those two things may be seen as dealbreakers for men who are interested in marrying.
Author samsungxoxo Posted June 6, 2012 Author Posted June 6, 2012 Honestly, I didn't find anything about your post pure and wholesome. That's why I asked but thanks for the honesty.
irin Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 what the hell does pure mean? and hook-ups and ONS arent always done by the obvious partying bad-girls, there are girl who act good, sweet and innocent but are just as bad, but do it with a cute innocent smile on there face like angels just fallen out of heaven.
carhill Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 From a man's perspective, one aspect of 'pure and wholesome' might be: 'I don't believe in waiting till marriage but rather ''wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love'' (been a while since I'm not a virgin)' The key phrases are 'wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love' and 'been awhile'. Back when I was a young person, no one I knew waited or wanted to wait for marriage. I was an anomaly, if not in action, then in word.
pteromom Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Would I really be the sweet, next-door woman some are looking for? Sometimes I may still act innocent-like but not always. Or can too innocent be really boring at some point? You are going to be too innocent for some guys, and you are gonna be too wild for some guys. Instead of worrying about how you appear to others, focus on finding someone who likes you for who you are and doesn't try to change you into someone else or criticize you for your choices.
zengirl Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 Sometimes this has me wondering. My ex bf would sometimes called a goody-two-shoes but certain members in the family have mentioned how I'm really a homey-girl. I'm aware how some men classify us as wife material, gf types only and those to use for hook-ups only. Basic things about me: 1)I don't smoke nor do drugs... never have 2) However, I do drink a lot (as much as a guy) when invited to a party once in a while and tend to go more towards beers, rum and spirits 3) I don't believe in waiting till marriage but rather ''wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love'' (been a while since I'm not a virgin) 4) I'm kind of bookish and still studying 5) Atheist 6) Don't want kids just marriage Would I really be the sweet, next-door woman some are looking for? Sometimes I may still act innocent-like but not always. Or can too innocent be really boring at some point? I'm very similar, except a Buddhist, not an Atheist, and I always did alright. I consider myself a girl-next-door even if I drink (I don't drink as much as I used to, by far) or swear or whatever. I think being a GND is more about how you treat people - friends, relationship partners, etc - and what you're looking for out of life, than it is about things like that.
lso802 Posted June 6, 2012 Posted June 6, 2012 As long as you like yourself, you're ok. There's always going to be someone who doesn't like you no matter what. I'm a guy, don't smoke, do drugs or drink. Don't really like the club/bar scene. Imagine my "good two-shoes" reputation.
monkey00 Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Sometimes this has me wondering. My ex bf would sometimes called a goody-two-shoes but certain members in the family have mentioned how I'm really a homey-girl. I'm aware how some men classify us as wife material, gf types only and those to use for hook-ups only. Basic things about me: 1)I don't smoke nor do drugs... never have 2) However, I do drink a lot (as much as a guy) when invited to a party once in a while and tend to go more towards beers, rum and spirits 3) I don't believe in waiting till marriage but rather ''wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love'' (been a while since I'm not a virgin) 4) I'm kind of bookish and still studying 5) Atheist 6) Don't want kids just marriage Would I really be the sweet, next-door woman some are looking for? Sometimes I may still act innocent-like but not always. Or can too innocent be really boring at some point? That list sounds like a mixed bag honestly. Probably not that pure or wholesome when it comes to being a traditional gf or wife. If you think that's pure, try dating a Mormon...haha.
Radu Posted June 7, 2012 Posted June 7, 2012 Sometimes this has me wondering. My ex bf would sometimes called a goody-two-shoes but certain members in the family have mentioned how I'm really a homey-girl. I'm aware how some men classify us as wife material, gf types only and those to use for hook-ups only. Basic things about me: 1)I don't smoke nor do drugs... never have 2) However, I do drink a lot (as much as a guy) when invited to a party once in a while and tend to go more towards beers, rum and spirits 3) I don't believe in waiting till marriage but rather ''wait for the right moment and do it with the one you love'' (been a while since I'm not a virgin) 4) I'm kind of bookish and still studying 5) Atheist 6) Don't want kids just marriage Would I really be the sweet, next-door woman some are looking for? Sometimes I may still act innocent-like but not always. Or can too innocent be really boring at some point? We judge others with the filter that we formed throughout our entire lives, filter that was affected by every interaction we had. Looking at that list, i would say your bf [ex] either didn't know or had a history of dating bad girls, and as for your family, i don't think they know every facet of your personality or if they do, you must have some nutcases in there mixed as well. In life you don't need to follow the beaten path, the safe path even though friends and family [thinking of you] will try to influence you on that path. Judging by my experience, you are deffinitely not in the 'pure and wholesome' cathegory. And most 'pure and wholesome' girls are like that by supressing whatever urges they have that go against this image. Many times they are simply firecrackers underneath. PS: Your cat's face is awesome, i have one with the same colour scheme.
Author samsungxoxo Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 That list sounds like a mixed bag honestly. Probably not that pure or wholesome when it comes to being a traditional gf or wife. If you think that's pure, try dating a Mormon...haha.Yeah sometimes I feel like I'm mixed. It's like I might have a bit of a ditzy side as well as different aspects towards life (esp the not wanting kids apart... nor staying home all day long... I want to travel one day too). However, I could never go to the extreme of sleeping with a random stranger (nor on the first couple dates) nor pick up drunken fights. I don't really use slang language in public either nor even fart in front of others.
Author samsungxoxo Posted June 7, 2012 Author Posted June 7, 2012 (edited) PS: Your cat's face is awesome, i have one with the same colour scheme. Thanks... I really adore cats and always did but can't get one. Sadly I have an allergy towards furs and dust . I think that's part of my innocence: I will pet a cat every time I see one. I guess another part is the fact of my number still being at 1 only (my ex that is). Edited June 7, 2012 by samsungxoxo
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