Analog Man Posted June 9, 2012 Share Posted June 9, 2012 That's what I am. I am already 21 years of age, still a virgin, and I still can't get a girlfriend. Every time I talk to a girl (the ones I find interesting) I have to find out they are already taken. Or are they just making that up to play with my feelings (if so, then they're just as miserable as I am if they can't find anyone)? I have been told constantly in the past by "experts" on the dating fields to lower my standards (which I will not mention here as they might offend certain groups on this site). But I refuse to. And why is that? Because if I lower my standards, I am only going to invite women of lesser quality who may likely not last that long in a relationship with me. As for how I look like, I simply refuse to put up a photo. I don't consider myself physically unattractive at all (sometimes I feel like I am "ugly" but that is just my emotions playing with my head), but if I could give anyone a good "picture" of how I look like: I look like I could have played bass for Metallica back in 1989. I have long, curly/wavy dark hair (many women have complimented me on it). I have light brown eyes. I am 6 feet tall. I weigh 210 lbs. I am naturally tan-skinned. Et cetera. I pretty much look like that "hot rocker dude from the '80s you wanted to give a blowjob to but could never get closer to him." What hope is there for me? I have tried online dating dozens of times -- often putting myself in the front by trying to start friendships with women online on sites like OkCupid -- only to end up getting moronic replies and the cold shoulder. And this is even when I put up a photo of myself on there. I just don't fit with the dumbasses in my town. I consider many of them followers of trends, instead of thinking for themselves and having the guts to call bull**** on things they don't agree with or don't like. Link to post Share on other sites
Tp101 Posted June 9, 2012 Share Posted June 9, 2012 I agree with not lowering your standards as I feel the sameway. It is no point to be with someone who you are not attracted to and not having the qualities you want. Have you tried to maybe change your style and the way you look. Idk what type of women you go for but in my opinion most decent females like a guy that is more clean cut and is up to date on looks. Do you have a job? Most of the times that is important to certain females also. It is just something to think about and it is my opinion on finding what I want cause I would like my gf to have those qualities as well. Link to post Share on other sites
MooBear Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 The most attractive thing in a man is confidence! When you walk out into the world, you need to own it! Us girls can smell insecurity and doubt a mile away and it's a big red flag. You sound like a pretty good looking guy! With that kind of look, have you gone out to your local metal bars or local gigs, places like that where there will be girls BEGGING to meet a guy like you! Not putting a pic up on online dating is tough - I would never contact or respond to someone without a photo cause I always thought they must be trying to hide something. I think a lot of people have that thought too. I've suggested this a few times tonight (just cause I'm a huge fan of it- it's worked for so many of my friends) - have you tried speed dating?? Link to post Share on other sites
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