afyreinside848 Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 I am 17 Ive never had a girlfriend,only been kissed by one girl,my ex-best friend.I was way too shy to talk to girls up untill a year ago, when I fell deeply in love with my best friend.Things went pretty well for us for about a month.But we never went out.She always told me that we didnt need to, that things were fine the way they were, I was always knew something was up but I ignored it... I thought the search was over...finally.We both had feelings for the other, or so I was lead to believe and before we could make it official she told me the reason we werent going to go out is because she had,I guess you would say, a f*** buddy, and they had been having sex on a regular basis and she was in love with him, and he didnt give a damn, he was just using her.I tried to make her see... but she wouldnt, for 8 f****** miserable months I tried to get her away from that creep, and over that time she disrespected my feelings for her over and over again. She would go into more detail about her sex life with this loser than I would ever care to imagine, she would make me think she liked me for a while, then go back to acting like she really didnt give a damn.I couldnt figure it out, how can someone treat someone like this? I cant really put it into words all that good, but to sum it all up she treated me, her so called "best-friend" like dirt.Eventually I grew to hate her and I finally got out of that situation though it ended very badly, but I wont go into that. And here we get to my question... After I finally recovered from my miserable state and after finally picking up the pieces and moving on.... I met a girl.YAY!!! Right? Not so fast...Heres the current story.Her name is Paige and she is everything I have ever wanted in a girl.We are exactly alike.Even though I have only known her for about a month I love her... And last week she told me something that sounded all too familiar, she too is in love with someone who uses her for sex and doesnt care about her, he plays mind games with her and everything...Is this sounding f****** familiar!?!??! When she told me that I had to find an excuse to leave the room because I thought I was going to break down!!! I wanted to go scream my lungs out!! Is this Lifes horrible idea of a joke!? So I need advice, am I just being negative?Is their still a chance, someone tell me this is just a coincidence and I'm NOT going in circles. Should I try and see if I can maybe get the girl this time? or should I take off running? I swear, I was depressed and lonely before I started talking to girls, now that Im talking to them... I feel all the more lonelier...please help me... I need it bad. Link to post Share on other sites
amped1 Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 thats a tough situation, you're still young man!. All you can pretty much do is give her other options and if she sees the light one day good for her. BUT live YOUR LIFE, don't be there for her at every minute or whenver she has a problem. If you do she'll run to you to fill in the void the other guy can't fill in basically she'll be using you emotionally while hes using her physically. GO out date see whatelse is out there and hoppefully one day she'll see how YOU treat other girls and she'll take notice and open her eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms_Sweetness Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Don't stress yourself, you are going to find a great girl when you least expect it. You don't need to get into anything serious with this new girl. Just be there for her, maybe she just needs a guy to talk to sometimes. SHe is going to need time anyway, especially since she is in a predominately sexual relationship. Don't venture down that road just yet. SHe is going through some things and just needs you to listen to her. Link to post Share on other sites
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