ridinbikes247 Posted June 9, 2012 Share Posted June 9, 2012 some people i am sure have followed my story. I left my wife in Feb. because she became very distant. When I left she wanted the house because she said I would "deprive" my son if I kciked them out. I gave her the house,furniture, and new car. We got separation papers quickly after. once we signed papers she cut me out of her life. She would not talk or see me. I found out after the first month she had been talking to a friend for a year and a half. She said they were just friends. (bull****) My son informed me last week he has moved in basically and sleeps in the same bed as them. She has breached our separation contract already by doing that. Needless to say the lawyer said, It's here say and I need evidence he lives there and sleeps in the same bed...... i thought that was the worst part until this weekend...she told me she was taking my son to florida with her parents for a week and a half....her parents went to florida and i thought she was with them, untill a friend informed me she seen them in south carolina at myrtle beach with her new b/f...she ignored my phone call most of the day and finally text me and said - im sorry i lied. it was a spur of the moment thing. if you take jake from me you will regret it because he will grow up without a mommy I feel like i dont deserve this much punishment. i miss my 4 year old son dearly and she could careless Link to post Share on other sites
TripLine Posted June 9, 2012 Share Posted June 9, 2012 Well she breached a contract, so you should get something out of it right? Your car, home, something? The kid needs to stay with the mom however, unless the kid is old enough to decide for himself. Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted June 10, 2012 Share Posted June 10, 2012 Don't delete her text. It can be used as evidence considering she said she lied to you. The way to get evidence of her new boyfriend living there is to hire a private investigator. Otherwise, asking your son to get involved isn't fair to him. I'm sorry that this is happening to you with your soon-to-be ex-wife. And asking people to spy on your wife and son and their home life won't hold up in court I don't think. You need to see his mail with your home address on it, for example. I don't know but you should ask your lawyer how you can get proof to help your case. Link to post Share on other sites
viktorious11 Posted June 10, 2012 Share Posted June 10, 2012 Man, I am so sorry to hear all that. You seem like you have been very accommodating throughout all this and she has just walked all over you throughout it. I don't have any legal advice, all I can say is that little 4 year old going to need his mommy and he is also going to need a strong, confident papa. I don't think there is anything you could do to change your W's actions, unfortunately, as she is clearly in too deep with this OM and doesn't seem to want to play fair. I applaud you for staying civil with her and staying relatively calm. When I was in your same exact boat just a month earlier, I sent my W a barrage of nasty text messages and emails that really did not accomplish anything but prove that she was married to an immature jerk. Stay strong, stay civil, and continue to keep Jake's best interest at the very TOP of your priority list, even if she can't seem to do the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ridinbikes247 Posted June 10, 2012 Author Share Posted June 10, 2012 Ive done my share of nasty text and phone calls. But I just got to keep telling my self "what goes around comes around". He lost all his friends and my EX has basically lost all hers now that people see the truth. They only have each other right now. But, out of the 8 years I've known him and all his other friends as well.... We all know it wont last. He has made all his Ex girls get abortions, and he treats them like a dog. Thats why it surprised me when he wanted my wife, knowing we have a 4 year old son. He has surprised EVERYONE. He use to talk about how he hated family life and kids and he just wants to be single. She said she get's the "butterflies" everytime she see's him. She said this is what love is suppose to be like and she starts preaching to me about "dont dwell in the past, when one door shuts, another opens. Her and her new b/f are made for each other,she can feel it..bla bla bla sounds like a small high school crush, yet were turning 27 this year. He is 29. I will not take her back, but I will like the day she calls me and trys to start talking again saying she messed up.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted June 11, 2012 Share Posted June 11, 2012 The kid needs to stay with the mom however, unless the kid is old enough to decide for himself. Why? Please explain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ridinbikes247 Posted June 16, 2012 Author Share Posted June 16, 2012 (edited) Just Venting. Ever since I found out she was dating my friend I told her I never want to speak or here from her again unless it concerns our son.. everything was good these last few weeks. She text me friday the 15th and offered me any furniture or aplliances in the house because apparently her new b/f is replacing all the furniture. must be nice. Edited June 16, 2012 by ridinbikes247 sons ame Link to post Share on other sites
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