phil00 Posted June 11, 2012 Share Posted June 11, 2012 Hello all. I am new here. My ex broke up with me 2 years ago. She started seeing someone right after the breakup. It was difficult, but I slowly got through it. Then we got in contact. Here's what happened... I haven’t talked to the ex in a LONG time. After about 2 years of no contact, about 2 weeks ago, I accidentally sent her a text to come pick me up because I was kinda stranded at a bar and didn’t want to risk a dui. I sent out a mass text to see if anyone was still up, and with getting a new phone, etc, the auto sync must’ve added her number to the list. I never in a million years would’ve sent her the text. But, she was one of the few to respond.I get a text asking me where I was I thought it was someone else since I knew that other person was going to be up. So I’d say where I am at about 10 minutes later I get a phone call and its the ex. I’m in shock .She said she was driving home and she can come get me. Then I heard a guy in the background saying no I’m doing is driving. That figured she was with her dude and her dude was coo I’m like yeah just come get me. So she came and got me. I introduce myself to the guy and it turns out that it was her gay friend whom she lives with now. Last I heard she was living with your long term boyfriend, but now she’s living with this gay dude and a few other women. I’m not really sure if she is still with her dude (whom she dated right after me and lived with him for about a year), all I know is that she isn’t living with him now, The gay dude goes ” I know you. I know all about you. I know more about you than you even know about you.” First thing my ex says to me is happy birthday. then she starts talking about how she misses my family et cetera. The gay dude told her to quit quit reminiscing and all that stuff whenever she got that way. Whats kinda weird is that she kept looking at the rear view mirror looking at me and saying stuff like awe isn’t he cute! And a gay guy kept telling her to stop it. Then she kept kinda rubbing my leg. She didn’t ask me if I had my keys which I did. Then she kept asking me which key was for my door et cetera et cetera. She asked me if I needed help up to bed..I told her I was fine and you could just drop me off at the corner. She said she would pick me up the next day to take me to my car. That’s when he goes no we both will take him to his car. When she got to my place she got out of the car I think to give me a hug. I got out out of the car just kinda touch her arm and thank her for answering my text. Well she never called me the next day to take me to my car. I sent her a text the next day evening thanking her for the rescue and that I really appreciated it and if she ever got stranded but I could return the favor. She responded with sure thing and that was it. A few days later I sent her a text asking if she could walk my dog because I was called out of town. It was a mass text. She replied saying she would feel weird doing that. A few days later, when I was out, I accidentally butt dialed her and a few other friends. She called me like 2 hours later, but I didn’t answer. When I saw that she had called, I didn’t realize she was calling me back, so I texted her if she needed me to come get her, because I would. Then I noticed that I butt dialed, and sent another texted saying “oops, I butt dialed, sorry”. Then this past weekend, I had a little liquid courage in me, sent her just a “hello” type of text, and then I get this message that my phone has been blocked!! When we were going through our issues 2 years ago, I never was blocked! And now, I send a total of 3 texts, and a butt dial in a span of 2 weeks, and she blocks my number! What do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted June 11, 2012 Share Posted June 11, 2012 What you do now is leave her alone. She took action and all you can do is respect that. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 11, 2012 Share Posted June 11, 2012 Continue with your life. First, you don't know if she still seeing that other dude. Might explain why the gay guy is very protective. He doesn't want her to do something that she going to regret. Trying to keep her from being a cheater. And she might have blocked you at the urging of her friends. PLUS, most anytime you've contacted her, you've been drinking which might be a turn off to her. That most times you contact her, you have to drink. Just something to think about. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Glove_slap Posted June 11, 2012 Share Posted June 11, 2012 you ****ed up. but then again what was there to **** up? forget her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phil00 Posted June 11, 2012 Author Share Posted June 11, 2012 How did I mess up? I sent her exactly 3 texts and one butt dial in a 2 week period, so I know I was not pestering her. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted June 11, 2012 Share Posted June 11, 2012 Right... I accidently mass texted everyone on my phone and I responded to the number whos number I knew was my ex but pretended I didnt but not to the others that I knew that would come pick me up. Now my ex blocked my number after a few texts and a butt dial (BULL $hit) and I dont know what to do. Quit playing dumb. You know what you're doing, as do I. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted June 12, 2012 Share Posted June 12, 2012 The best thing you can do for her is to allow her to live her life in peace. Link to post Share on other sites
macardent Posted June 12, 2012 Share Posted June 12, 2012 Just leave it dude. U did fine for 2 years. you'll do fine for the rest of the years. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phil00 Posted June 12, 2012 Author Share Posted June 12, 2012 Thank you for the advice. I guess I had a momentary episode of nostalgia and weakness. I didn't even talk about the occurances that let to our breakup, but it wasn't the nicest, and that's what I have to remember. This one meeting we had when she did me a solid and acted the way she did, it's not really how things are. We were both a little intoxicated. And whether or not her friends encouraged her to block me or not, the fact is she did, and my pride should be where I shouldn't be wasting my time on someone who obviously wants to contact with me. I wrote her a long e-mail yesterday. Not saying I wanted to get back together, but that I missed her. I was very close to sending it until I snapped back into reality. There's only 3 realistic scenarios that could've occured. She could've a) ignored. b) politely tell me that though it was nice to see me, she doesn't think it would be a good idea for us to talk again. Or, c) not so politely tell me that it's been 2 years, get over it, and her current boyfriend doesn't appreciate it. None of these is what I would be trying to accomplish, plus would make me look weak and needy. I guess I'm just a little lonely. I've dated some since our breakup, but really haven't found that type of connection like I had with her. At least, the connection I felt. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted June 12, 2012 Share Posted June 12, 2012 I hear you, I recently had brief contact with an ex of 2 years ago.... he was just dropping breadcrumbs but it was enough to catch my interest because I was in a sad place relationship-wise and feeling lonely and like I'd never meet anyone I liked as much as I once liked him. We had back-and-forth emails for a few days that got pretty mean-spirited and I ended up blocking him on facebook -- needless to say, nothing good came from our contact, aside from my learning a lesson to NEVER EVER reply to breadcrumbs from an ex! The good news is, right after that I met my current love interest who is SUCH a better match in just about every way..... be patient and have faith and when the time is right you'll meet someone who suits you much better than this ex ever did! Remember there are reasons why our exes are exes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author phil00 Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 Bump for more wise words... Link to post Share on other sites
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