FallenAngel46802 Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Ok I have a question for everyone, and I hope you can help me. I've been with my g/f for two years now, and we've just had a little baby girl 2 months ago. Well during this two years we've had our differences and have tried to work past them. She can argue till she's blue in the face, then take a breath and pick up where she left off. She's very insecure about a lot of things, I mean I can't even go to wal-mart alone without being made to feel guilty. And I do nothing but work, weight train, and come home. I've given up a lot and sacrafice everything that I have for her. And I still can't get her to get past her jealousy of anyone. If a girl that I went to high school with even says hi and do you remember me, jealousy sets off and it's a rough rough night. Oh and I never slept with the girls or even so much as hugged them. But yet she expects me to be ok with guys, that we will just refer to as guys she's dated, but she will talk with the guys and carry on conversations, and still has some of their numbers, even though I have told her repeatedly about my concerns for that. And it always comes down to we're just friends NOW. We've managed to work past that and I've pretty much made my presence known with the guys, and they won't come near if I'm around but I know they try like hell if I'm not. Well she has one ex imparticular that treated her like ****, he is a huge druggie, and pretty much got her to give up on all hope of a happy life. And though she doesn't talk to him anymore, she still remains in contact with his family, calling them or them calling her. How should I handle this? Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 Okay, now that you two have a child, it's time to stop PLAYING AROUND. By that I mean, stop the jealous nonsense, stop talking to those ex's and start raising your new family. If this is not fixed, the poor child will be involved with your arguments. Why don't you try some marriage counceling. Yes, even if you are not married, it still can help. You two have a child to raise, and I'm sure you both want to give that child the best life she can possibly have. I went through the same thing with my husband. We both talked to ex's. Jealousy wasn't too big of a deal but it was there. Once we had our baby girl (shes 20 mos now) we both decided to sacrifice/give up our past people. We still are okay with talking to people of the opposite sex, of course, it's a normal thing, but ex's are not allowed to interfere with our relationship/marriage. Think of your daughter, tell your gf to start thinking of her daughter. I know you guys are (I assume) good parents, but the fighting, is it around her? Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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