sad puppy Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 Yep. Do you think he's told his wife he's been texting you again? You CAN'T possibly KNOW how he's feels about starting this contact again. One thing's for sure - it gets you on his mind again! Your ego feed may cost HIM his Marriage!!! How is that ok for YOU? Think before you ct! Go get your ego feed from an available man! Stop causing potential harm to him/his M by communicating. Wow, just wow. You cannot be serious. Once again, somehow, it is all the fault of the OW and the MM has NO RESPONSIBILITY to his own marriage. Completely laughable. Barr is walking her own path. MM is walking his. Barr is not cheating on the person she said vows to - the MM is. Truly a sad state of affairs when the BSs continue to put all the blame on the OW. Wow, you really give these cheating men a free pass. Nice. For the cheating men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sad puppy Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 You contacting- even in this so called " innocent" exchange could very well cause the end for them. It would for me if my then H had ANY exchange with his OW. Your selfishness of reaching out is your ego stroke at the expense of costing him his M. I hope you're happy with yourself. Lol, and here we go again, the poor little cheating man is not responsible for his own actions or for the health of his very own marriage. Barr, girl, do whatever you need to do to keep moving forward. If reaching out to him is what you needed to confirm that your relationship is over, do it. Everyone must make their own choices and everyone must accept their own consequences. Doesn't matter who you are, where you are. It is often that I read people meet up with their exes, and wonder "what was I ever thinking". THAT, is very helpful. Helps put those ghosts to bed. Keep moving forward, Barr, I actually think you are doing great! Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 what reason is there for her to reach out, in the first place?! it makes no sense, if she's truly over him. people don't do things without reason. I wasn't defending whether or not she needed to reach out. I already said earlier that I wouldn't have. But I disagree that she's ruining his marriage by contacting him. HE already ruined his marriage by cheating and by bringing Barrsitter into his life, and by now responding to her contact....he did not have to do any of those things, and him choosing to do them, and it possibly ruining his marriage is his fault not hers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Artie Lang Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 (edited) no doubt his marriage is already ruined. they're both to blame. but why contact? just as he's guilty for responding, so is she for initiating in the first place- she instigated the contact. we already know he's a douche, but she's here posting that she's "over it." i beg to differ. engaging in this behavior(communication) makes no sense, if you've moved on. Edited June 15, 2012 by Artie Lang 1 Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 I East's last thread where he got lots of support was when xMW contacted him - he didn't break any NC to look her up and chit chat and through that contact he was talking about how he moved on - so I think the difference is who broke NC. You nail it TC ! I NEVER...ever...tried to contact xMW. I could, but I had no desire to contact her. My life is busier and happier...Why on earth would I want to contact xMW? I don't even have nostalgia moments, it's history..gone. Did I love her? Hell I did so much ! But it is dead, no more butterflies, no emotions, nothing. And I wasn't the one to kill it. She did. As a side note, I would say that I never wanted to be friends with her since the A ended. Being friends is the most pointless thing you'd want from someone who didn't want you anyways. btw - I love your signature - Did you write that? I totally love it! Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds inspired from a Lady Antebellum's song "If I knew then"..(the second half is different though) Link to post Share on other sites
TurningTables Posted June 17, 2012 Share Posted June 17, 2012 You nail it TC ! I NEVER...ever...tried to contact xMW. I could, but I had no desire to contact her. My life is busier and happier...Why on earth would I want to contact xMW? I don't even have nostalgia moments, it's history..gone. Did I love her? Hell I did so much ! But it is dead, no more butterflies, no emotions, nothing. And I wasn't the one to kill it. She did. As a side note, I would say that I never wanted to be friends with her since the A ended. Being friends is the most pointless thing you'd want from someone who didn't want you anyways. Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds inspired from a Lady Antebellum's song "If I knew then"..(the second half is different though) East, I do hope you or LG do not think that I was flaming you. I respect you both. It just seems like there are two standards for sets of posters here. I understand where TC is coming from in her post to me, but I guess I see it like this. Barr contacted him. He wrote back to her. If she got the closure she seeked, then that's great! It will help her move on. If she just broke NC to break it because of : insert reason here, its ok too. Because each time we as OM/OW break NC we learn something new. Mabye she did do it for the wrong reasons, only Barr knows. I guess I just wanted people to give her some slack. NC is hard enough without everyone jumping on you all the time. Its suffering in silence sometimes. Oh and TC: The song is from Katy Perry. Its called Wide Awake. You can find it on YouTube. I love this song because its how I feel about xMM and my life now. Its a very empowering song. Link to post Share on other sites
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