Top 10 Insane Acts Performed by my Ex.

[wilsonx]

Its the truth. Look at her actions. Would you want to be in a relationship with someone acting like that?

 

I wouldnt, I would peace out, heal and find someone that wouldnt act like that.

 

If more people stand up for themselves, and stop hiding behind other people's actions, there would be more successful and happy relationships.

 

The only person you have to blame on your happiness or the way you are treated is yourself. Not your ex or your friends/family/ current relationships

[crazyaboutcrazy]

Its the truth. Look at her actions. Would you want to be in a relationship with someone acting like that?

 

I wouldnt, I would peace out, heal and find someone that wouldnt act like that.

 

If more people stand up for themselves, and stop hiding behind other people's actions, there would be more successful and happy relationships.

 

The only person you have to blame on your happiness or the way you are treated is yourself. Not your ex or your friends/family/ current relationships

 

I take full responsibility for sticking around when I should have walked away.

 

Not sure what that has to do with her wanting me to break up with her first though?

[ihateslowjams]

Honestly, copingGal, thanks for this very useful information. I know it doesn't mean she's diagnosed or confirms she has it, but I'm pretty damn sure she does hahaha

 

Its making me feel MUCH better about the break up and better about myself. This whole time i thought the breakup was because of me and my current status in life. However, now I'm starting to think its her issues of projection and HPD. I was a great bf to her, but she was trying to find excuses to get out of the relationship because of all the "new" friendships she gained and the "new" things they all do together.

 

I just hope nothing bad happens to her and she can control herself when she parties and other "new, fun, exciting" stuff. I would hate to get a call from her telling me something horrible happened and i need to help her... every time something bad happened throughout the relationship, she knew she could rely on me the most because none of her friends would help her.

[wilsonx]

She didnt want to feel guilty for doing the dirty deed. So reread those 10 things she did to you.

 

She did 10 VERY WRONG things to you. At any of those moments in time, you should have said, " ok I do not want to be treated like this, obviously you do not respect our relationship enough to act like an adult and work through this. Good Luck. " And walk away. If you would have done that at number 10. You would have 9 less things to be angry at her and yourself for.

 

Make Sense?

[crazyaboutcrazy]

She didnt want to feel guilty for doing the dirty deed. So reread those 10 things she did to you.

 

She did 10 VERY WRONG things to you. At any of those moments in time, you should have said, " ok I do not want to be treated like this, obviously you do not respect our relationship enough to act like an adult and work through this. Good Luck. " And walk away. If you would have done that at number 10. You would have 9 less things to be angry at her and yourself for.

 

Make Sense?

 

Fair comment. I'm not angry about any of it though. I put that list together to remind myself of ten reasons I should be glad she's gone.

 

I still miss the madness some days.

[ihateslowjams]

i know what you mean crazyaboutcrazy. it kinda made it interesting? haha if my ex came back in time, id probably get back with her, but i will never reach out to her anymore and i know she has too much pride to come back.

[crazyaboutcrazy]

wilsonx, you make a good point but I disagree that she acted that way to alleviate the guilt of leaving me. I brought her back from another country to live with me, but once the reality of living with a man who has children set in, things went downhill. She became increasingly angry that I wasn't solving the "problem" of having an ex-wife and children, and I in turn became frustrated with her to the point where we became emotionally abusive towards each other.

 

She wanted me to find a solution to the situation and I wasn't willing to abandon my kids until she felt comfortable with the situation. At this point I should have walked away, because the relationship was impossible to ever fix, but both of us wanted it to work out on some level.

 

Finally when she did leave it was because she felt terrified of me. By this point, I was so guilty for driving her away and having brought her back from overseas that I continued to try to support and help her. Things began to get better and she encouraged me to fix the arrangements with the children, but when I finally did she demanded that I not pick them up (a "test" she claimed she wouldn't have allowed). I refused, and she realised that she could never be "#1" in the way she needed to be to me and told me never to contact her again.

 

That was a week ago, and I'm glad that I finally did the right thing and stood my ground at long last. Once she realised she no longer had power over me, she cut all ties and vanished.

Edited June 15, 2012 by crazyaboutcrazy

[wilsonx]

ACTIONS...words.

 

She didnt want to break up with you, she wanted you to break up with her.

 

10. Signed me up for online dating while were together. (LOL *HINT* I WANT YOU TO DATE OTHER PEOPLE BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO DATE YOU ANYMORE)

 

9. Cut up half of my wardrobe with a butcher's knife. (Im going to cut up all his clothes and see if I can get away with it.... yup I did it it, hes a loser)

 

8. Tried to 'kill' herself twice. (SHE WANTED SPACE FROM YOU AND THOUGHT SUICIDE WAS THE ONLY WAY TO GET AWAY)

 

7. Smashed my laptop and then started crying when I threatened to throw hers in the sink. (She smashed your personal property. Yet you just threatened her. Chump behavior.... didnt stand up for yourself again ACTIONS...words)

 

6. Wrote bizarre emails to my mother and ex wife about how we were going to get a court order to see my children, when my ex wife was willing to sit down and work it out. (Purposefully sabotaging your relationships with family so that you would break up with her)

 

5. Called me at work because I left the garbage bin in the wrong spot and threatened to throw my work imac onto the street if I didn't come home to move it immediately. (LOL... please GOD COME HOME AND BREAK UP WITH ME... END THIS PLEASE)

 

4. Pushed me into a table so hard I broke my little toe. (I guess since hes letting me treat him like a bitch Im going to beat him up)

 

3. Punched me in the head so hard she gave me a black eye. (Read #4)

 

2. Threw a crystal whiskey decanter at my head. (Read #4)

 

1. Asked me not to go home to meet my kids when they got dropped off as a 'test' to see if I could 'put her first', later claiming she would have made me go if I had actually agreed. I didn't, so her reaction was threatening to call the cops if I ever contact her again, despite the fact that her phone is in my name, she took half of my stuff and owes me over a grand! (SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH YOU ANYMORE SHE TRIED TELLING YOU 9 OTHER TIMES.... SHE FINALLY THREATENED YOU WITH THE COPS.....)

[crazyaboutcrazy]

ACTIONS...words.

 

She didnt want to break up with you, she wanted you to break up with her.

 

10. Signed me up for online dating while were together. (LOL *HINT* I WANT YOU TO DATE OTHER PEOPLE BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO DATE YOU ANYMORE)

 

9. Cut up half of my wardrobe with a butcher's knife. (Im going to cut up all his clothes and see if I can get away with it.... yup I did it it, hes a loser)

 

8. Tried to 'kill' herself twice. (SHE WANTED SPACE FROM YOU AND THOUGHT SUICIDE WAS THE ONLY WAY TO GET AWAY)

 

7. Smashed my laptop and then started crying when I threatened to throw hers in the sink. (She smashed your personal property. Yet you just threatened her. Chump behavior.... didnt stand up for yourself again ACTIONS...words)

 

6. Wrote bizarre emails to my mother and ex wife about how we were going to get a court order to see my children, when my ex wife was willing to sit down and work it out. (Purposefully sabotaging your relationships with family so that you would break up with her)

 

5. Called me at work because I left the garbage bin in the wrong spot and threatened to throw my work imac onto the street if I didn't come home to move it immediately. (LOL... please GOD COME HOME AND BREAK UP WITH ME... END THIS PLEASE)

 

4. Pushed me into a table so hard I broke my little toe. (I guess since hes letting me treat him like a bitch Im going to beat him up)

 

3. Punched me in the head so hard she gave me a black eye. (Read #4)

 

2. Threw a crystal whiskey decanter at my head. (Read #4)

 

1. Asked me not to go home to meet my kids when they got dropped off as a 'test' to see if I could 'put her first', later claiming she would have made me go if I had actually agreed. I didn't, so her reaction was threatening to call the cops if I ever contact her again, despite the fact that her phone is in my name, she took half of my stuff and owes me over a grand! (SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH YOU ANYMORE SHE TRIED TELLING YOU 9 OTHER TIMES.... SHE FINALLY THREATENED YOU WITH THE COPS.....)

 

Well played, sir. You've delivered a water-tight case.

 

I actually feel a lot better about what happened after looking at it from this angle. Cheers wilsonx.

[CopingGal]

Well, if you read my posts, you'll see that my ex had Antisocial Personality Disorder (Sociopathy) traits and Narcisstic Personality Disorder traits. It was a horrific situation that I got out of. Most things that were done to me were covered up with lies and done behind my back, but when I found out, I was severely damaged, while my ex continued to think what he did to me was a-OK. The last contact I had with him was in April when I told him he was dead to me. I never met a person who was so dysfunctional and mean and I hope I never will again.