danny8630 Posted June 29, 2004 Share Posted June 29, 2004 There are articles in LoveShack that are similar but not exactly accurate to my situation... My first love and I have been broken up for a month after 4 months of dating. It was the best four months of my life. However she has taken on many new challenges in life and was probably the reason for our breakup. She has a new job with close to ridiculous hours and she attends community college. She had to call the relationship off because worrying about keeping me happy was also a burden on her shoulders. We both agreed to stay in contact and spend time with each other even though we broke up. I didnt know that meant like a 90% reduction in communication and stuff overall... We have 'messed' around a few times in the month, and we still say "I love you". Last night, i taped some flowers with a short note of assurance to her bedroom door so when she got home from work at 4am she could see them. She came home in a bad mood and it instantly changed... she called and told me she was really happy to get them and said i made her night and that she loved me so much. Today we went to the movies and shared a little bit of flirting both ways. I guess my situation is that i dont know what to do. I did put my life on hold for her which now i know was a huge mistake. I can safely say that i don't wait around for her to call me as much as i used to. I do my thing with my friends more often now. I just don't understand what to expect, I've never done something like this so im going through with this with a blindfold. Link to post Share on other sites
LuvnCntry Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Danny, It sounds like you're on the right track...Finding other things to do, etc....The flowers and note were a nice touch...I guess that's the hard part, how to be a friend with letting the other feelings take over...maybe she'll realize what a catch you are...maybe she just needed some room to get used to life...only time will tell...in the meantime...stay sweet, stay her friend, but let your life grow... Link to post Share on other sites
Author danny8630 Posted July 1, 2004 Author Share Posted July 1, 2004 Thanks for your advice... It's really hard sometimes, but some other times the feeling wears off to where it almost doesn't bother me. I think about when she is alone sometimes if she ever feels like calling me and saying Hi, but it doesn't happen. Like i said we say "I love you", but if she really did she would try to make an effort to talk to me at least. This is strange but I need a reason to call her...For example, i cannot just call her and say hi and ask her what she is up to; There has to be a reason for my call or else she would simply say "so why'd you call?"...This annoys me just a little bit and i dont know what to think of it. It does sound bad and it probably is, i just dont want to admit it to myself because its not what i want to hear. Link to post Share on other sites
LuvnCntry Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 I know exactly what you mean...calling to just say hi, to hear their voice....but you don't want to seem....."stupid" in their eyes....I actually love it when a guy calls and says he just wanted to say hi, to hear my voice....makes me melt... when she says "why'd you call" do you tell her that you just wanted to say hi...that you were just thinking about her? and then keep the call brief...tell her to have a great day....and then hang up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author danny8630 Posted July 2, 2004 Author Share Posted July 2, 2004 well, since she had been saying "so why'd you call", my recent calls have been invites to hang out with me later that day. I called last night and of course she said it and i said "well to say hi". and we talked for like 5 or 6 mins. I'm through with this girl though. I'm so fed up with thinking about what shes doing or when shes going to call me, I'm just done. i dont know how im going to not call her, it will be hard but it has to be done. Link to post Share on other sites
It's me luvncntry Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 i feel your pain danny....i get the same way...why on earth should I call....when 1/2 the time he doesn't answer...the other 1/2 he supposedly never gets the call...cell phones can really suck....and then I go 3 days without initiating the call and zip from him....you would think that one would want to at least say hi every day....WHATEVER ----luvncntry Link to post Share on other sites
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