Sleepless in Seattle Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 Before you all jump down my throat, I had NO clue. We'd always been "flirty" with one another, but never took it further than that (until recently.) Prior to my getting involved with him on a more intimate level, he would constantly whine to me about how his "ex" supposedly cheated on him - and I, in turn, opened up to him about a lot of stuff as well. We had a really strong emotional connection. Well, turns out his "ex" is really his SOON TO BE WIFE. Looking back on it now, there were always red flags there, but I was too "blinded" by his words. He knew exactly what I wanted to hear and when I needed to hear it. I'm just hurt because I invested so much in this guy, only to be blindsided and got my heart stomped on. Now that I know everything, I still don't think his fiance even knows he's cheating... and the worst part is I also now know I'm not the only "other" woman in his life. He tried texting me last night asking for my help with something but I told him off. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 Never see or speak to him again. DO NOT fall for ANY crap he may try to sell you to try to get you back. The guy is a total scumbag bastard. To purposely lie and lead you on like that is INTENTIONAL and MANIPULATIVE on his behalf. Just shows what type of person he is. He isn't the man you fell for.. Far from it. Sorry he hurt you. Link to post Share on other sites
sunflower5 Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 Don't walk...RUN...from this guy. You deserve better. Ignore him and go on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
HHC Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 The fault was not that you trusted him, but that he betrayed you. Trusting in people is an amazing gift. Don't put yourself down because he was a liar Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 Before you all jump down my throat, I had NO clue. We'd always been "flirty" with one another, but never took it further than that (until recently.) Prior to my getting involved with him on a more intimate level, he would constantly whine to me about how his "ex" supposedly cheated on him - and I, in turn, opened up to him about a lot of stuff as well. We had a really strong emotional connection. Well, turns out his "ex" is really his SOON TO BE WIFE. Looking back on it now, there were always red flags there, but I was too "blinded" by his words. He knew exactly what I wanted to hear and when I needed to hear it. I'm just hurt because I invested so much in this guy, only to be blindsided and got my heart stomped on. Now that I know everything, I still don't think his fiance even knows he's cheating... and the worst part is I also now know I'm not the only "other" woman in his life. He tried texting me last night asking for my help with something but I told him off. Good thing it ended now before you got in even deeper. Goodybe and good riddance to him. Also...be suspicious of any man who whines about their ex. Chances are, they are not in an emotionally healthy place for a relationship. So unless you don't mind being a rebound...RUN the other way if a man you're seeing is always on and on about his ex. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 Before you all jump down my throat, I had NO clue. We'd always been "flirty" with one another, but never took it further than that (until recently.) Prior to my getting involved with him on a more intimate level, he would constantly whine to me about how his "ex" supposedly cheated on him - and I, in turn, opened up to him about a lot of stuff as well. We had a really strong emotional connection. Well, turns out his "ex" is really his SOON TO BE WIFE. Looking back on it now, there were always red flags there, but I was too "blinded" by his words. He knew exactly what I wanted to hear and when I needed to hear it. I'm just hurt because I invested so much in this guy, only to be blindsided and got my heart stomped on. Now that I know everything, I still don't think his fiance even knows he's cheating... and the worst part is I also now know I'm not the only "other" woman in his life. He tried texting me last night asking for my help with something but I told him off. You did nothing wrong. You were lied to. You didn't know he was engaged. So this is not on you, unless you continue with him, then it would be on you too. So break it with him. And his fiance deserves to know he is a dog before they get married, because marriage isn't going to stop him from being a cockhound. His fiance needs to know. You can always send an anonymous letter if you prefer, but she needs to know one way or the other. Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 How do you know you were not the only 'other' woman in his life? How would you know that, but not know that he was engaged? I would venture to say as she found out that he was engaged, she also learned that he was seeing other women as well. One after the other, as she says I "also now know" she's not the only OW. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowShark Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 He lied to you. He's lying to his poor unsuspecting fiance.. what a total douchebag. Dump him like yesterday's garbage because that is exactly what he is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sleepless in Seattle Posted June 15, 2012 Author Share Posted June 15, 2012 These text messages I got from him yesterday are golden. Especially the part where he says he's been single since 2010. Lie! Then he called me a tranny. http://i47.tinypic.com/2n03eb8.jpg http://i46.tinypic.com/o5usg5.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 I think his fiancé deserves to know. Link to post Share on other sites
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