PinkFlowers Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 I seen to have social anxiety but my issue I'm concerned about today is... I get irritated by certain people after a certain about of time after knowing them. Whether its a few days or months, but I can't control it! I try not to be stubborn but I think it's worst the just being stubborn. I try not to show irritation but that only leads to me being very quiet around the person. Or I will try to avoid them. In my case today, I have a boyfriend I have been with for about 4 months. He claims he love me and I said it back but I'm not too sure. Well actually I don't love him but I don't know how to deal with it. I'm trying to stick in the relationship because I'm now bearing his child so I'm thinking it's just pregnancy horomones. But the things that is turning me off have everything to do with his whole being. I gave him a chance in the 1 st place because he can be a good bf but in general he can be irresponsible and has a bad attitude and bad manners. I don't know what to do Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 in my opinion, therapy is always a good idea. Always something you can learn to handle better about yourself, relationships, communication, and coping with things. I think I understand what you are saying and it sounds like you are coming from a negative place. the way we feel about ourselves is often directed at others. Do it now, before the baby arrives..because after you will not have time or patience. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 Ask your obstetrician for a referral and advise him/her of your current emotional state. It's very possible there are organic causes which are treatable, and I don't mean with 'happy pills'. The body is a chemistry set and pregnancy throws a big wrench into the works. Ask for help. It's out there. When you say you don't love your BF, has that always been the case or is it a recent development? If always the case, have you ever loved anyone? The brain chemistry of 'love' can elude some people through no fault of their own. It's just blocked somehow. If you've loved others and know the difference in emotional content, then proceed to 'did you ever love your BF?' and work that issue. IMO, a professional is likely your best bet, in conference with your medical doctor. Team approach Don't forget to include your BF. He's part of the team too, and the father of your child, and loves you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 I wanted to add ..PinkFlowers...it really really can and will get better. Have to learn and see what works for you..but you do not have to live your life with anxiety, anger, insecurity, and frustration. XX trust me on this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PinkFlowers Posted June 13, 2012 Author Share Posted June 13, 2012 Ask your obstetrician for a referral and advise him/her of your current emotional state. It's very possible there are organic causes which are treatable, and I don't mean with 'happy pills'. The body is a chemistry set and pregnancy throws a big wrench into the works. Ask for help. It's out there. When you say you don't love your BF, has that always been the case or is it a recent development? If always the case, have you ever loved anyone? The brain chemistry of 'love' can elude some people through no fault of their own. It's just blocked somehow. If you've loved others and know the difference in emotional content, then proceed to 'did you ever love your BF?' and work that issue. IMO, a professional is likely your best bet, in conference with your medical doctor. Team approach Don't forget to include your BF. He's part of the team too, and the father of your child, and loves you. Good luck. Thank so much I'll keep this in mind Link to post Share on other sites
Author PinkFlowers Posted June 13, 2012 Author Share Posted June 13, 2012 I wanted to add ..PinkFlowers...it really really can and will get better. Have to learn and see what works for you..but you do not have to live your life with anxiety, anger, insecurity, and frustration. XX trust me on this one. I really appreciate it, thanks Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 If your pattern is getting sick of all people eventually, I hope you put this baby up for adoption and give it two loving parents who will be there for 18 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Seneca Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 I think I understand what you are saying and it sounds like you are coming from a negative place. the way we feel about ourselves is often directed at others. So true. I used to feel irritated and annoyed by people. Even with family and my best friends. But now I realize my feelings of annoyance was really just a mirror of my feelings toward myself... I no longer have these negative feelings and I'm more carefree today. But it all starts with the self. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PinkFlowers Posted June 13, 2012 Author Share Posted June 13, 2012 If your pattern is getting sick of all people eventually, I hope you put this baby up for adoption and give it two loving parents who will be there for 18 years. I DIDN'T SAY EVERYBODY, I clearly said certain people Definitely none of my family members Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted June 13, 2012 Share Posted June 13, 2012 I'm against counseling. Think it's used or thrown out there too much. In my situation, God reveals all. Follow your heart. If you do not feel you are In love with your boy friend, why put an unnecessary burden on yourself. Your baby is yours. Uncertain feelings about your boyfriend: The relationship should be put on hold, and to not consider any permanence, i.e. marriage at this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PinkFlowers Posted June 13, 2012 Author Share Posted June 13, 2012 I'm against counseling. Think it's used or thrown out there too much. In my situation, God reveals all. Follow your heart. If you do not feel you are In love with your boy friend, why put an unnecessary burden on yourself. Your baby is yours. Uncertain feelings about your boyfriend: The relationship should be put on hold, and to not consider any permanence, i.e. marriage at this time. Makes sense Link to post Share on other sites
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