Cheated

[jankyd]

Being married was my first real relationship with someone and I cheated on my husband. He knows everything and wants me to tell him how I am going to fix it or make things better. I'm looking for advice on how to do that.

[Bryanp]

Hello,

 

My first question to you is why did you cheat? How would you feel if your husband did to you what you did to him. Remember right now you have betrayed him in the worst possible way. He has images of you having sex with this other man. He probably feels you don't really love him. You must show true remorse and seek counseling as to understand why you would betray your husband, your marriage and put you and your husbands health at risk. You will have to answer the question why your husband should trust you now. Again it is hard to understand your situation until you tells us why did you cheat? I have always personally followed this advise when I was ever unsure of my actions. I would ask myself how would I feel if my wife was doing to me what I was thinking of doing to her. You may want to consider it too.

I wish you luck.

[Grinning Maniac]

You're not giving us much to go on. Could you give a little more backstory to your marriage and the affair?

[Karlise13]

How did he discover you cheated?

 

Were you caught or did you sit down and tell him the truth?

 

The reason I'm asking is because it's very different to be caught in a lie than to do something wrong but make the confession of your own volition.

 

When you decide to confess something, at least you're letting them know that your concious hurts and you want to come clean.

When you're caught, the person who catches you knows that you probably would have continued your behavior if you hadn't been busted.

 

So that could make a big difference from your husband's standpoint.