Kobefied27 II Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 So my girlfriend and I are back together and we both decided that if we were going to get back together it would be serious. We both reassure each other that we love each other. But for some reason I've been a little more insecure about myself. I feel like I'm digressing back into how I was before. I don't know why I feel jealous of her, because I know she wouldnt do anything...she tells that I'm like this because I love her and I dont want to lose her which in a sense is true. I feel like I lost confidence in myself like I did the first time around, and women like confidence. Anybody have any pointers on what I should do or could do?....It's weird because just tonight, she was talking about this guy who does have a girlfriend and she doesnt even think he's cute and I still got a little jealous. I seriously don't want to ruin a great thing here, things have been so amazing that I dont want to lose it. I seriously feel like I'm the girl in this relationship. I get kinda angry when she jokes about it because some times I think it's true....whats wrong with me? Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Jealousy is usually indicative of a lack of trust for your partner. Perhaps confidence is not an issue here. To start with, it may be a good idea to discuss how you are feeling with your girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 You already 'lost' her once so now you're more fearful of loss this time 'round. It's natural. Just stick it out - as you get closer again, the fears will subside. Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Jealousy is not good for relationships. Faux is right about the trust. You have to let your partner to have friends of opposite sex and trust them. Remember that you don't own her and can not decide for her who to see or who to talk to. After all, she decides her own feelings for herself, not you. You need to let it go and trust that she will always come back to you, but don't let Jealousy ruin your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Kobefied27 II Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 You guys have very good points. And thats true...besides if she ever did cheat, that just meant that there was something else wrong in the relationship and i'm confident enough to say that i see nothing wrong with our relationship...i was just about to create one though until you guys set me straight. I need to trust her more. Our communication is becoming more open and really strengthening our relationship so i told how i felt and she reassured me. I just have to take it day by day, thats always worked for me. I kinda lost sight of that and I need to stop worrying about tomorrow all the time when today is happening right now. Any other pointers? Link to post Share on other sites
locogurl Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 When you get that freaking message in your head change it. You can just keep telling it to shut up or tell yourself something reassuring - like - She Loves me and I trust her. Time will help. Link to post Share on other sites
Kobefied27 II Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 I don't know if anybody has ever felt like this before...but usually there are some days where I know I'm going to see her and I feel like something is going to go wrong....like I have this bad feeling. Its almost like whne I get there my vibe and rhythm wont be the same. Does anybody get that?...like you feel like when you see her you are going to feel so outta sync that you kinda don't want to go anymore?....I think too much I think, but every time I have that feeling I feel like she either is irritated or doesnt want to see me...but in the end she doesnt feel remotely like that at all. My question is how can I get that negative jitters and vibe out of me...because there are most times where I just cant wait to see her...I felt that this morning then I spoke to her on the phone and I felt weird...I get like that some times....seriously its all me huh?...all in my head? Link to post Share on other sites
stressed30 Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 hey I am feeling exactly the same way about my girlfriend and the repsonses have really helped me in my mind. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
stolenlove22 Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font][color=violet][/color]\ Ok im 14 and i weigh 130 lbs, and I'm 5'6....Is this normal?? I sometimes think I'm fat then other times i don't. Is there a weigh i get down to 100lbs before September?!?! I need major help! Reply or email me at [email protected] much love Link to post Share on other sites
the_opposite_sex Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 stolenlove22, why didnt you just start your own thread? Link to post Share on other sites
stolenlove22 Posted August 14, 2004 Share Posted August 14, 2004 i dont know how lol Link to post Share on other sites
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