CopingGal Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Here are some resources. Please feel free to add to this list and indicate what kind of abuse the resource helps with. Type of abuse: psychological/emotional Other info: abuse caused by psychopathic/sociopathic people 1- A Perfect Target (Blog) by Catherine Entry: A Perfect Target: Beware the techniques of the Sociopath Blog Homepage: A Perfect Target 2-Snakes in Suits, By Robert D. Hare (recommended by Catherine [see above]) Amazon.com: Snakes in Suits: When Psychopaths Go to Work (9780060837723): Paul Babiak, Robert D. Hare: Books 3-The Sociopath Next Door Amazon.com: the sociopath next door: Books Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Thanks for the resources, copinggal. Reading those links has left me wondering how to tell the difference between a plain old selfish person and a diagnosable sociopath. Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopingGal Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 (edited) Yes. Here are my thoughts. Google "Antisocial Personality Disorder" and look at the symptoms. Sociopaths/Psychopaths have that disorder. Some people like my ex just have very strong traits. Look at sites that have DSM-IV criteria. You can also Google "Cluster B" as other personality disorders that are related are classified into Cluster B personality disorders Sociopaths/Psychopaths: -are VERY selfish -are constant liars -have NO remorse for the things they do- that is the big symptom here, no remorse, no conscience -tend to blame others when they do bad things -are very manipulative -pretend to be caring, pretend to be concerned, pretend to love -are very, very charming in the beginning of the relationship -constantly use people in their relationships There are more symptoms as well. Most sociopaths are not dangerous, but I don't want to be around them because I think people who have no conscience are capable of anything. Very dangerous people with these and more symptoms are referred to as psychopaths, but in general people in society use the terms interchangeably. People with the actual personality disorder are extreme. Most people who show these behaviors just have strong traits. I was warned to stay away from my ex by a former boss of mine, before I found out that my ex cheated on me. The couple's therapist told me my ex has Antisocial Personality Disorder traits (sociopathic tendencies) and traits of Narcissitic Persoanlity Disoder. She told me to stay away from him and that she didn't believe one word that came out of his mouth in therapy. Edited June 14, 2012 by CopingGal Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Gosh. See for me the hardest part about breaking out of the abuse was her use of projection from day one. I got hit, it was my fault. She was raging, it was my fault. I even got blamed for her missing a doctor appointment--and I was at work! Just yesterday I couldn't even get her to agree with me on a reasonable amount of time for phone conversations with our children. She cuts mine short. Yet she wont agree to a time amount because, god forbid, she actually has to abide by an objective rule. Her rules change daily--always to fit her needs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopingGal Posted June 15, 2012 Author Share Posted June 15, 2012 Sorry you went through that. Being involved with my ex taught me....really, really take your time. If someone tries to rush you, they are not worth it. Next time, I will take much more time in getting to know someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 The best book I have ever read on abuse was written by a Dr who worked with over 2000+ male abusers, it's called "Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men" [COLOR=#990000]http://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-That-...do+men+do+that[/COLOR] Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 I've recommended a book several times on this board before which I think has a lot of valuable information and insight into emotional and verbal abuse: The Verbally Abusive Relationship, by Patricia Evans. It outlines the types of verbal and emotional abuse, and how to respond to it, as well as gives an good glimpse into the motivations of the abuser, and really helps you to see the dynamics of this type of abuse (emotional/verbal). That's probably one of the best books I've read on the subject, and I've read a lot of material on the subject. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopingGal Posted July 14, 2012 Author Share Posted July 14, 2012 Thanks everyone. Those seem like good sources. Please, everyone feel free to add more sources. Link to post Share on other sites
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