Stoneman70 Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 During the day, I'm okay. It's been about 7 weeks of NC...I'm still sad at night, but getting better. What I can't get over is that I dream of her each night almost. I wake up and think wow another dream of S... Anyone else go through this? Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 7 weeks of rehab, congrats. *applause* I think you are doing just fine. All your emotions won't just disappear it will take time. You still have some more stages to go through. Dreams happen from time to time. Some will be wonderful others unpleasant. How are you coping? Are you still firm on choosing what's expected of you by your family/religion? Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 What, specifically, are you doing to rebuild/reconcile your marriage? What changes are you making, what actions are you taking? What are you actively DOING to change your focus off of S? Link to post Share on other sites
RickFox Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Stop trying to analyze everything that comes along in regards to your A. Stop looking for meaning and realize this is just how you're dealing with the loss. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 What, specifically, are you doing to rebuild/reconcile your marriage? What changes are you making, what actions are you taking? What are you actively DOING to change your focus off of S? Listen to Owl If what he says falls on deaf ears then do the right by your wife and end your marriage It seems to me at the moment that you are trying to romanticise your affair - remember, affairs do not represent real life (former WS posting here) Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 Dreams are yor subconcious discharging emotions you did not allow, or suspressed during the day in conscious thought. It is a cleansing and necessary for mental health and stability. What EXACTLY did you dream? What happens in the dreams, and the feelings they provoked, are MORE important than the players who appear in them (though the players can be related and of importance.) How did YOU feel as they were your dreams? Powerless? Confident? Weak? Insecure? Lost? Confused? Sad? Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 You will dream about what is on your mind. Stay busy and tired. No time to even "think of" S - and you won't dream of S! Link to post Share on other sites
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