socrushed Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I just got back. I'll spare the details. Except that we went bareback and I didn't have a good time because the head of my penis was too sensitive(uncircumcised and i don't have sex so the head is hyper sensitive) so everything I did with her just hurt and I couldn't get off. I've always had problems with depression and anxiety. Now I feel even more depressed, because of my terrible performance and because of how I felt so anxious during the sex. Like i was so self conscious of how bad I was at sex and I was afraid she was pressuring/judging me. Cause I couldn't get off and went past the time limit. Now I feel so embarassed and ashamed. I'm so scared that somebody will find out that I saw a prostitute. I think I would just die if that happened. I was already soooo embarassed when the ****ing cleaning maid at the motel came in and she opened the door for her while totally naked as I was about to leave, and then there was money on the bed as I walked out and tried not to make eye contact. jesus that's cringe worthy. am i just going to be a total loser forever? do i have a chance to recover from this? Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I just got back. I'll spare the details. Except that we went bareback and I didn't have a good time because the head of my penis was too sensitive(uncircumcised and i don't have sex so the head is hyper sensitive) so everything I did with her just hurt and I couldn't get off. I've always had problems with depression and anxiety. Now I feel even more depressed, because of my terrible performance and because of how I felt so anxious during the sex. Like i was so self conscious of how bad I was at sex and I was afraid she was pressuring/judging me. Cause I couldn't get off and went past the time limit. Now I feel so embarassed and ashamed. I'm so scared that somebody will find out that I saw a prostitute. I think I would just die if that happened. I was already soooo embarassed when the ****ing cleaning maid at the motel came in and she opened the door for her while totally naked as I was about to leave, and then there was money on the bed as I walked out and tried not to make eye contact. jesus that's cringe worthy. am i just going to be a total loser forever? do i have a chance to recover from this? All of these worries should be secondary to STD concerns. You need to go get tested ASAP. Bareback with a hooker??! Are you nuts??! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author socrushed Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 what are the chances of getting an std? isn't it a very low chance for std to transfer? well she told me she was clean and she doesn't go bareback often... maybe she saw how clean and young i am and decided it would be ok with me? anyway that's actually not my primary concern. because my emotion is in turmoil right now about all those other things that you say is secondary.. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 What are you doing to improve your skills in dealing with regular women to date? Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 No escort/prostitute should allow bareback, that's the rules. Get tested my friend. You obviously didn't see an escort who was understanding of your virginity plight. I think that was probably a little bit haphazard on your part. You're not a loser though, so try and get that out of your head. I would possibly see a therapist about your depression and anxiety, as that will not do wonders for any future sex life you hope to have. Good luck . Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 All of these worries should be secondary to STD concerns. You need to go get tested ASAP. Bareback with a hooker??! Are you nuts??! Seconded, you really trust the word of a hooker? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Joaquin Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 It's very dangerous to have unprotected sex outside of a committed relationship. To have unprotected sex with a hooker is Get tested for STI's and when all clear take your time and meet a girl who won't force a time limit on your "performance". Link to post Share on other sites
Author socrushed Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 she was very nice though, she acted like she was in a rush but her words itself were nice and it was clear she wanted me to have a good impression on her even though she wanted to get it over with and move on to the next client since i went past the time limit. i don't know. I was so horny and worked up on the phone and when she asked me if i had a condom, I said no, and she told me to go get some. well i'm too ****ing scared to buy a condom in the morning right next to a motel where everyone will know that i'm buying a condom to bang a hooker. so i told her i'm going to leave, and then she said wait, i'll give you bareback for 1/4th the time. so I was horny and just said yes. she was really nice and pretty though, i'm still thinking about her a little. Getting that crush feeling... i'm just scared i might have an std, ashamed somebody will find out, and lonely that she didn't actually like me but just wanted my money. so again I want to ask what are the chances of catching an std? and.... how do i start dating, i have no social circle.... am i going to be ok... Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 what are the chances of getting an std? isn't it a very low chance for std to transfer? well she told me she was clean and she doesn't go bareback often... maybe she saw how clean and young i am and decided it would be ok with me? anyway that's actually not my primary concern. because my emotion is in turmoil right now about all those other things that you say is secondary.. The risk of contracting HIV from an infected partner via vaginal intercourse is less than 1 in 100. The risk of contracting gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, herpes, or a whole host of other diseases, is exponentially higher. Estimated to be as high as 50% chance. 1 in 3 people have an STD. Given that statistic, I'd guess close to 99% of hookers have STDs. Your complete disregard for your own health is scary and sad. Your sexual "performance" won't even matter if you're facing warts, chancres, burning, itching, and internal symptoms that are far worse. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 You are gonna be ok. Everyone else covered the STD fears, so I won't. But I would get tested. Look, most first sexual experiences aren't that great. They are awkward and uncomfortable, and nobody knows what they are doing. And for most of us, our first time was with someone we trusted and liked. Add the extra awkwardness of being with a stranger who is also a professional, and yes... it makes sense that it didn't go well and that you didn't finish. You tried, and I actually give you props for that. It was brave of you to GO FOR IT, even if it didn't go as expected. As far as how to start dating, since you have no social circle, FIND ONE (or more). Do you have hobbies? Find a meetup group that has to do with a hobby. Take a class at the local college. Go to book clubs or other local meet ups. Just put yourself out there and make yourself talk to people. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 If ever there was a case against male virgins relieving their sexual frustration by visiting a prostitute, this is it ..... Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 I admire that you had the courage to see a hooker/escort. I would like to do the same to get rid of any anxiety. Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 she was very nice though, she acted like she was in a rush but her words itself were nice and it was clear she wanted me to have a good impression on her even though she wanted to get it over with and move on to the next client since i went past the time limit. i don't know. I was so horny and worked up on the phone and when she asked me if i had a condom, I said no, and she told me to go get some. well i'm too ****ing scared to buy a condom in the morning right next to a motel where everyone will know that i'm buying a condom to bang a hooker. so i told her i'm going to leave, and then she said wait, i'll give you bareback for 1/4th the time. so I was horny and just said yes. she was really nice and pretty though, i'm still thinking about her a little. Getting that crush feeling... i'm just scared i might have an std, ashamed somebody will find out, and lonely that she didn't actually like me but just wanted my money. so again I want to ask what are the chances of catching an std? and.... how do i start dating, i have no social circle.... am i going to be ok... Um...of course she just wanted the money. SHE'S A HOOKER! Stop being so concerned about people finding out and what they might think. Start worrying about yourself! You sound like you could really benefit from therapy. You're young. Not having sexual expertise is nothing to be ashamed of. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 The risk of contracting HIV from an infected partner via vaginal intercourse is less than 1 in 100. The risk of contracting gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, herpes, or a whole host of other diseases, is exponentially higher. Estimated to be as high as 50% chance. 1 in 3 people have an STD. Given that statistic, I'd guess close to 99% of hookers have STDs. Your complete disregard for your own health is scary and sad. Your sexual "performance" won't even matter if you're facing warts, chancres, burning, itching, and internal symptoms that are far worse. Depends on where this hooker is and whether she works on the regulated side of the fence..."legal" prostitutes don't have STDs... Link to post Share on other sites
verhrzn Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Why in the world did you not use a condom? Why why why why?! Link to post Share on other sites
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Depends on where this hooker is and whether she works on the regulated side of the fence..."legal" prostitutes don't have STDs... That's why I said 99% instead of 100%. I was assuming she was an illegal hookers as the guy sounds pretty young and the "bunny ranch" type legal hookers cost big $$$. Link to post Share on other sites
RedFemale Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Why in the world did you not use a condom? Why why why why?! At least he is getting some, unlike lonely fat chicks with low self worth...but I digress. Hey OP, did you came inside of her? That would of been BOSS! Link to post Share on other sites
verhrzn Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 At least he is getting some, unlike lonely fat chicks with low self worth...but I digress. Hey OP, did you came inside of her? That would of been BOSS! Fat ugly chicks with low self esteem but 0 STDs > Guy who lost his virginity to a prostitute while seriously risking his sexual health and future income (bet she told him she on birth control as well as being clean, right?) Link to post Share on other sites
Author socrushed Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 um ok.. so going to an std clinic is pretty embarassing for me as well. I assume there's a long waiting time, and then they just do a visual inspection and then I pee in a cup? do I need to wait a couple days for the stds to show up on the piss test first? and... she got really good reviews. so when she said she's clean, and then i **** her and i got gonnrhea or something, that would totally ruin her business. she seemed worried about me giving her a bad review. I told her i learned a lesson that sex isn't that great if i'm with someone i don't really know, then she got worried and said "but wait, my service was good right? you won't give me a bad review for that will you?" argh i don't know why i did that. I don't know why SHE did that. she didn't know me and she's this clean looking young girl with a good professional reputation as a prostitute, and she lets me have bareback sex with her. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 That's why I said 99% instead of 100%. I was assuming she was an illegal hookers as the guy sounds pretty young and the "bunny ranch" type legal hookers cost big $$$. Yea, and the legal ones would probably never risk their livelihood by going bareback... I still find this thread questionable... Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 um ok.. so going to an std clinic is pretty embarassing for me as well. I assume there's a long waiting time, and then they just do a visual inspection and then I pee in a cup? do I need to wait a couple days for the stds to show up on the piss test first? and... she got really good reviews. so when she said she's clean, and then i **** her and i got gonnrhea or something, that would totally ruin her business. she seemed worried about me giving her a bad review. I told her i learned a lesson that sex isn't that great if i'm with someone i don't really know, then she got worried and said "but wait, my service was good right? you won't give me a bad review for that will you?" argh i don't know why i did that. I don't know why SHE did that. she didn't know me and she's this clean looking young girl with a good professional reputation as a prostitute, and she lets me have bareback sex with her. STD tests draw blood. And most STDs won't show on a test taken this soon. BS meter starting to blink and beep more loudly... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author socrushed Posted June 14, 2012 Author Share Posted June 14, 2012 (edited) a big reason i did this was because, if you look at my post history, i'm totally infatuated with a girl at work who doesn't care about me. and i wanted to have sex with another girl to get over her. and i guess it kind of worked. because now that infatuation feeling i have is transferred a bit to the hooker... and i'm not thinking about the girl at work at all. Edited June 15, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Response to deleted post Link to post Share on other sites
RedFemale Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 STD tests draw blood. And most STDs won't show on a test taken this soon. BS meter starting to blink and beep more loudly... It takes one to have one.... Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 STD tests draw blood. And most STDs won't show on a test taken this soon. BS meter starting to blink and beep more loudly... Don't they also stick a big Q-tip thing up the guy's penis? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted June 14, 2012 Share Posted June 14, 2012 Get circumcised and try again. And use a condom! Link to post Share on other sites
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