I'm a virgin and I went to a see a hooker today..

[Ross MwcFan]

Oh you're gonna pay, not in the straightforward manner of the transaction you just completed, but pay you will. Them's the breaks.

 

As far as the loneliness goes, get out of the house and get some exercise, call some family or friends you haven't talked to in awhile to say hello.

 

I don't thin he's talknig about that sort of loneliness.

[Drseussgrrl]

Forget about crushing on this girl. It was just the encounter that drew you in.

 

I don't think it's a huge deal that you went to a hooker.

 

Wait a few weeks and go get tested. I'm sure you're fine, but please, in the future, unless you're in a committed relationship you should use a condom every single time. Capiche?

 

In the meantime, start working on your confidence. Start working out. Women are attracted to confident types. The guy I'm dating right now is not my type physically but boy is he confident and does he ever make me laugh. That goes a long way.

 

Sex is so much better with someone you are emotionally invested in. Don't forget that.

[stillafool]

OP calm down! No one is going to find out that you saw a "Professional". She certainly isn't going to tell anyone. Now, go to the store and buy a pack of condoms just in case you decide to do this again. Get them on the way to the clinic to get tested for STDs.

[socrushed]

i can't do this again.. i really shouldn't.. it's expensive.

 

i'm actually feeling a lot of attachment right now. like, I want to see her again. i keep thinking about her. I guess that's what happens when i'm so desperate and deprived of intimacy.

 

Here's the thing. I was infatuated with this girl and couldn't stop thinking about her for the longest time. Now, I had sex with this hooker, and i'm feeling that same attachment, and it transferred over so easily.

 

maybe if.... i have sex with one or two more hookers, that infatuation feeling will start to disperse onto multiple women and i'll stop being attached to a single woman? and i'll start to truly see sex and love as no big deal, and maybe it'll help me grow...

 

but my job sucks, almost minimum wage, so it'll be a big investment to follow thru with this .. "experiment"..

[dasein]

Get out and exercise, break a sweat and tire yourself out. That industry and the people in it are pros at sucking out your money, it's the truth behind the game. My buddy spent 16k on a hooker in a month before we knew about it and could stop him. Don't be like my buddy whatever you do.

[KathyM]

Here's a little dose of reality before you start investing too much money in this new hobby:

 

80% to 100% of prostitutes have genital herpes.

Genital herpes is a lifelong condition with no cure. Once you get it, you have it for life, and you get occasional outbreaks of the sores/lesions.

Genital herpes is passed on through skin contact, and can be transmitted even if a condom is used.

 

All it takes to get genital herpes is one incidence of contact with an infected person.

 

An infected person can transmit the disease even when they are not having an active outbreak, and the virus is dormant.

 

I suggest you have an STD test immediately, and at the one month mark, the three month mark, and six months after contact, since some STD tests cannot detect an STD until six months after contact. Please don't take foolish risks with your health.

[manup]

Here's a little dose of reality before you start investing too much money in this new hobby:

 

80% to 100% of prostitutes have genital herpes.

Genital herpes is a lifelong condition with no cure. Once you get it, you have it for life, and you get occasional outbreaks of the sores/lesions.

Genital herpes is passed on through skin contact, and can be transmitted even if a condom is used.

 

All it takes to get genital herpes is one incidence of contact with an infected person.

 

An infected person can transmit the disease even when they are not having an active outbreak, and the virus is dormant.

 

I suggest you have an STD test immediately, and at the one month mark, the three month mark, and six months after contact, since some STD tests cannot detect an STD until six months after contact. Please don't take foolish risks with your health.

it depends on the type of test he gets

[kiss_andmakeup]

"She looked healthy..."

 

Oh my god...I feel like I'm in 8th grade watching a sex ed video. The way a person's "genitals" "look" is no indication of their sexual health.

 

Get over this attachment thing STAT. By any means necessary. She is a hooker. She does not want to date you. Much less do you want to date a hooker.

[socrushed]

i typed her phone number into google and she showed up on a forum that talks about picking up hookers on the streets. some guys said they picked her up and she gave a bare blow job but no mention of uncondomed sex.

 

still, ****. So she's a street walker. i can't ****ing believe myself. she seemed sooooo nice and friendly. I just wanted to believe everything she said to me. now i could have just ****ed myself over.

 

and the worst thing is, i'm still feeling some attachment. i'm thinking about what her life is like. Why did she decide to be a hooker? does she have a pimp? is she being abused? is she happy with her life? why does she seem like such a sweet person? man. this blows, am i falling for, literally, a ho?

[mortensorchid]

Guy, I can only think of a scene in a James Joyce novel where he was going out with this "nice girl" and later that night he went to a hooker because he didn't want to touch the "nice girl". Is this why you have done this? You wanted to loose your virginity so bad that you went to a hooker to do it? How old are you, by the way?

[socrushed]

I wanted to get over this girl at work that I can't stop thinking about.

 

I guess I got my wish. now I can't stop thinking about the hooker.

 

I'm 23.

[SarahRose]

please get the std test. you can get them free at a clinic. please don't just not do this.

 

also please make an appointment for counselling. i promise you that this will be much more productive, safer, and less expensive than hookers.

[irin]

why did you hate being a virgin so much is not like your 40yo. im sure there are girls that wouldve appreciated being your first.

 

i wish i could find a virgin guy.

[dasein]

Uh, by the time HIV shows its 'symptoms', you can usually start booking your funeral arrangements.

 

Yeah, because playing it safe and getting a checkup after having condomless sex with a prostitute is paranoia. Right.

 

No, getting a checkup is not paranoia, the above quote of yours is most definitely though. The year is 2012, not 1987.

[johan]

Lesson learned. You didn't hurt anyone else, and you learned something about yourself. This could be a good thing for you in the long term.

[William]

Let's stop the armchair diagnosis of 'troll threads'. Report them, definitely. If I search for the word 'troll' or 'trolling' on the forum, I want to see 'no results found' henceforth. Thanks.

[WonderKid]

I didn't use a condom with the very last escort I did. Stupid--I know. The condom was too little I think and it broke while I was going dogstyle. She liked it quite rough so when it broke I actually "felt it" and it felt too good to stop.

I got tested thank goodness I'm okay. But she told me she tests herself weekly.

But as far as falling for those women it's being naive. They only see you as a big ass dollar sign. LoL

[casey1989]

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But as far as falling for those women it's being naive. They only see you as a big ass dollar sign. LoL

 

True Story

[socrushed]

True Story

 

so i noticed the thread right below this one is about hookers too. skimmed it, and apparently you are an escort?

 

mind giving me some insight on what's going on in this girl's head?

 

why was she so nice and friendly, but she street walks, or used to, and does bareback with someone she doesn't know(me)? she's only 20 years old. she's young and healthy looking. it's not like she's some 40 year old desperate crackwhore who can't get any business without doing bareback.

 

why would she lie to me, too? she clearly was worried about my reviews on her. if she actually gave me an std, obviously i'm going to give her a god awful review and completely ruin her reputation. she has so much to lose if she was lying about the fact that she's clean, as she told me.

 

this is why i keep believing that she's actually telling the truth that she's clean. but every other sign points to her lying to me. she didn't even get a good look at me, just talked to me on the phone and looked at me from outside the window before offering me bareback because she wanted more money. she kept asking if i'm a cop as if that would've made a difference if i was actually a cop, and she talked about her services over the phone. so she's not very savvy...

 

so she's either telling the truth, or she's just really dumb and doesn't think ahead and got greedy...

[casey1989]

so i noticed the thread right below this one is about hookers too. skimmed it, and apparently you are an escort?

 

mind giving me some insight on what's going on in this girl's head?

 

why was she so nice and friendly, but she street walks, or used to, and does bareback with someone she doesn't know(me)? she's only 20 years old. she's young and healthy looking. it's not like she's some 40 year old desperate crackwhore who can't get any business without doing bareback.

 

why would she lie to me, too? she clearly was worried about my reviews on her. if she actually gave me an std, obviously i'm going to give her a god awful review and completely ruin her reputation. she has so much to lose if she was lying about the fact that she's clean, as she told me.

 

this is why i keep believing that she's actually telling the truth that she's clean. but every other sign points to her lying to me. she didn't even get a good look at me, just talked to me on the phone and looked at me from outside the window before offering me bareback because she wanted more money. she kept asking if i'm a cop as if that would've made a difference if i was actually a cop, and she talked about her services over the phone. so she's not very savvy...

 

so she's either telling the truth, or she's just really dumb and doesn't think ahead and got greedy...

 

She's nice and friendly because you are paying her, no other reason.

 

She has no way of knowing she is clean unless she was tested immediately before she saw you, coming from her last client. If she get's tested at all it might be once every months max, so who knows what goes on in the time between.

 

Wait you paid her more money to have bareback? Then my friend you have been completely duped.

 

I think you need to get this perception that just because she was nice, she's anything other than looking for your money. People can be nice, if they have enough incentive.

 

It doesn't matter if she was lying or if she genuinely doesn't know, or if she's telling the truth. You just need to go to the clinic, be honest (say you were with a sex worker) and get tested.

 

Then leave this sorry mess behind you.

 

She is starting to sound more like a drug addict in my opinion.

[socrushed]

yes, what happened was i asked for a quickie blowjob cause i had no condom, and she offered me full bareback quickie if i pay her the hourly rate. she didn't even see me yet except through a window from the motel when i was walking out of my car.

 

for sure i'm getting tested after 3 weeks to make sure everything shows up on the test.

 

but listen. she's not just going to recklessly offer bareback to everyone, will she? after some searching i think i found some posts saying she has a kid. she's only 20 years old. she's young and pretty. would she really just **** up her life like that? it's a 100% guarantee she'd **** up her body quick if she just offers BB to anyone willing to pay. and she has so much to lose to do something so dumb..

 

bah. i have some social anxiety about these situations. i should call her and try to fish some answers out of her, but i'd feel so nervous.

[casey1989]

yes, what happened was i asked for a quickie blowjob cause i had no condom, and she offered me full bareback quickie if i pay her the hourly rate. she didn't even see me yet except through a window from the motel when i was walking out of my car.

 

for sure i'm getting tested after 3 weeks to make sure everything shows up on the test.

 

but listen. she's not just going to recklessly offer bareback to everyone, will she? after some searching i think i found some posts saying she has a kid. she's only 20 years old. she's young and pretty. would she really just **** up her life like that? it's a 100% guarantee she'd **** up her body quick if she just offers BB to anyone willing to pay. and she has so much to lose to do something so dumb..

 

bah. i have some social anxiety about these situations. i should call her and try to fish some answers out of her, but i'd feel so nervous.

 

She might do, it's her choice and her body.

No you shouldn't call her. Why would you? What answers?

It's none of your business what she chooses to do with her life.

 

If you phone her you will just piss her off.

 

Get over this emotional attachment.

[KathyM]

It's not enough to get tested after just three weeks. Some STDs cannot be detected from tests until six months after exposure. You should get tested now, and at the one month mark, the three month mark, and the six month mark. Only after six months has passed and the tests turn up negative can you consider yourself disease-free.

[socrushed]

i woke up today. i thought about the act for way too many hours.

 

wow. Sex and intimacy is ADDICTIVE. i'm craving more.

 

what should i do... ? obviously you know what i want to do.. but what should i really do if i want to make my life better in the long run?

[KathyM]

i woke up today. i thought about the act for way too many hours.

 

wow. Sex and intimacy is ADDICTIVE. i'm craving more.

 

what should i do... ? obviously you know what i want to do.. but what should i really do if i want to make my life better in the long run?

Cool it, Romeo. Don't think with your little head--it will get you into trouble. Jerk off if you have to, and then seek out a normal relationship with someone who could actually have real feelings for you. And don't have sex with anyone else until you've been tested after the six month mark and are certain you are clean.