Nickster1971 Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 (edited) In Feb 2012, a girl who I know out of the blue contacted me on a dating site, she actually knew me for many years because we were in the college and when I used to work she came in once and was hinting that she had no boyfriend and this was six years ago, we dated for a while and we got close and I fell in love with her however about a month into the relationship we slept together and after the second night of sleeping together she hinted that she was going to die her hair and said you may not see me for a few weeks, anyway I got text a day later saying she had done her hair and it was green! so she was upset, so I said dont worry still come down cause it was valentines in a few days and I wanted to treat her but she sent a devostating message that we should not be together, its not you, its me type of thing - but she still wants to be friends which obviously i went into stress mode we cut contact for a while. We did not talk for a while and then she added me again on FB and we were talking for a while and I was showing my feelings to her and suddenly she became nasty with me regarding my weight which at the time was quite heavy so she said to me "THE ONLY REASON I AM NOT WITH YOU IS CAUSE OF YOUR WEIGHT, CAUSE YOU MAKE ME FEEL LIKE A WOMEN" and then she said I still like you but the weight was a shock cause when we were younger I was very slim, so I started going to the GYM and now am loosing weight for myself but we had lots arguments and it seemed to settle and she said I been getting chatted up at her works, but she said she not interested and then she also said I have a date with guy on Sat night a few months ago, which I replied "Enjoy your self" then out of the blue she said "I THINK WE SHOULD TRY AGAIN", which I replied "ARE YOU SERIOUS?" and she said "YES, I THINK WE BE GOOD TOGETHER" and these messages went on for a few weeks and I was talking on the phone with her regular and out of the blue one morning she said I need your help -- will you get me a contract phone?(not a cheap either) and I said ill think about it, she was quite pushy and then I said I cannot sorry, she became really moody and nasty with me saying "Dont you trust me" which I replied "I am having problem with my bank" which I was, I then decided to contact a friend of hers and mine and that threw my ex into really being nasty cause our friend was one of her best friends which then my ex started saying " I lost the trust in you because you told her our private business " which I only said to this girl that I loved my ex and few small convos but nothing to intimate as they say. Anyway I think our friend got a bit cheesed off cause I was stressed with what was going on and so we stopped contact me and our friend, but I still have my ex on my FB and she messages me regular anyway I did send this to my friend who is not on my FB any more. "there is one thing i know sometimes i seem very flirty its just the way i am in chat but nothing is serious about it, to be truly honest i still have feelings for caroline and they are very deep.. and id always be faithful to her." Anyway my ex (caroline) started being very friendly with me sending messages with kisses which is quite odd for her and then sent this message to me which is:- (June 11) Caroline - listen u fancy goin out sat nite to a pub and a curry x Nick - if you are serious xx Caroline -why wouldnt i be we are friends But I just cannot get my head around if she is playing me for a fool, usually I can spot this stuff right away and very good at it.. but the truth is last year... I went to spitual medium and she said a lot things would happen this year and most of it has included caroline contacting me out the blue, but she also said I would settle down with caroline by the end of the year??? WTF I usually dont belive in that stuff but she knew things no one else does and practicly to the word which made me convinced. Also:- If caroline is playing me, why does she go really jealous If I mention talking to other girls included her friend I dont talk to anymore? Its a hard one... Also the spitual women said ... we would fall deeply in love with each other, and some ways I can see it happening but I so mixed up what to do or whats going on maybe someone can help??? Edited June 15, 2012 by Nickster1971 Add more Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 Man this is ridiculous. She is obviously using you and everything reads as she only wanted you back as things with the new guy didn't work out. You're a backup plan for when she gets too lonely and needs attention or an ego boost. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nickster1971 Posted June 15, 2012 Author Share Posted June 15, 2012 (edited) The weird thing is she has had no other guy, But before me she had been out of a relationship for 7 years which made her very shy, she kept saying guys were asking her out for dates but she said she happy the way she is but like said she seems to want me to talk to when she is lonely. But further to previous.. when I was talking to my other friend, caroline was being very nasty to her saying really nasty & weird messages as if she was jealous ... or had not changed her mind ... its so strange ... i personally think shes of her trolley..now A different is going to be played thank you ... [sIZE=5][COLOR=#990000]Philosoraptor[/COLOR][/sIZE] Edited June 15, 2012 by Nickster1971 Update Link to post Share on other sites
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