Why aren't women nice?

[xisnotx]

I'm so frustrated right now...I just can't get it together...

I've just gotten out of a relationship. So, I'm playing the field, I guess. The field sucks...

 

I went to a club...and I just can't get psyched about any of the girls there. A girl gives me the green light...and I just ignore her. I know she's a b1tch..or a slut..or both. I'm not trying to meet girls with an attitude...so I just ignore any girl that comes off as such...which is most girls at the club.

 

And then you see a girl that looks like she might have some quality about her...but you can't really approach her because that gives her the power to reject you. And really, how are you going to go up to a girl and promise her the world when you haven't figured yourself out yet?

 

So then you approach a girl...just to be doing something...and she cops an attitide. I can't tell you how many times some ugly girl has been snippy with me...I have half a mind to tell her off, but getting into it with a stranger isn't worth it..so you just take it and move on. Honestly though, if I get sufficiently angry because some girl is being disrespectful, I'm going to let her have it.

 

Anyway, the easy conclusion is that clubs aren't the place to meet girls. I'm in college, so you'd think that meeting girls would be easy...but beyond classes, it's not. And when I'm in class, my mind is usually on the class itself...not on girls.

 

I've been single for 24 hours...and it's horrible. I can't go back, because I've burnt that bridge...but a part of me wants to. But, I'd be disrespecting myself if I were to..so I can't.

 

I just wish I had someone by my side who I could confide in. And grow with. Why is that so hard? You'd think I was asking for the moon..the way some of these girls act.

 

So, where would I meet a girl who is interested in that sort of relationship?

 

And how do you deal with being rejected? My ego is hurt...and it's looking like I might snap.

 

Why do girls reject a guy anyway? Especially if he just wants to talk, and dance a bit, and get to know you more...why is that so evil?

 

You get to know a girl as a friend..and that's all you'll ever be. But I'm not looking for a friendship...I'm looking for someone who I can grow with..and be intimate with.

 

Life sucks..and right now women are to blame.

 

Just wish girls were nicer, that's all.

[d'Arthez]

I've been single for 24 hours...and it's horrible. I can't go back, because I've burnt that bridge...but a part of me wants to. But, I'd be disrespecting myself if I were to..so I can't.

You are so not ready to date. And you are probably giving off that vibe to everyone as well.

[xisnotx]

You're probably right...but I miss caring for someone else.

I'm distant by nature...but I give a lot of thought to whomever I'm with. Without that person there, I become too isolated. Mean and bitter..and it doesn't help that girls contribute to that.

Being single is hard...you're constantly in your own head, which festers self doubt.

 

With a girl around, everything is much more defined. What you need to be doing is easy to figure out...just take her interests into account and intergrate them into your own. She provides a sense of practicality that I otherwise lack.

 

I've been officially single for 24 hours...but I haven't seen the girl for a month and a half. The long distance thing wasn't working..beyond other issues..

 

Just wish girls weren't so defensive...guess it's hard as they probably get talked to by every other guy...

 

I don't like being like every other guy, though.

[NXS]

Do you have any good male friends?

[Glass Bead]

And how do you deal with being rejected? My ego is hurt...and it's looking like I might snap.

 

You get your stuff straight. The other side says no and you accept it. As you mentioned above it's easing her interests with yours. And it's not the end of the world - that part of your life has changed but everything else remains the same. I've heard quite a few painful nos and my way to deal with them is to keep repeating to myself: 'it's over - stop trying to go back'

 

Why do girls reject a guy anyway? Especially if he just wants to talk, and dance a bit, and get to know you more...why is that so evil?

 

Would you like to have a girl who you're not interested/attracted to be around you and acting like that?

 

You get to know a girl as a friend..and that's all you'll ever be. But I'm not looking for a friendship...I'm looking for someone who I can grow with..and be intimate with.

 

Life sucks..and right now women are to blame.

 

Just wish girls were nicer, that's all.

 

My best dates/relationships with women all started just like that, seeing if we could be friends first, communicate and care, before taking it or not to the next level.

 

I'm not defending all women - I've met quite a few that I discovered afterwards that they were toxic/radioactive to me. But thing is, even the nicer people can reject your romantic approaches - it's our right, we don't have to be stuck to people we don't want to. It's really a matter of knowing when to move on and learning the lessons you need - you'll get plenty of change/rejection on your life.

[xisnotx]

I have a decent number of close male friends...not as many as some, but enough for me.

And many non close male friends...people I hang out with maybe once a week.

 

Don't see the relevance, though.

[nobmagnet]

Im 42

 

sigh its all so sad. You want a lady.............I wish you luck with your attitude:laugh:

[Ninja'sHusband]

You need to find *friends* first. Friends develop into something more. I dunno, maybe I just don't have that *it* thing, but hitting on and pursuing girls has never gotten me anywhere. The times I've been most successful was when I was just having fun being myself, full of energy, silly, confident. Then they came to me. I met my wife when I was in college, I was hitting the dance clubs as well. The difference though was she was part of a group from our dorms that would all go out together(I was the driver). I knew her already. She was hitting on me ^^ All I was doing was dancing like a complete idiot. That and I played guitar in a rock band, she started going to the shows. We finally started talking and going on walks, things developed from there.

 

So, what worked for me? Yeah just being me, having fun, not pushing anything. I think women like someone who has great energy and confidence and aren't needy and pathetic. Every time I've pursued someone it's just fizzled and died like I was some pathetic loser.

[no_clue]

I dont like looking at people when walking by them i just look straight ahead im not the type to say hey how u doin all that other crap,i just want to be left alone and ive got a mean face i think cause alot of people dont even bother to say hi to me anyway. Your right to many women have an attitude. One thing i cannot stand is when an ugly girl thinks im looking at her in that way even though my eyes are trained straight ahead maybe its my antisocial awkwardness cause ill notice them keep looking back at me like im trying to look at their ass or something, yeah right. I just get pissed n mutter under my breath im not looking at u ugly bitch!