Do any of you OM/OW ever call the WS out for what a basketcase he or she is?

[LoveTKO]

 

 

You are helping her betray him and stealing time away from the marriage. Why do you care? My thinking is, you really don't. You just want the sex and don't like hearing her talk much.

 

Well duh! I admire your power of deductions....lol!!

 

 

Here's the deal: she has already divorced herself sexually from her husband and they both agree that there are some serious issues in that department. If she's wasn't having sex with me she would be back to using her toy and thinking about some other man. She--like all married women who decide to have an affair--already made up her mind and I'm just someone who fits her requirements.

 

It's not that hard to figure out Nofool4U. They're been married for 20 years and she wants some fun - just do it but don't talk crap about your husband. I probably would get along with him!

[nofool4u]

It's not that hard to figure out Nofool4U. They're been married for 20 years and she wants some fun - just do it but don't talk crap about your husband. I probably would get along with him!

 

And its not hard to figure out that if you are going to mess around with a MW, you look quite ridiculous complaining about the words she has for her husband.

 

Don't buy a dog if you don't want to hear it bark.

 

Point is, its ridiculous for you to complain about what she says, or anything else for that matter. You wanted to bone a married woman, you got it. So quit your complaining.

[LoveTKO]

And its not hard to figure out that if you are going to mess around with a MW, you look quite ridiculous complaining about the words she has for her husband.

 

Don't buy a dog if you don't want to hear it bark.

 

Point is, its ridiculous for you to complain about what she says, or anything else for that matter. You wanted to bone a married woman, you got it. So quit your complaining.

 

 

 

...and I think that it's ridiculous for you to lack reading comprehension skills.

 

Why do you repeat the same things over and over in your posts?

[FelicityShot]

And its not hard to figure out that if you are going to mess around with a MW, you look quite ridiculous complaining about the words she has for her husband.

 

Don't buy a dog if you don't want to hear it bark.

 

Point is, its ridiculous for you to complain about what she says, or anything else for that matter. You wanted to bone a married woman, you got it. So quit your complaining.

 

I like that - don't buy a dog if you don't want to hear it bark.

[LoveTKO]

I like that - don't buy a dog if you don't want to hear it bark.

 

I didn't buy the dog; just taking it for a walk once or twice a week....

Edited June 23, 2012 by LoveTKO

[nofool4u]

...and I think that it's ridiculous for you to lack reading comprehension skills.

 

Why do you repeat the same things over and over in your posts?

 

I read things just fine.

 

Why repeat? Because you don't get it.

[It's Just Me]

I'm new, so forgive me, but...

 

Unless someone's been either the other man, or the other woman in an extra-marital affair, why on earth is anyone sitting in judgment of others in here? And even if you already are, or have been... all situations are different.

 

As near as I can tell, people come here and post in the hopes of getting some clarity on a certain aspect of their lives. To berate them for their choices is like looking in the rear-view mirror while driving a car. Not productive - in fact, quite useless.

 

My two cents.

[woinlove]

I'm new, so forgive me, but...

 

Unless someone's been either the other man, or the other woman in an extra-marital affair, why on earth is anyone sitting in judgment of others in here? And even if you already are, or have been... all situations are different.

 

As near as I can tell, people come here and post in the hopes of getting some clarity on a certain aspect of their lives. To berate them for their choices is like looking in the rear-view mirror while driving a car. Not productive - in fact, quite useless.

 

My two cents.

 

The OP is an OM who is simply expressing his opinion on WS who berate the BS and asking what others think. I don't see that as judgment so much as not liking to listen to the WS judge their spouse.

[It's Just Me]

The OP is an OM who is simply expressing his opinion on WS who berate the BS and asking what others think. I don't see that as judgment so much as not liking to listen to the WS judge their spouse.

 

 

Yes, I am aware of that. I'm referring to the "don't buy a dog if you don't want to hear it bark" comments.

[woinlove]

Yes' date=' I am aware of that. I'm referring to the "don't buy a dog if you don't want to hear it bark" comments.[/quote']

 

Okay. On the dog comment, I can kind of understand the sentiment that if you are having a sexual relationship with a MM/MW, knowing they are deceiving their spouse about it, it seems a bit like splitting hairs to want them not to say anything negative about their spouse. On the other hand, my own experience as an OW is that affairs are not that rational, so I can also kind of understand the OP's perspective on this. For one thing, I never wanted to be reminded of the betrayed spouse even though logically I knew she existed. Such compartmentalization, splitting hairs, whatever, is not uncommon in affairs.

 

ETA. not sure pointing out such inconsistencies on a thread meant for discussion of this topic is sitting in judgement. On the other hand, it is often only after one is out of the A that one can appreciate the compartmentalizations and rationalizations. Still maybe hearing them argued, even during the A, will resonate with some and give them a new perspective that might be useful.

Edited June 27, 2012 by woinlove

[Got it]

Yes . . . or it's just judgement. And I think there are a number of posts on here alone that are just that. Let's call a spade a spade please. "Pointing out" is just about taking shots at others for decisions and actions the poster OBVIOUSLY doesn't agree with state ad nausem over and over and over and over and over and over and over . . . . again.

[reboot]

What a refreshingly interesting thread.

[NoIDidn't]

I learned that you shouldn't put much stock at all in what a mm/mw tells you about their spouse. It's highly likely they are lying their asses off.

 

I agree with this, but not because I suspect them of lying. I don't like to hear anyone complain about their SO because it says a lot more about them, than about their SO. And I think that's what the OP is saying. That the complaints of his MW are more issues she has, than real problems with her spouse.

 

I figure, if you can complain about it, you can do something about it. And if you choose to do nothing about it, I don't want to hear about it.

[nofool4u]

I'm new, so forgive me, but...

 

Unless someone's been either the other man, or the other woman in an extra-marital affair, why on earth is anyone sitting in judgment of others in here?

 

You mean like the OP judging his MW because he likes having sex with her, but doesn't really like to hear her talk?

 

 

As near as I can tell, people come here and post in the hopes of getting some clarity on a certain aspect of their lives. To berate them for their choices is like looking in the rear-view mirror while driving a car. Not productive - in fact, quite useless.

 

 

What kind of "productivity" is the goal of this thread? He is here to tell his story of boning another man's wife, but wants her to shut up about her complaints of the H.

 

While I would agree that a MW complaining about her H needs to probably be told to shut up, its not his place really. He doesn't get to completely disrespect another man, then complain when the woman he is getting his orgasms from does the same. Why does he care? As long as he is getting his easy piece.

 

There is no goal of this thread. Nothing anyone can really tell him except to quit his complaining.

[nofool4u]

The OP is an OM who is simply expressing his opinion on WS who berate the BS and asking what others think. I don't see that as judgment so much as not liking to listen to the WS judge their spouse.

 

Exactly, don't ask what people think if you really don't want to hear it.