civility Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 I just hooked up with this girl 2 weeks ago.....she's so awesome, so sweet and nice to me. But the other day she invited one of her friends over (which I met for the first time). Well, we were all in the kitchen cooking dinner and this "friend" grabs my girlfriend and starts kissing her on the neck, face...etc I'm just like WHOA...wtf! But I decide to blow it off until later, and I'd talk to my girl about it. Well about an hour later we are outside and this "friend" THEN gives my girl a kiss on the LIPS. It wasn't a peck, it was at least 2 seconds. I then took her friend home, came back and asked my girl wtf was going on. She just said they're "like sisters, it didn't mean anything." Ok...WHAT DO I DO OR THINK! Link to post Share on other sites
jenk Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 You do mean that your girlfriend kissed her girlfriend, right? If so, I find that a little strange. I've kissed another girlfriend on the cheek, but never on the neck or the lips. That is a bit much for "friends" to be doing together. I also have two sisters whom I have never kissed like this. I think you have a good reason to be concerned . . . Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 Whoo... I've got some good friends here and when they left we had this party where we drank a lot. We've only met this year and have been through a lot together, it was quite emotional... still, as far as I think anyone ever went to was a big hug or a sweet kiss on the kiss! And we were pretty much... drunk! It is not acceptable to have anyone, same sex or not, kiss you repeteadly, especially if the bf if there to see! I mean what are they doing when there's no one around? LEt's just assume it's all very innocent. She could have told her "friend" to cool it off. What if "the friend" got jealous and wanted you send you some signals about your gf? I'd most certainly be appaled. Can't think of how I'd handle this... Link to post Share on other sites
honey2005 Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 I don't think I'd kiss my friend on the lips or neck even is she was "like a sister." Myabe she thought you would like it because the guys liking lesbians thing. But you should talk to her about it if it makes you uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr baseball Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 My wife and I have talked about this before. I think that a kiss could be cheating with a male or female because of the feelings behind the action. My wife did say she thought it was ok but only with the same sex as her. I then asked if I was to kiss another man if it would be ok. She said from that point of view it wouldn't be. She said she would take it as cheating but she knows I would never kiss a man. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 Well, I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality-and I don't fancy kissing women friends. Maybe strange, hot women that I won't see again....but kissing girlfriends? Gross. If that kind of behaviour bothers you you should say something to her, politely and not criticising her for expressing her "friendship" differently than you would. Link to post Share on other sites
ziggue Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 I agree with honey2005 I would never kiss any of my girl friends on their lips or neck. Not even with ones that I am pretty close with. Wouldn't even react that way with my guy friends. Especially since I have a boyfriend. Lol. . I would consider it cheating if I were you. Especially if she didn't talk about it with you first. Maybe she thought it may hint to you that they both want a threesome. You know the saying that is supposedly every man's fantasy. Link to post Share on other sites
Wolvesbaned Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 Your girl isn't as sweet as you think. Think about it. Why would anyone casually kiss someone else in front of their new boyfriend? And all this time your girl's acting like its a normal day-to-day thing. Friends don't kiss like that, sisters don't kiss like that! Your post kinda sounds like the beginnings of a cheesy porn plot if you ask me --maybe they're bi and want a little action? Sorry to hear this had to happen with someone you really liked. I think anyone would feel cheated in your shoes. Good luck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 She may assume you'll dig that sorta stuff, maybe her past dudes loved it. Link to post Share on other sites
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