tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 I know most of us are here because we're hurting from the loss of someone we really care about. Also, we're struggling with this whole NC advice. It feels like an alcoholic trying not to take a drink in the world's largest bar!! But, there must be a reason for this pain. In addition to gaining experience, I choose to believe there is good that comes from bad. I just heard a story about a guy that became successful by working so hard to provide for his sick mother. He actually attributes his success to her not feeling well. The thought is that if she was ok, he would not have worked so hard and would not have achieved so highly. On a different note...a friend once told me that this girl he was extremely in love with would not give him the time of day for years. The most he got out of her was a hug. He remained friends with her, in hopes of her one day falling for him, or at least a hook up session. Well...it never happened. Finally, she called him crying hysterically about an unfortunate mishap. As it turned out she ended up contracting a disease from one of the guys she was sleeping with. From that day forward he thanked his luck stars that they never hooked up! So, even though we are struggling to get our emotions to follow our positive steps toward freedom. I know there must be some good stories out there. Please share your "Thank goodness he/she dumped me" moment! Even if it's very small, I'm sure something positive came out of your break-up. I would absolutely love to read about it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
skyisfalling Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 i had an ex bf who i dated many years ago. I never got the he is "the one" for me vibe from him but we still cared for each other a lot, or so I thought. Well, one day he decides he didnt want to be in a relationship with me anymore because i had become "boring" and decided to cheat on me with another girl who was "fun." He ended up getting her pregnant and when he realized he couldn't have "fun" with her either (because she was pregnant and carrying his child) he left her too. WHAT A DOUCHEBAG!! I'm so glad I didn't end up with such a loser like him, heaven forbid. Well I decided to look him up about a year ago and he now lives with his parents still addicted to WORLD OF WARCRAFT at the age of 34. WHAT A BUM!!! During the time he broke up with me I was so devastated. Not only did he leave me, but he cheated on me and got the other girl pregnant. We've been going out for 2 years and I was beyond hurt and beyond betrayed. It's funny how things work out, I never thought I could ever feel good about myself again but I did. haha GOOD RIDDANCE! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
olivec Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 i had an ex bf who i dated many years ago. I never got the he is "the one" for me vibe from him but we still cared for each other a lot, or so I thought. Well, one day he decides he didnt want to be in a relationship with me anymore because i had become "boring" and decided to cheat on me with another girl who was "fun." He ended up getting her pregnant and when he realized he couldn't have "fun" with her either (because she was pregnant and carrying his child) he left her too. WHAT A DOUCHEBAG!! I'm so glad I didn't end up with such a loser like him, heaven forbid. Well I decided to look him up about a year ago and he now lives with his parents still addicted to WORLD OF WARCRAFT at the age of 34. WHAT A BUM!!! During the time he broke up with me I was so devastated. Not only did he leave me, but he cheated on me and got the other girl pregnant. We've been going out for 2 years and I was beyond hurt and beyond betrayed. It's funny how things work out, I never thought I could ever feel good about myself again but I did. haha GOOD RIDDANCE! I think with any breakup you gotta think possitive about it and just be greatfull that particular person is out of your life. I'm personally very glad my ex gf is no longer in my life. Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 nice post...my ex was spoilt,selfish,childish,sulked if she didnt get her own way (took it out on me),workmates dont like her...her so called best friend treats her like crap.. etc etc....i hope shes happy... Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 nasty,horrible.frustrating ,2-faced,ignorant,....she was bloody hard work....still miss her though cos i saw her good side but it would never have worked out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 16, 2012 Author Share Posted June 16, 2012 nasty,horrible.frustrating ,2-faced,ignorant,....she was bloody hard work....still miss her though cos i saw her good side but it would never have worked out. Billythefish...you really have me wondering what her good side was that could possibly overshadow all the bad that you've mentioned? Was the physical attraction mind-blowing, or did she donate her time to the poor every Saturday!? Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 19, 2012 Share Posted June 19, 2012 Billythefish...you really have me wondering what her good side was that could possibly overshadow all the bad that you've mentioned? Was the physical attraction mind-blowing, or did she donate her time to the poor every Saturday!? do you know what ?....im struggling to think what her good side was as well & she was like a differrent person in the weeks running up to our breakup,a total bitch...the type of person that would kick walking sticks away from elderly ladies never mind helping the poor on a saturday... Link to post Share on other sites
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