khinda Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 is taking your first date to watch spiderman 2 ok? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 I say try something less commercial and a bit more fun. I think laughter is great for a first date. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 I don't know---did she see SM1? Ask her what she would like to see. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 My opinion....no movie for a first date. I want to talk to someone and get to know someone face to face. You can't get that in a movie. Go for coffee or a walk by the river. Do something original. Take her to the big city and eat and browse the streets and shops. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Originally posted by tikibrandy My opinion....no movie for a first date. I want to talk to someone and get to know someone face to face. You can't get that in a movie. Go for coffee or a walk by the river. Do something original. Take her to the big city and eat and browse the streets and shops. Agreed. I think I responded to a previous thread by this same user, recommending to do the same. It is far better to communicate on a first date. Movies don't allow you to do that really, and a dinner can actually be an intimidating and uncomfortable setting unless you've had a lot of communication already. Movies don't allow any time for talking. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 It depends a lot on the persons involved and of the age. BTW, how old are you? Some people simply need some time to feel comfortable around one another. Only after that, if they're lucky and compatible, they'll get to communicating. But then again, it's a matter of age. A nice coffee or an icecream after the film won't scare the girl and won't make you look too interested either. I wish you to make an inspired choice! Link to post Share on other sites
Author khinda Posted July 2, 2004 Author Share Posted July 2, 2004 thanks guys Link to post Share on other sites
Author khinda Posted July 2, 2004 Author Share Posted July 2, 2004 ok, she knwo that i like her and she said she will go to a movie with me or have dinner so she know that i am instrested in her and also we work at the same place and whenever i am looking at her shes looking at me the most of the time too and when she sees that i am looking up at her she smiles and turn away most of the time. and she agreed for the movie when i asked her and stuff she is 21 and i'll be turning 21 in deccember Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 I'll just say what I usually say: take it easy, there's no hurry. Do what you feel like, and spend some quality time with her! Link to post Share on other sites
Author khinda Posted July 2, 2004 Author Share Posted July 2, 2004 k Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Originally posted by tikibrandy My opinion....no movie for a first date. I want to talk to someone and get to know someone face to face. You can't get that in a movie. Go for coffee or a walk by the river. Do something original. Take her to the big city and eat and browse the streets and shops. That's true...but movie theater is great place to make out. I've gone to movies on first date and made out in the theater and took the girl home after the movie, so don't lose your hope khinda. Make your move on her by holding her hand, if she don't object....you know the next move. I'm lucky that I live in Hawaii, so finding a nice romantic restaurant by the ocean to take a girls out is no problem and much better than the movies. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Oh, PAradise, you are thinking in one direction only ! I meant a movie won't make you open up just like that and you'll still get to spend some time and have a common subject to talk about! But, there are always the romantic love scenes, so yes, there is this little aspect hard to deny . PAradise, you dog! You're aiming to kill every time, aren't you ? 'cause I don't know to many girls to resist a beautiful scenary, a nice romantic dinner and a charming young man! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Paradise.... Well I don't 'make out' on the first date...so I can't really relate. I say no go for a movie on the first date. People get made fun of for doing that where I'm from. Be original. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 question for tiki: I undersand that you don't right now... but have you never done it? Really? Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Originally posted by tikibrandy Paradise.... Well I don't 'make out' on the first date...so I can't really relate. I say no go for a movie on the first date. People get made fun of for doing that where I'm from. Be original. That's good that you don't do movies on first date. To tell you honestly, I haven't done that for long time.... I was just saying..... .....movie for first date wasn't a bad experience for me. Nowadays, I prefer going to a romantic place where I can talk and get to know her...maybe interrogate the young female species before I...hmmm...you get my drift….. You don't make out on the first date? It’s harder for females to relate to that, but will you lighten up? We're in millennium years girlfriend......forgive me if I don't meet your expectations... I can wait for the second date, if that’s what you mean… Originally posted by tikibrandy Oh, PAradise, you are thinking in one direction only ! I meant a movie won't make you open up just like that and you'll still get to spend some time and have a common subject to talk about! PAradise, you dog! You're aiming to kill every time, aren't you ? ' One direction only? It doesn't matter if you go out on a date with a girl for dozen times before you make love to her, or wait a year before you get in bed with her. Bottom line is eventually we all are headed that direction..... Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 I was teasing you !!! I think that's one of the reasons I like movie theatres, they remind me of my crazy days! Of course in the end, we all want to have sex, but I think the motivations are usually different: some want love, others want appreciation, others love the attention, other... simply want sex? Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Originally posted by CurlyIam I was teasing you !!! I think that's one of the reasons I like movie theatres, they remind me of my crazy days! Of course in the end, we all want to have sex, but I think the motivations are usually different: some want love, others want appreciation, others love the attention, other... simply want sex? I know you was only plying Curly.... I want love, appreciation, attention... and sometimes just hot sweaty sex.... ......lets just say I want it all.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 khinda, So, tell us where did you take her on a date? How was your date? We want all the details...... Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Paradise...I didn't make that quote that you quoted me on. I don't know how that got mixed up, but someone else made that statement....that's bizarre...go back and look. Anyway, I did make the stmt about not making out on the first date. I can't say I've ever made out on the first date. Now I've done other unmentionable things in a theater, but that's into a relationship PLUS I was like 16. The way I look at it now, if my boyfriend and I pay the steep movie prices, we better see a good movie! Link to post Share on other sites
Author khinda Posted July 2, 2004 Author Share Posted July 2, 2004 yeah she worked with me again today i was gonna ask her if she wanted to go tomarrow since she said she will go with me but because of friday we were so busy and i didn't have a chance to talk to her about it but she works with me again tommarow so i'll ask her tomarrow when i see her " ________if your free tonight can i take you to a movie"? whatd you guys think is it ok if i ask her like this? or any other opinions? Link to post Share on other sites
Paradise Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Originally posted by khinda yeah she worked with me again today i was gonna ask her if she wanted to go tomarrow since she said she will go with me but because of friday we were so busy and i didn't have a chance to talk to her about it but she works with me again tommarow so i'll ask her tomarrow when i see her " ________if your free tonight can i take you to a movie"? It's ok to ask her out to a movie, but tikibrandy has a point. Movie cost about $10 per person and popcorn, snack and drinks are about $15. We are talking about $35 here for a movie. I would consider asking her to a nice romantic dinner which you have better chance at getting to know her or tell her that you would like get to know her and ask what's her interests are. I can suggest many other things, but I don't know how old you two are and what her personal likes are. But if you must take her out to a movie or you feel comfortable about asking her to movie, then it’s fine too. Just make sure you get extra cash on hand for taking her to ‘Coldstone’ for chat about the movie after….. Check this site if you’re on a low budget. http://autofeed.msn.co.in/pandoraV2/output/1D5E0C42-5D72-4726-8F6A-80F5A44D3796.asp Here’s more on first date ideas. http://dating.about.com/cs/firstdates1/l/aa112003a.htm Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author khinda Posted July 2, 2004 Author Share Posted July 2, 2004 well, she is 21 and i'll be turning 21 in december. first i was thinking to take her to the dinner but then i was reading on this website that Most girls worry about their weight and are embarrassed to let men they fancy see them eating a lot. She might refuse a date like this so that's why then i changed my mind to a movie. like i said before i already asked her that ________"i was wondering if you will go catch movie with me or go have dinner or something sometime"? and she replied "sometime, sure" and she knew that i like her when i asked her that. she found this out by my friend. and then after that whenever i am looking at her shes looking at me too and then when sees that i am looking at her she smiles and then turn away. so finally i asked her and she said she will go. should i ask her for movie or dinner? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 IMO, dinner is very "datish". I say movie, also more expensive, seems a bit more casual, and yet it is a date. My 2 cents, anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
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