What REALLY goes on at a Bachelor Party?

[katie79]

It depends on the man I guess. I don't think a guy should be cheating on his soon-to-be wife. Cheating not only includes sex, but thats' intimate touching, fondling, and kissing. How would a guy feel if his gf had some dude's weiner swinging around in her face, then took her in the back room and rubbed it on her body, and some of us brides-to-be had intercourse with them. Would you want your gf cheating on you while you were dating? NO! Why would you want her to go out and do it a few days before your join the union of marriage? Beats me. I don't think a man could handle the notion of his bride screwing around with, probably some gay guy, flinging his weiner out for her to see and rubbing it on her. Am I against Bachelor Parties? Not really. It doesn't have to consist of a bunch of tacky women showing every orfis of their bodies. It could be dinner followed by a night out of drinking and stuff. They can have a day of fishing, dirtbiking, basketball, whatever, and have a few drinks at a bar/club. Same for women. As far as strip clubs go, no, I'm really not for them. I trust my bf. But not all men work well with a naked lady dancing in front of them and their friends rooting them on to bang her. Men are very influenced by each other and can't hold their own when it comes to that. I know some men just have a stripper come to the place the party is being taken and have a woman pop out of a cake and dance---then she leaves. Some men laugh at it. I know if my bf did that, I agree with the lady that said, if he wants a lap dance, then I can pick up a guy at the bar. I agree with her. Not only would I be out having fun with another guy I picked up at a bar while he was out with a stripper doing a lap dance, but he can best bet he wont see me at the alter! Who needs someone like that in your life? Better off alone and finding someone better! Besides, bachelor parties are traditional. They are custom from back in the old days when people got married at 15, usually set up by their parents, and felt like it was their last night of freedom b/c they didn't know who the hell they were marrying at such a young age! Now at an older age, you have the option of marrying someone you love and choose to be with.

[guest]

I support my idea of he wants a lap dance, I get to play with a guy I pick up a bar. My experience with men in bachelor parties is that they are easy to influence by other sleezy friends and every one is drinking too much. So, if he cannot make sure he is sober enough not to have some other woman's body on him, then he should understand that I am going to get the same for free! Men think that is their God given right to have a bachelore party and it is ok to get a bit out of hand because it is their darn "bachelor party". Well, then I should have my fun too. Going to a strip club and have a man dance and touch me for money..it is not my idea of fun...so we should all have our own fun.

 

Controlling, sure! Proud of it. I am not making a secret of it. We both want to have our fun..then we should...but as such as heck not going to sit at home while my bf has some striper boobs on his face and getting to lick her body..while he thinks I am home because it is his right...yeahhhh...I dont think so.

 

I have no problems with strip clubs as long as there is not lap dances...once that happens...all bets are fun...I can tell you...he is not crazy about me picking up a guy at bar..and he knows that every time we or I go out guys ask me out. I do not want any one else, but I am not the "little woman". We should have our type of "bachelor party".

I do not have to pay for men to dance for me...I am sorry he does....but I should not be penalized for that.

[honey2005]

My fiance went to two bachelor parties in the time that we've been together. At one of them, the groom's friends hired porn stars, so yes, there was some girl on girl sex there. And there were even some extras for the groom and groomsmen. At another party, they had a stripper who poured chocolate sauce and whipped cream all over her body and got the groom to lick it off. Then she gave him oral sex in the bathroom and he got her phone number.

 

Wow, I don't think I ever want to get married

[NONI]

HONESTLY, I THINK BACHELOR PARTIES ARE A WASTE OF TIME AND MONEY. I AM A VERY JEALOUS PERSON AND SO IS MY FIANCE, I DONT THINK HE WOULD WANT ME WATCHING 2 MEN HAVING AN ORGY,, SO THE SAME GOES FOR HIM!..

BACHELOR PARTIES ARE JUST A LAME EXCUSE TO GO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE FOR THE LAST TIME.. ITS RIDICULOUS

[dnm1010]

the way i feel is very simple...

i dont want my boyfrined doing anything i wouldnt do. i refuse to go to a male strip club. i have never been nor will i ever go. if my best freind invited me for her bachelorette party to a strip club or somethign like that... i will still say no. i expect the same from my bf. i told him how i feel about these things before we got serious. i made sure he knows what i will tolerate and he hasnt strayed and i hope he doesnt stray. regarding bachelor parties... i know i will not be able to handle him off with whores on him. there are a million other options for a bachelor party. i have a lot of guy friends who have been to bachelor parties and they told me stories that made me sick to my stomach. this included 5 guys on one girl and all sorts of nasty things. i dont think that the bachelor party is your last night single... i think once u enter a relationship that u want a future... then u are committed. things dont change overnight. i told my bf that i will not tolderate strip clubs and one of the main reasons is that if i say yes now then where do i draw the line? when we get marred then suddenly it will be a nono? what about when we have kids? i would rather not even start dealing with this crap. no from the begining solves that problem. and i treat my boyfriend with the most respect. i would never EVER disrespect him by attending indecent activities. he knows that.

[UCFKevin]

If you think every bachelor party is the definition of debachery and dirtiness where your fiancee and his buddies all gangbang a stripper, then you should also think whenever you get in the car to drive, you will get in an accident.

 

Not every bachelor party will have sex of any kind. Many of them are innocent. MANY. If not most.

[dnm1010]

i am not a big drinker but i allow myself to have a few drinks when i go out wiht my bf.

this girl i know invitedme to go on a cruise with her. i said no. the reason being not that i dont trust myself, but i knew she would be wasted and probably leave me alone to go be with some random guy.

 

i do not want to put myself in this position.

i dont like going out drinking with a bunch of girls because i do not want attention from strange guys. i try to avoid situations that could potentially be bad. i dont think my bf would like it if some drunken guy hung all over me when im alone cos my friends are dancing with some guys. i think its similar... why place yourself in a situation that has a high potential of ending up bad. im nto saying dont have abachelor party.. im saying there are a lot of other options... fishing or sport events.... or i dunno.... there are a lot. marriage retreits etc....

 

some stuff u cant avoid... sometimes u need to drive.... but theres a difference between driving because u need to and drinking and driving on the oposite side of the road....

[kellydontwanttasleep]

one of my best friends married a guy who was in our circle of friends and she didn't want him going to a sleazy strip club. she decided to through him a wild bachelor party. and he had dated a couple of her friends, not me thank god...lol. so at the end of this wild party she and 3 of our friends who dated hime too brought him into her bed room and had a wild orgy, then she told him she wanted his last night of freedom to be wild. i ask her about it and she told me it helped her get rid of some of her jelousy problems. now they're like the pefect couple. kinda strange, but whatever works.

[dnm1010]

yeahhhhhhhh... i dont think so...... im glad shes happy but thats not gonna happen wtih me ... its amazing how so many poeple can have so many interesting stories... so many different situations....

 

[UnicornGirl]

yeah, the concept of bachelor parties makes me utterly queasy.

i'd definitely have extreme reservations about my husband-to-be going to one of these parties. if he wants that right before the wedding, who's to say he doesn't want that later in the marriage? more and i more i'm happy my fiance and i split up recently so i don't even have to THINK about dealing with this s****!!!

[katie79]

Granted....sometimes when men go to strip bars for their party, it's innocent humerous fun.

But many times I have also heard about the husband to be getting bj's and not considering that cheating. Men's friends will root them on to cheating in some way with this stripper. And men are very controlled by each other where they can't wimp out if they are rooted to do it.

Yes, Lap dancing is a form of cheating.

If you don't think so...

would you want your wife to be to go to a male strip joint and have one of the guys jjiggle his ween in her face, fondle her, even perform oral sex or fingure her? Would you want to hear she licked whip cream off his body, his ween, and sucked olives out of his belly button? After that, how would you feel about watching her walk down the aisle to marry you the next day/week???

Get the picture.

 

It's one thing if they guy jacks off to porn and magazines...but to go to a strip club for a ba party? Sorry, it's not all that innocent. It's rare men just look at the nude women on stage. Usually something happens that his wife would never like.

Besides, if you feel like this is you last night to f**k someone else, why they hell are you getting married? If you want to seriously fool around with other people, you should have dump the person your engaged to while you were first dating.

This type of BA party is really an old-fashioned custom. Men and women would have an arranged marriage with a woman they never saw or met before the wedding day. They didn't know who they were marrying. So the night before, they would go out to a whorehouse and have sex. This wasn't moral being they were arranged to marry a stranger the next day, but it really wasn't cheating either since neither party was attached or in love.

So many women are begining to do the male strip joint for their BA-ette party. Eventually, this will be more common then men going to a strip joint. Then men will whine and complain about their brides possibly cheating. it's so stupid.

[gwennebe]

I have a question. So, for the people that have wittnessed grooms getting bj's at their parties ,were the strippers using condoms? because if the strippers do this kind of thing reguarly don't you think the chances of them having some kind of freakiy virus is scary enough to stop someone from bringing home and STD to your new wife because surely that will spill the beans about what happened at the dang party!!

[shellso]

I used to think the guys SHOULD go and have all the fun in the world (innocent strip clubs bar hopping ect) But I would expect him to come home bragging about his good time and I would brag about my good time out on the town with the girls. I'd be like a 'who had the wildest time' competition. I used to prize myself for compleatly trusting my boyfriend and being a 'laid back, one of the guys, cool chick'

 

After my boyfriend (planed on getting married, he already had a ring) cheated on me at a party, in our own home while I was in the other room...well, things changed.

 

Now I don't know what to think. I honestly can say that I wouldn't trust him in that situation with his friends chearing him on.

[250r]

I've been to maybe 8 or so bachelor parties. 1 of them the groom got a BJ from the stripper - I was disgusted. What made it worse was his bride's father was there! He just laughed - if it was my daughter I would have killed him. The other bachelor party, the groom and three other guys slept with the stripper. The rest of the bachelor parties I have been to were very innocent and was bassically just a bunch of drunks stumbling around from strip bar to club to casino back to the strip club. I also know of a bachelorette party where the bride got oral from a stranger at a club and ended up sleeping with another stranger that evening. It all makes my stomach turn but its their lives - do what you gotta do as long as it doesn't effect me.

 

It all depends on the person what will happen. I've seen strippers offer to do a bunch of things to the grooms and they have turned them down. A few even told them not to touch them.

[katie79]

that's gross.

As for the the lady who's bf cheated on her...leave him. Don't marry him! Get rid!

 

As for the groom who got blown with the brides father there, that's sick. Sounds kind of weird.

 

It seems to me about 75-80% of these places are really prostitution. How can some say these parties are innocent? Oral sex consitutes cheating to me.

[dnm1010]

i think you should know whether ure man and his friends can be trusted or not.... i know some guys who had bachelor parties that were far from decent..... i dont want a bachelorette party and i dont want my guy to have a bachelor party either...

[katie79]

No, I def want a bachlorette party, and he's welcome to have a party too. But not that. I know HE wont want that stuff, but one or two of his friends might.

Besides, there are other things to do than stip joints. There are bars and clubs too. Fishing trips, hunting trips, concerts, shows, etc.

Personally, I want my bridesmaids to take me to a nice Italian resturant and to take me to a club after. I want a club so I can get drunk, party, and dance with my friends. Not to pick up men.

I wouldn't care if he had innocent fun at a club either. As long as it's innocent.

He loves fishing, concerts, and fireworks. Perhaps they could take him on a fishing trip or to a concert, then out for a few after???

 

There are so many other things to do for fun rather than cheating on your spouse to be with some tacki woman who's 80th blow job it'll be for the night.

[CitiKitti]

Ugh... it's sort of like a primal, animalistic aprroach on the last breath of being single... which usually ends with a big origie or gang-bang. Ladies, never trust your guy to attned one of those, they all get around.

[AlmostMarried77]

If you think every bachelor party is the definition of debachery and dirtiness where your fiancee and his buddies all gangbang a stripper, then you should also think whenever you get in the car to drive, you will get in an accident.

 

Not every bachelor party will have sex of any kind. Many of them are innocent. MANY. If not most.

 

reading this forum it sounds like american stag nights are based on the last days of rome. UK ones tend to be a bit quieter, unless a trip to prague or amsterdam is arranged, which i have heard of happening but even then the groom is usually very well behaved.

 

On my own stag night there was a token trip to the lap dancing club. Which was at the start of the night for 30 mins when everybody was sober. And to be honest i spent the whole time there regretting going in and thinking about how my wife to be was so much nicer than all the girls there and i wished she was there instead (although only dancing for me ).

 

The proper part of the night we went to a comedy club and just had a bit of a laugh and got drunk. One of my mates almost got lucky but at no point were any of my friends even suggesting that i should do anything innappropriate.

 

I ended up sneaking off early cause i was drunk and tired.

 

Thing with this forum is that attracts people who have got problems in their relationship which can give a rather skewed view of the whole situation.

[123]

My husband went to a bachelor party last weekend. I found out things that happened there (not from him) and I was truly shocked. Here is what I know:

 

They had a private room at a bar. Two strippers came and immediately took ALL of their clothes off and gave each other oral sex and used vibrators on each other. They took off the groom's shirt and poured wax on him (By the way, I am completely confused about why this would even be pleasurable - maybe someone could explain this to me?) They unzipped the groom's pants and put the vibrator in and pretended to give him oral sex. They also gave him naked lap dances and gave lap dances to any of the guys who would pay for them.

 

Here are my main questions:

1. is this normal/typical of a bachelor party?

2. I thought strippers only got down to a g-string - are they allowed to get all the way naked? Is my idea that strippers get down to a g string and dance around completely outdated?

3. If they get naked and do oral sex on one another is this even legal? To me, I think if you get paid to do sexual acts you are a prostitute, even if it doesn't involve the men.

4. I feel revulsion and disgust. It seems so low class and sleazy. I am angry too. Are these feelings normal?

I want to stop thinking about it but all I can do is picture my husband and father of my children watching naked lesbians use vibrators on each other.

5. This question is for the men specifically: a male friend of mine (not a boyfriend or love interest) told me that men think of actual past sexual experiences when they masturbate and do not think of things like strippers or porn. I am wondering if my husband would think about all of these disgusting things and masturbate?

6. Do you think other things happened there besides what I heard? I tried to talk to my husband about it (not accusing but just asking for information) and he confirmed what I heard was true but he was angry that one of the guys told what happened and he wouldn't tell me anything else. Is there some secret code among men that they do these things and keep them from the women in their lives?

 

I know I am probably thinking about this too much and maybe I am naive but I was truly shocked to hear everything that happened. I have always enjoyed sex/foreplay/etc. and do not consider myself to be a prude but I feel like this crossed the line into something really perverted.

 

Thanks for whatever help you give me.

[kscholze]

The last bachelor party I went on the groom had a threesome.

 

It just depends on the person.

 

I have friends that didn't even want any women there at all.

[RainyDayWoman]

Ugh... it's sort of like a primal, animalistic aprroach on the last breath of being single... which usually ends with a big origie or gang-bang. Ladies, never trust your guy to attned one of those, they all get around.

 

which is funny, because if you're engaged, in my opinion, you haven't been "single" for quite some time......

[deesgirl]

123, did you just accept the fact that your husband thinks it's okay to keep these things from you? He has the nerve to be mad because someone told what really happened?

 

It makes you wonder what part he played in it.

 

I don't think married men have any business in a strip club or around strippers unless it's agreed upon with the wife. I have too many male friends that have told me the raunchy things that go on. If a man wants to act like he's single, he should stay single.

[k123]

123, did you just accept the fact that your husband thinks it's okay to keep these things from you? He has the nerve to be mad because someone told what really happened?It makes you wonder what part he played in it.

 

I agree with you. I don't think the guy that told was wrong. I think my husband was wrong not to tell me what went on. If he had told me himself it would have been better than finding out from someone else.

 

He says that nothing inappropriate happened! I asked him what he meant by this and he said that none of the guys did anything sexual with the strippers. I think our ideas of what is inappropriate are very different. In my opinion, watching 2 people have sex with each other is a sexual act in itself. He says he didn't know that was going to happen, but once it started he could have left the room but he didn't.

[Codeman]

Relax ladies, strippers do NOT give their customer's blowjobs. If any stories about bj's at bachelor parties are true, than the gals were hookers not strippers...and I think that's pretty rare...and expensive I would imagine.

 

Now what I would like to know is if the stories about how gals go wild at male strip clubs and give bj's or even get laid by the stippers is true. Somehow, I have a hard time believing that.