SarahRose Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 i hope you will all indulge me with a little rant. maybe a large rant after a complete stranger opens my bedroom door while i am naked and getting dressed. and there is no lock on the door. i don't like being a roommate nor would i want one in my house. i think it might be better if it was a stranger. i did rent a room for about 6 months one time and for the most part they left me alone but they were the trouble with loud parties and the police knocking on the door looking for her as she had assaulted someone and then the C ...t kept my bond for no reason. i should have done a background check on her lol. but i digress. renting a room from a relative is worse i think. She has 2 kids under the age of 5 and all this woman does is scream at them from the moment she gets up to the time they go to bed. And because of that, the kids are constantly screaming and crying. She is filthy filthy. dirty diapers laying around, menstrual blood on the toilet seat, dishes piled up, just filth. it seems like i have no say about anything here at all even though i am paying half. It was in the 30s last night and she turns the heat off. Anyway i don't have much longer until my house it ready maybe 3 weeks. i still might go stay in a hotel. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Not wanting a roommate is the exact reason I'm not renting a room out in my house. Even though it would help with the bills I'd rather have less money than have to deal with someone I'm not involved with on a daily basis. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 If renting a room, as opposed to a house/condo/apartment, spend 20 bucks on a keyed privacy lockset and notify the landlord that you'll be replacing their unsecure passage knob with it and will return the door to its original condition upon departure. That's how you 'fix' the problem of giving an unwanted peep show. Otherwise, I sympathize with your rant completely. I've never had a roommate, though I did have a wife for awhile, and I'll never live in a shared tenancy building if I can help it. So far, so good. BTW, my rentals get privacy locks on all bedroom doors. I was actually installing doors today at one. Privacy is important. I respect that. Fifteen bucks buys a spiffy electric space heater like I use in my RV. Cost to run it is free since the landlord pays the electric bill Sorry, more 'fixes'..... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 a complete stranger opens my bedroom door while i am naked and getting dressed. and there is no lock on the door. It's time to put a lock on your door. Seriously. Even one of those little hook-and-latch dealies that you can only lock from the inside. Something. You pay for half so you should at the very least have some privacy. That also gives you the right to ask that she not leave disgusting menstrual skid marks on the toilet. ****ing gross, man. I say you should raise some hell during the next three weeks that you have to stay there and teach her a thing or two about being a non-disgusting human being. What do you say? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I know you're paying half, but you're only a temporary roommate. If she owns the house, then it's up to her how she runs it. Even if it's a health hazard. She has two kids under 5. While I know that some mothers with young children still manage to be the perfect housewife, some just do not have the motivation/energy to do much else beyond taking care of their children because it takes so much out of them. I'd move out and resolve never to stay with her again. Better to do that than ruin a relationship with a relative - a relative that's presumably doing you a favour - even though you're paying her. Until then, if the bedroom door opens inwards, get a wedge doorstop and use that as a cheaper alternative to changing the lock. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I have learnt a lot about human nature by living in house shares over the years and I'm definitely glad I did that. You become overall more tolerant - especially when the stressful tenancy ends However, I'm with Philo, much much better to live alone even if the bills are higher. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 20, 2012 Author Share Posted June 20, 2012 It's time to put a lock on your door. Seriously. Even one of those little hook-and-latch dealies that you can only lock from the inside. Something. You pay for half so you should at the very least have some privacy. That also gives you the right to ask that she not leave disgusting menstrual skid marks on the toilet. ****ing gross, man. I say you should raise some hell during the next three weeks that you have to stay there and teach her a thing or two about being a non-disgusting human being. What do you say? yeah you would think i would have a right to a little bit of privacy and peace and quiet. yeah she is pretty disgusting. i plan to delete her from fb and never speak to her again after i leave. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 20, 2012 Author Share Posted June 20, 2012 I know you're paying half, but you're only a temporary roommate. If she owns the house, then it's up to her how she runs it. Even if it's a health hazard. She has two kids under 5. While I know that some mothers with young children still manage to be the perfect housewife, some just do not have the motivation/energy to do much else beyond taking care of their children because it takes so much out of them. I'd move out and resolve never to stay with her again. Better to do that than ruin a relationship with a relative - a relative that's presumably doing you a favour - even though you're paying her. Until then, if the bedroom door opens inwards, get a wedge doorstop and use that as a cheaper alternative to changing the lock. she is a welfare recipient so most likely my tax dollars pay for "her" house. there is a huge difference between being perfect and leaving urine and poop filled diapers on the bathroom counter and in the kitchen. It is nasty and very unsanitary and no excuse for it. i will get a wedge for the door. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 20, 2012 Author Share Posted June 20, 2012 I have learnt a lot about human nature by living in house shares over the years and I'm definitely glad I did that. You become overall more tolerant - especially when the stressful tenancy ends However, I'm with Philo, much much better to live alone even if the bills are higher. yeah i should have just forked out the cash for a hotel room. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 she is a welfare recipient so most likely my tax dollars pay for "her" house. there is a huge difference between being perfect and leaving urine and poop filled diapers on the bathroom counter and in the kitchen. It is nasty and very unsanitary and no excuse for it. You could look it at like that. However, still her house. Even though you're paying for it indirectly. I agree that it's a terrible way to live and after weighing up the alternatives I may even consider speaking to social services, if I were you. Though, I think that right now, you need to deal with your own situation first. Good luck. I hope that you're able to work something out. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I'd rather live in a crappy apartment alone than in a nice house with other people. I value my privacy and quiet space. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 so i am talking on skype to my husband and yeah it is a private conversation and she butts right in to start talking to me about my conversation that obviously she was eavesdropping on. I just looked at her and pointed to my headset and said sorry I am on the phone now. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 She has 2 kids under the age of 5 and all this woman does is scream at them from the moment she gets up to the time they go to bed. And because of that, the kids are constantly screaming and crying. She is filthy filthy. dirty diapers laying around, menstrual blood on the toilet seat, dishes piled up, just filth. Can we say hello child services? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 24, 2012 Author Share Posted June 24, 2012 My husband is right about these relatives and I completely understand why he wants to have nothing to do with them. One of them is trying to start some bs with me on facebook and they are about to get deleted. Right now, I totally ignored his rude comment. Link to post Share on other sites
lovefilter Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 Anyway i don't have much longer until my house it ready maybe 3 weeks. i still might go stay in a hotel. I think you missed a word in your subject line? You may have to just tough this one out. Hotels are pretty expensive, but you might have luck staying at a hostel. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 25, 2012 Author Share Posted June 25, 2012 I think you missed a word in your subject line? You may have to just tough this one out. Hotels are pretty expensive, but you might have luck staying at a hostel. Which word did I miss? Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 House sharing can be stressful, but you can find some lovely ones too, if you look in the right places. Try http://www.airbnb.com for relatively good value short stay accommodation, or even http://www.couchsurfing.org/ for open minded people who are willing to house a stranger for a short while. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 30, 2012 Author Share Posted June 30, 2012 House sharing can be stressful, but you can find some lovely ones too, if you look in the right places. Try http://www.airbnb.com for relatively good value short stay accommodation, or even CouchSurfing – The world’s largest travel community for open minded people who are willing to house a stranger for a short while. I looked at the first link and it is nuts that people are renting out a private room for $70 per night so for the low low price of $500 per week i can stay in a room. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 30, 2012 Author Share Posted June 30, 2012 I should video tape all the filth. dirty dishes piled up, food on the floor Then when i want to do my laundry she always has a load in the washer and dryer just sitting there that i have to take care of before i can wash my one load. i am sick this week because of her germ infested kids and i accidentally leave one kleenex in a jacket pocket and the dirty pig has a cow over it. maybe i should charge her for my medication. with all my bitching, i am a good house guest so i guess she has to look for something to complain about. she'll miss all that extra drinking money when i am gone. she has got some trashy guy over she shacked up with last night. i am tempted to walk out there topless. Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted June 30, 2012 Share Posted June 30, 2012 Youth hostel is cheaper than a hotel or room rentalIts safer than couch surfingClean and provides meals and internet accessConveniently located, sometimes scenic depending on your location When I visited the Lake District years ago during the summer, I stayed in a youth hostel that was a converted mansion for a very reasonable price. It wasn't a bed and breakfast either, which would be cheaper than a hotel I think. I'm sure there are quality youth hostels you could stay in if you really need to get out of that house. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted June 30, 2012 Share Posted June 30, 2012 If you only have another week to go, why not move into a nice hotel to de-stress and relax and wash the germs out of your clothes? I thought you said you were a wealthy woman (another thread), so I don't understand why you'd live with a relative you despised under such horrific conditions. Perhaps you meant wealthy compared to your relatives but middle class compared to everyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 30, 2012 Author Share Posted June 30, 2012 If you only have another week to go, why not move into a nice hotel to de-stress and relax and wash the germs out of your clothes? I thought you said you were a wealthy woman (another thread), so I don't understand why you'd live with a relative you despised under such horrific conditions. Perhaps you meant wealthy compared to your relatives but middle class compared to everyone else. Probably because I am cheap and currently looking for another contract so want to save some money. It costs a lot of money to move a household across the country. All up around $15,000 for starters That is probably more than you make in a year right there. I probably pay more taxes in one year than you would make in your lifetime. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 30, 2012 Author Share Posted June 30, 2012 Youth hostel is cheaper than a hotel or room rentalIts safer than couch surfingClean and provides meals and internet accessConveniently located, sometimes scenic depending on your location When I visited the Lake District years ago during the summer, I stayed in a youth hostel that was a converted mansion for a very reasonable price. It wasn't a bed and breakfast either, which would be cheaper than a hotel I think. I'm sure there are quality youth hostels you could stay in if you really need to get out of that house. i originally did think about a hostel at first but feared it would be infested with bedbugs and loud party kids. my idea came about as an experiment when i noticed this other welfare recipient always seem to have a slew of people offer her up things for free and i would see if i could freeload in this way and yes i can freeload but it isn't really free. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SarahRose Posted June 30, 2012 Author Share Posted June 30, 2012 Well it looks like I can get a bargain at one of my favorite hotels here for $440 per night so I am packing my bags and getting out today. Good bye dirty dirty people ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 Well it looks like I can get a bargain at one of my favorite hotels here for $440 per night so I am packing my bags and getting out today. Good bye dirty dirty people ugh. Good luck SarahRose!! Link to post Share on other sites
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