no_clue Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Ok i posted a thread in dating i shouldve posted here, but ive been txting a girl i met online and its going good so far im just running out of things to talk about and i dont want her to get tired of me before i even get to meet her any tips on things to say or anything? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Ask her about her day and how it's going. What are her evening plans? What are her weekend plans? Ask her if she's heard about X, Y, Z current event. Ask her about siblings/parents/family. What does she enjoy most about her job/course/hobby? Ask her how she got into said job/course/hobby? What's she doing for the summer? Does she cook? What kind of food does she like to eat? What are her favourite restaurants/hangouts? What kind of films does she like to watch? What kind of music does she listen to? Who are her favourite authors/singers? These are all jumping off points that should lead into more questions and also you sharing relevant information about yourself as well. You're looking at asking 2-3 of these per extended conversation (not all of them), otherwise it can become a bit of an interrogation and unnatural. Her answers are also a source of future questions. You need to be able to repeat some of the information back to her to show that you were listening. For example, "Hey, you know the other day, you mentioned that X? I was thinking more about what you said and Y. What do you think about Z?" Having said all that, I think that if there's already been a lot of back and forth texting, you need to step up to asking her out on a date so that you can ask these questions face-to-face. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Having said all that, I think that if there's already been a lot of back and forth texting, you need to step up to asking her out on a date so that you can ask these questions face-to-face. I strongly agree with this, and though it's too late now, I am against too much, if any, texting back and forth prior to the first date. I want my first impression of her to be a face-to-face conversation, not a bunch of 160 characters-or-less text messages. Link to post Share on other sites
iambookworm Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 yup, you should really ask her out. Texting can only go so far. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author no_clue Posted June 21, 2012 Author Share Posted June 21, 2012 Ok she only has texting. The first day we were txting she agreed to come to my place one day to play video games, i asked her what she was doin this saturday but shes busy, i recently asked about next saturday since were both off work then she said she doesnt plan that far ahead. I havent texted back yet, I was thinking about asking if she wants to come to my place but i live with my parents n i dont even have a room yet were building one. So should i ask her on a date or ask if shed rather go on a date or come over and play games. And where on the date i cant even think of a good place what about the movies? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 She's shot you down twice. At this point, I'd conclude that she's not interested and/or available to date. This is supported by your OP in which you wrote that you're running out of things to say. It suggests she may not be giving you enough to work with, because of her low interest/availability. I strongly suggest that you move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author no_clue Posted June 21, 2012 Author Share Posted June 21, 2012 I beg to differ, weve been texting a good bit and weve been joking alot about different things she hasnt turned me down about coming to my house. I am not moving on until she just flat out stops responding or tells me to stop. This is the best shot i have of meeting someone and if i lose it itll be months before i find another person to try and connect with. And alot of the things you told me to say i have said already. Im actually doing better than usual coming up with stuff to say theres been a couple times i just couldnt think of anything so i just put something like a statement that would usually have no response she still texts me back so she must be interested right? I think she really is busy this weekend babysitting she works 6 days a week too. And i still havent texted back when she said she doesnt plan far ahead to the next week so she still might say yes to next week, idk if i should invite her over or ask on a date though Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 then she said she doesnt plan that far ahead. She's not into you. Move on. You're at best her "textitute"...I just made that word up...so proud of myself. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 Ask her, one more time. But if she says, "no" or makes up some excuse without suggesting an alternative date, then my previous post still stands - it doesn't look good (even with the additional information you've provided). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author no_clue Posted June 22, 2012 Author Share Posted June 22, 2012 She's not into you. Move on. You're at best her "textitute"...I just made that word up...so proud of myself. Ur so quick to bring a fellow asian down cause she said yes. I asked if she wanted to hang out or go do something next saturday then she said yea what time. I said well figure it out later. Now im trying to figure out should i take her somewhere n where, or have her come over? Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Ur so quick to bring a fellow asian down cause she said yes. I asked if she wanted to hang out or go do something next saturday then she said yea what time. I said well figure it out later. Now im trying to figure out should i take her somewhere n where, or have her come over? First of all, I didn't know you were Asian, and frankly, it doesn't matter. I'd tell the tall white dude to LAUNCH too based on her behavior. Secondly, stop with the texting. I believe your phone has a call feature on it too. But to answer your question, take her somewhere. Anywhere but your parents' house. Link to post Share on other sites
Author no_clue Posted June 22, 2012 Author Share Posted June 22, 2012 Ok she only has texting I know it dont matter what i am, asians gotta stick together tho its not the same for us out here im sure youve noticed sometime or the other. U ever seen Steve Byrne stand up comic man thats some funny but true ****. Yea i guess it would be better than my dads place but its his girlfriend not my mom to and shes a small town girl she thinks the small town we both live in now is better than her old town. While i cant wait to go back to my little city of 150,000. And where should i take her like buffalo wild wings or applebees or what should i ask her what she wants to do or takecharge and be like were gonna go do this Link to post Share on other sites
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